Dating Indonesian Girls
Apr 4th, 2006, in Society, by PatungDating Indonesian women may not be for everyone.
Indonesian women, particularly on the island of Java, are exceptionally beautiful. They tend towards the very feminine side, with lovely skin, are not too tall, and have knock-out smiles. There’s plenty of plus on that side of things.
If wer’e to be honest we have to recognise that many men are interested in a woman who will take care of him, do the housework without complaint, and take care of other matters similarly without much bother. Your average Indonesian girl often fits the bill in this respect, certainly more than your average western woman, the less said about them the better.
On the other hand going out with Indonesian women in a romantic way can have many mysterious pitfalls.
Some women here are clearly only interested in money. Some men are unbothered by this. Others of the female variety, can, once we get to know them very well, come across as practically insane, hysterically emotional, scheming, over-possessive, inclined to, usually fake, attempts at self-harm in order to get their way. As I said, not for the faint-hearted.
There are a few Indonesia dating websites although the area is not nearly as developed as that in nearby Phillipines or Thailand. To begin your online journey on the Indonesian dating scene our very own “Meet” section has many a lady eager for company.
4,898 Comments on “Dating Indonesian Girls”
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rifraf says:
All is well said and done.
But the fact of the matter is, I am sure people will agree, that1. Dating an Indonesian girl is a difficult thing compared to other cultures basically because of the complicated culture, still trying to ape the west but not letting go of their basic stuff and everything. Muddleheads.
2. Dating an indonesian girl is AMAZING. Such beautiful women, such soft voices, such amazing body….oooh!!!
3. Most of us would like to date an Indonesian women (who’s not a whore) rather than date an Indonesian whore.
Am sure spending a few bucks here and there for your girlfriend is not such a bad thing when you can get all the sex that you want from her, you can have all the blows you want.
Instead of spending money on a whore who would go to the next highest bidder or is humping someone else if you get late coming to the bar for your orange juice.
4. Sex and massages come naturally to Indonesian women. And they ARE GOOD AT IT. -
brian astaga says:
and some of them are very horny 🙂
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Of course….extremely horny is what I would say.
And they know how to keep their men happy…..I mean satisfied.
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Jona says:
@Anthony:
Nice to hear from you after a long time! Thanks for describing your long-distance relationship in your latest post. Hope she waits for you until May. Are you sure that you can’t visit her sooner? A lot can happen between now and May, so I worry for you.
@Brian, Peet, Rifraf and all:
Last week, my project ended and I left Indonesia to return to New York. I am trying for a new assignment in Indonesia but I may end up somewhere else next. It was very hard for me to leave two very lovely friends behind, my classy billiards girl and my adorable little dancer. I managed to spend time with both of them in the hours leading up to my departure: one last game of billiards with my score girl on the day of my flight, and one last round of Bintang and OJ with my sweet dancer the night before my flight (alas, no dancing due to Ramadan). I left feeling a bit empty because I ended up with just a hug and kiss on the cheek from each one. No tears from my Barbie doll dancer, just a request to remember her on Eid-ul-Fitr (Sept 21), but my billiards girl teared up and needed to pick up some tissue to finish her farewell talk with me. So, I think you can guess which one is keeping contact with me now by SMS.
It is quite a shock to my system to be pulled out of those two relationships at such an enjoyable time and to find myself getting over jet lag back home in the eastern U.S.
My rival Steve (a.k.a. Mr. Redford) has the “proximity” advantage now with our sweet dancer, so I may need to give up on that romance. I will concentrate instead on trying to keep a long-distance relationship going with my sexy billiards girl, as Anthony seems to be doing fairly successfully with his girl.
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JONA
that is not the soap opera/happy ending that I was expecting :(. Plenty more fish in the sea maybe not as good as indo women though 🙂my girl is making my life very interesting for me. since I left bali in august we send sms to each other and every night she asks me to coll her which I like, we talk for hour + into the early hours of the morning, or she will coll me but is bit expensive for her. She has stopped the prostitution work she tells me and I dont have any reasons to doubt her at all! if she still is, she must be a dahm good multi-tasker! ( and I hear people thinking bullshit she stopped ). Yesterday I booked tickets to bali with a mate for late november. She wants to drive to java with me to see her family/ house and all that which should be good, apparantly only small place in east java she is a bit shy or something she tells me ahahah, its funny though when she says that I am thinking the same thing about myself. romantis ending or not who knows f*ck I have only met her 1 time!!!!
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Febri says:
ok expat guys, LISTEN UP
There are THREE types of indonesian girls
1. The religious type
2. The ‘oh mai gawd a bule!’ type
3. The rich kid kind that wouldnt even bother look at you if you dont dress, speak, act, and spend well
It’s safe to say that the no: 1 type will slap you on teh right cheek and demand to slap your left if you even gave them the hints of wanting to have a quickie with them. Or drag you off to their ‘kiai’ to be nutered and use your bones for rawon. And dont get me started on their parents. They have keris; and it’s not used for decoration.
The No:2 type is usaly the type that will act nonchalant if a bule pass by, but when you talk to them they would spaz and giggle like a fangirl and raise up their supper tiny cheap skirts that they bought in mangga dua. This type is an easy target, but they tend to turn obsessive, possessive, and a bit nutso in teh end. My advice, dont let them know your phone number; becasue they will, THEY WILL somehow know where you live and stalk you for th rest of your stay in the most awesome country in the world, demanding you to marry them
The No:3 type is a new breed. They HAVE travel the world and seen enough bule’s in their lifetime. They dont buy anything less than 500,000 IDR. They hate seeing bules in malls walking around in nothing but a pair of sandals, shorts, and wife beater, usually shout ‘BULE GA MUTU’ at you if you annoyed them by existing. They dont drink beer, they drink merlot. They expect their boyfriend to pay all their expenses when they are together; food, gas, salon, spa, birthday present, hotel bills. They dont like ugly people, yes bule’s that includes you too. They probably speak your language because those papered little asian chihuahua speaks English (for sure), German, France, and Protugeese. Their daddys owns more than what you could ever earn in your lifetime. and if you somehow got to date one and broke their hearts, Girl type no:3 have bodyguards and little maltese dogs that bite like a german sheperd. And daddy’s little visit to your house makes the movie SAW look like teletubies.
girl type no: 3 is usually the one you would wanna be friend with. Because the average bule gone bamboo cant handle them. Hey their perfect husband is gerad butler!
In conclusion: Indonesian Girls are mostly like your average western girl. Only they have a higher family and moral value than you. And just and advice; girl type no:3 is usally more successful than you. So if your ego is easily bruised, get a cat.
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Rob says:
@ Febri
And you would be type?
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Aries says:
wannabe type 3 I reckon….lol….
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FEBRI
are you man or women?? -
parvita says:
@Febri, you forgot the 4th kind: the not religious, doesn’t care if a man is bule’ or not, and earn enough money themselves to buy what they want and travel where they want to, that they don’t really need a man to support them. This type has a motto: men is luxury, not a necessity.
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Oigal says:
Febri’s been on the betul nut again.. 🙂
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Its another type of girl or maybe just a variant….
similar to No.3 but
– is inquisitive about men and
– goes from bed to bed finding the right guy
– can spend more that anyone
– can have mercedez, bmw given by her dad
– has the capability of getting any guy she wants.
– Is easily confused and delves into promiscuity to a certain extent in the hope of finding the right guy.
– Is religious in front of her family.
– Does everything that the religion restrict her to do….when she is away from her family.
– has a very nice social circle (comprising of rich guys and girls)
– of course has many expat “friends”. -
Febri’s been on the betul nut again..
does that nut send people abit crezy?
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gek_anna says:
hi febri, bule chaser type 2 is me lol, yeah its not good being bule chaser type2 cuz most of bule know how to get advantage from this kind of girl, they not even need to open their wallet to get some fun if they know how to play the card, hope you lucky Brian, cuz I’ve been heard too many sad story about loving a prostitute (i’ve ever hang out with some girls in bounty, paddys and nearly all clubs along legian and seminyak, talk a lot with them not many girls are honest) but some of them are good. hope ur Gf is the good one.
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GEK_ANNA
Ya I hope she is too. I’m not sending her any money or pulsa ‘yet’ though so I dont have any reason to think she isnt honest or good girl. I speak to her family brother sister kids and speak to her all diff times of the day . One could say we are a bit possessive with each other but both thinking and want the same things with each other. both admittedly litle bit crezy juga 🙂
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indonesia really is a place of extreme highs and extreme lows,
one of the most beautiful places in the world. beautiful interesting people. cantik women
however, so many natural disaster, poverty, coruption, earthquakes all the time is not good
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cintya says:
Halo All, I am an indonesian women and I like bules very2 much. They have bigger penis compared to asians “generally”!!!!!!!!!!!
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Farah says:
There you go all… Cintya have big love for you all !
No need for money or pulsa, just give her your big thing hehehehe…. she sound fairly cheap !!
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Monty says:
I worked on HIV/AIDS and STD and multi drug resistant TB for 35 years in New York, USA. Any body care to have advice?
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Ade says:
Hi all,
I am very new to this site. I am very overwhelmed by all the stories…I couldn’t tell if these stories are real or not. But I would like to share mine because it’s really happening in my life. I met my husband 18 years ago in Indonesia when I was a student at the best university in Indonesia and he was doing a research expedition in Eastern part of Indonesia. Now, we have two georgeus and bright children and we live in the states. He is British and work for non profit organization in conservation.
I have never dated any bules before him. To me, my love to him is a true love…not about money at alll….I love him because he has a great heart, a lot of patients, witty, and truly (still) believe that he is a good person. Last year I found out that he has a girlfriend and been sleeping with her for around two years…so, divorce is arrising on the marriage surface…but I realized that we have no money to pay the lawyer at alllll…..most of our bank accounts are vanished…
I know it’s aboring story but my point is, i have never think about money until now….when (after) he used them all for a Thai girl he met in the street of Bangkok…..So, girls like that is not only exist in Indonesia….And Harry…If you try to sort out and find out where your anger towards Indonesian girl came from (it’s not because of your physique…honestly!), you will feel lighter…trust me…I am a well educated woman, very successful designer in New York but yet I stumble upon an idiotic middle life crisis problem from my man…my very well educated man…So, here I am sitting on my desk reading endless arguements about who’s good who’s
bad….My kids and I stranded in mid-air of life….wishing to be able to touch down on Indonesia’s land… but couldn’t…..is it because of a beautiful true love?….or because of simple stupidity of a girl who believed in “prince charming” story (18 yeaars ago)?….or stupidity of a horny man who dropped his pants as soon as he saw an oppurtunity in Bangkok’s night life?…….I just would like to share this story…because it is really happening to me…… -
Dear Ade,
You need to ask yourself, when was it he fell out of love with you? and perhaps why?
Is the realtionship worh saving – try and be objective.
When you say your love has never been about money, is that because you had money when you were single and living in Indonesia. So when you married you didn’t “upsize” your life, or, is it that you were both broke as I was with my partner and we built a life together. If you did infact build a life together, this is a most unfortunate situation and I can’t understand how your husband had control over the finances for 18yrs, perplexing.
If you are, as you say a successful designer, I would start to look after your own finances a little better and perhaps seek marriage counselling as chances are he’s going through a mid life crisis and will burn many more dollars, supporting her AND most likely her family –
Do you want this man in your life?
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Peet says:
Hi Ade,
this happens the world over, sad to hear it happened this way to you but forget about the counseling. Not worth it.
Go on with your life and find someone honest whom you can depend on. And indeed better start looking after your own finances.
Indeed a lot of horror stories on this sight (luckily I did not read it before I came to Indonesia or I might have changed my mind)
The money thing is a choice you make, it’s the same in Spain, Holland or the USA, they just bring it differently when you are taken to the cleaners.
I really love Indonesia, the people, the food etc. compared to a lot of counties I have been to. So far two years and I do not regret a minute of it.
I wish I could be there more often as I have to work world wide. My wife does not want to leave Indonesia (just for holidays) so it works out fine for us both.
Would be nice if they did not throw everything on the street and take better care of the garbage. -
@PATONG
that video on page 1 :):):):)@ADE
after 18 years, poor move by him and he will regret it for shore ! -
@ MONTY
I worked on HIV/AIDS and STD and multi drug resistant TB for 35 years in New York, USA. Any body care to have advice?
NO MONTY NO
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Is Indonesian girl actively participate in foreplay like western women or just lie down there in bed and think that’s the men job? Do they really move their lower abdomen/waist area to get orgasom?
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lia says:
Hmmmm I’m curious being in long term relationship with ‘bule’… Anyone in jakarta? Maybe we can meet each other.. Thanks.
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i like to play with bules toys hi hi hi hi ~ I also would like long term relationship with bule 🙂
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Pushtuma Butt says:
Peees be rained upon you from above, and may your camel never get to your wet hole before you get there:
I am thinking hard here. There are verily more than three girls. There is the “I look for big manhood” girl, and the “I look for fun-making man girl” for starting. One might be better with horse, and other better with comedy show DVD.
But I am finding number 3 everywhere. I am seeing this girl order sato sato from warung in Champs Elisees, sticking her hand in the food pot in King Gerorge V hotel, paying the Rp2000 bribe to the gendarme and telling the world how good her home is but she not living there.
In the mountain we have saying. You can take the Pashtu off the but he still a Pashtu in da valley.
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What does Pashtu stand for? village people?
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