Dating Indonesian Girls
Apr 4th, 2006, in Society, by PatungDating Indonesian women may not be for everyone.
Indonesian women, particularly on the island of Java, are exceptionally beautiful. They tend towards the very feminine side, with lovely skin, are not too tall, and have knock-out smiles. There’s plenty of plus on that side of things.
If wer’e to be honest we have to recognise that many men are interested in a woman who will take care of him, do the housework without complaint, and take care of other matters similarly without much bother. Your average Indonesian girl often fits the bill in this respect, certainly more than your average western woman, the less said about them the better.
On the other hand going out with Indonesian women in a romantic way can have many mysterious pitfalls.
Some women here are clearly only interested in money. Some men are unbothered by this. Others of the female variety, can, once we get to know them very well, come across as practically insane, hysterically emotional, scheming, over-possessive, inclined to, usually fake, attempts at self-harm in order to get their way. As I said, not for the faint-hearted.
There are a few Indonesia dating websites although the area is not nearly as developed as that in nearby Phillipines or Thailand. To begin your online journey on the Indonesian dating scene our very own “Meet” section has many a lady eager for company.
4,898 Comments on “Dating Indonesian Girls”
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Farah says:
@ riniss
yes… only had 10 days for freeeee… thats why if people ask where do i live, i will answer sumatra 🙁
I’ll give you details when i am flying there hehe.. -
lady says:
@ Riniss: Thanks Sist, good you never said like that coz as human we don’t need to judge someone. I believe in this country there’s many people have good experience with bule but they didn’t write it in this site. Will let you know it…
@ Farah: Thanks Farah. Finally eh. Ok, about this guy, after how long time me n him only communicate with internet n phone. One day I tell him to stop our coupling coz I tell him that we will never be together forever and this relation is just waste the time as we know we just different religion and my parent will never agree with this but he never stop and still want marry me and next week after that he come to Indonesia to convert his religion n do circumcision then come back to his country again. Three month after that he meet my parent and tell them he want to marry me, don’t know why my parent just except that but need long time to make them sure about bule. Why I tell about marry by legal way, its coz there’s many people think that Indonesian woman is not marry with bule they just stay together. I know its quite difficult to manage all document for marry with bule but that’s fine as long as its legal n clear. Its not only KUA its need go to Embassy also, so complicate.
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bs says:
@lady
Congratulations with the proposed wedding. Hope you’ll live happily ever after.
Check with the KUA what their specific needs are (what documents, translations, legalisations, etc.) BEFORE you get all the documents. Every KUA seems to have their own policy and if something is “not OK” you might have to pay them to “fix” it. And do note that most embassies need a couple of weeks to process the documents you request. -
Jona says:
@ brian
Sorry that you and I didn’t get a chance to meet up for a beer during your recent visit. Did you make it to Jakarta or only to Bali? Is it really over between you and your Indo girl? Because of New Year’s Eve? Guess she’s still practicing her trade, huh?
My own update? Well, I’m still spending time each week with my lovely billiards girl and every other week with my sweet dancer-turned-student. My Aussie rival for the latter’s attentions (remember Steve aka Robert Redford?) went back home to Australia for the whole month of December, so I had ample time with both of my lady friends last month. December was just a great month for me here in Jakarta. On December 30th, my dancing princess came to visit me at my apartment for several hours with no friend or family member accompanying her. She wanted to show me that she trusted me, so naturally I was on my best behavior. Lots of hugging and kissing and snuggling on the couch as we watched TV together, but I left it at that. She asked if she could come over again only three days later and I was delighted.
Too bad, Steve is back in Jakarta now and lobbying hard to get “his girl” back. I am not sure who has the upper hand at the moment, because I came back from Sumatra this week to find my dancer friend sitting with Steve at a popular Blok M nightclub. Steve had two or three of his male friends with him and actually had his back to “our” girl, so she didn’t look very happy. She saw me and felt terrible, quickly pulling our her hand phone and sending me three text messages of apology. I felt like scolding Steve for ignoring her. I accepted her apology for not letting me know that Steve was back in Jakarta, partly because I felt bad for her after the way that he seemed to be ignoring her.
I remain optimistic that January will end up being another good month for me, dating-wise.
Wish us all good luck in 2010!
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ET says:
One day I tell him to stop our coupling coz I tell him that we will never be together forever and this relation is just waste the time as we know we just different religion and my parent will never agree with this but he never stop and still want marry me and next week after that he come to Indonesia to convert his religion n do circumcision then come back to his country again.
Isn’t it amazing how easily bule men can be cajoled into converting to islam, not because of conviction but just to get the woman they want and even are prepared to undergo physical mutilation for this.
It is called dakwah (proselytizing) by the pussy.
I just wonder if Indonesian men from different faiths who would like to marry a muslimah take it also so light-heartedly.
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Swagman says:
Well said ET!
– Proselytism by the Indo female (incl family)
– Opportunism by the buleIf there is a God then I wonder what He/She thinks of all this hypocrisy.
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@ Jona
Blok M nightclub eh? Well my humble suggestion to get her attention would be to jump in and buy her her a drink and don’t forget to pay the freight man!
Perhaps even take her shopping … lol
She will be yours 🙂
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Ps. Take her to somewhere a little classier than Blok M …. geez
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deta says:
– Proselytism by the Indo female (incl family)
– Opportunism by the buleI don’t know which one is more hypocrite than another. The bule man could’ve just left and said goodbye if he wanted to instead of being proselytized by choice.
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@ deta
Yes, I do remember … never at fault! Splitting hairs now …
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I am splitting hairs only when something gets in my hair…..
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The bule man could’ve just left and said goodbye if he wanted to instead of being proselytized by choice.
The bule men have become wussies, pussy-wussies so to say. Because in the minds of many westerners this conversion due to religion-related social pressure is merely a formality, which it isn’t for Indonesians. Hence the ease by which the bule gives in to this emotional blackmail. For Indonesians however, especially the muslims, there is an important power-factor in the equation, namely the fear of being disowned and ostracized by their families and communities, especially when the marriage doesn’t turn out well.
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Something also must be said about a situation where the girl actually exits a relationship on religious grounds and then, when the guy converts to Islam, accepts him as her husband. WOW that must be true love!
I can’t help wondering if any thought at all (on both sides) went into the million other things that contribute to a long happy life together. It’s ok though we will find someone to blame, won’t we?
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Something also must be said about a situation where the girl actually exits a relationship on religious grounds and then, when the guy converts to Islam, accepts him as her husband.
Yes, like this “lady” above who wrote
One day I tell him to stop our coupling coz I tell him that we will never be together forever and this relation is just waste the time as we know we just different religion and my parent will never agree with this
Waste of time… this is how they think about it.
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And he gets his dick mutilated … sounds like they deserve each other.
Happy days!
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Good boy. Now we can leave them alone and live our own life.
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But that’s no fun 😛
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shawty says:
ariana
Nah… my experience is indo guys who having a good salary are more generous than expat (read_bule).That is really correct !
last saturday I even had to pay my expat mate in order to got in to the club
cos his friends was already inside the club, since he went to toilet first before enter the club..
he said he will refund the money but never happen..
so basicly he is lying
and just depend on his other friends (which is another expats) for free ride
what a culture ! (guess which european culture it is) laugh -
@ shawty
Find new mates mate!
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he said he will refund the money but never happen..
At least he must have learned something here. Never lend money because it means you don’t need it.
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At least he must have learned something here
shawty is a girl…
guess u arent American -
Yes thank God! (only joking)
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guess u arent American
Why? Do I look like one?
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ariana says:
@ shawty
Horrible guys!!!
@ ET and swagman
Aside from this converting issue, you should find the medical benefits from what you so called it physical mutilation
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@ Doctor ariana
It would be good if it was performed for medical reasons. At least you would have some level of medical debate and review available. Unfortunately, that is not the case … it is done for religious reasons and it is not negotiable.
You call it “so called mutilation”? It is not mutilation?
What is your preference for female circumcision … Type I, II, III or IV?
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Aside from this converting issue, you should find the medical benefits from what you so called it physical mutilation
What medical benefits? I haven’t been mutilated and in my entire life I never suffered any medical condition that could be related to it. My tools are in prime condition and I never got any complaints about their functionality.
If you have arguments at least try to come up with real ones instead of religiously inspired bogus. -
Adam says:
OMG OMG OMG! I am talking with a beautiful 39 y/o lady from near Jakarta! Wish me luck guys and girls! 🙂
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I can feel a proselytization coming on … lol
Good luck mate!
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@ ET
What is the medical benefits of circumcised? Its just a click away and it has nothing to do with religion.
If someone converted to muslim for any reasons hurting you i dont think here is a right forum to throw you anger. Its not my problem anyway. What i meant is he must have learned and aware before he get it done.
@ swagman
What is your preference for female circumcision … Type I, II, III or IV?
None. What yours?
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