Dating Indonesian Girls
Apr 4th, 2006, in Society, by PatungDating Indonesian women may not be for everyone.
Indonesian women, particularly on the island of Java, are exceptionally beautiful. They tend towards the very feminine side, with lovely skin, are not too tall, and have knock-out smiles. There’s plenty of plus on that side of things.
If wer’e to be honest we have to recognise that many men are interested in a woman who will take care of him, do the housework without complaint, and take care of other matters similarly without much bother. Your average Indonesian girl often fits the bill in this respect, certainly more than your average western woman, the less said about them the better.
On the other hand going out with Indonesian women in a romantic way can have many mysterious pitfalls.
Some women here are clearly only interested in money. Some men are unbothered by this. Others of the female variety, can, once we get to know them very well, come across as practically insane, hysterically emotional, scheming, over-possessive, inclined to, usually fake, attempts at self-harm in order to get their way. As I said, not for the faint-hearted.
There are a few Indonesia dating websites although the area is not nearly as developed as that in nearby Phillipines or Thailand. To begin your online journey on the Indonesian dating scene our very own “Meet” section has many a lady eager for company.
4,898 Comments on “Dating Indonesian Girls”
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Karl says:
My wife is coming home now on Wednesday…so happy.
After that it is back to Sweden, then back home to Jakarta selatanKarl
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Noni says:
Love .. Men bule always make happy ….;)
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haha yes me too, .. 😉 my bule fraternity brothers at a bachelor party in düsseldorf drinking away 260 euro in 2 days, bule make me love happy money menikah cincin emas et cetera meanwhile ibu saya is rightfully nodding her head..
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indeed, many ‘indonesians’ in your own bule country. and let’s not forget among them a lot of adopted indonesians in belanda or elsewhere. they have the look of an indonesian and the education and money of the bule. what does an indonesian girl wants more? or what does a bule man wants more? it’s a win-win situation, and with a little luck your own piece of indonesian head to toe also still has family back on java for the real kampung or desa experience. i say: go for it white men! and i say: go for it you indonesian golddiggin’ girls. anak adopsi it’s the best you can get!
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venna says:
Bules with thick pockets, adopted indonesians, indonesians with international education & salary, and local rich people are equally attractive to gold diggers. Sugar attracts ants. I agree, it’s win-win solution. The men work hard to make money & use it, and the girls are trained well since the beginning. May the best get the best. What you want more from your girls if the society taught them to take shortcut? Expecting innocent-no-matre-purely on the name of love?
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haha, fair enough, and venna do you think that maybe the adopted indonesians when visiting indonesia are sometimes more naive and innocent than the indonesians who were raised in indonesia? because their primary necessities of life are fulfilled and they haven’t been taught to take the shortcut, so they maybe believe more in the romantic ideal of love? by the way how’s life venna? ciao!
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Adopted indonesians can’t be naive. They’re actually more dangerous! Even they’re raised in foreign countries, it’s highly possible they have imprinted memory in their unconscious mind that ring their alarm immediately in one second what kind of indonesian girls in front of them. Probably this is why they’re relatively immune from ants attack.
Life is good, lcvs. Just took a break and doing cease-fire at home after I stepped on tiger’s tail last week. That’s when my hubby caught me clicked IM too often and talked about Indonesia more than usual, he gave me the look “what’s going on here? you want to go back to indonesia? fine, but kid will stay with me.”
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michael k says:
I’ve been married to my Indonesian wife for 9 years…(javanese). We have a 6 year old son.
Yes I totally agree..they are extremely hard work..What you call very high maintenance indeed. She has extreme mood strings taintrums where she bites kicks and refuses to let me go to work until she gets her way. everything which can be bad is bad,,yes they are very femine eligant great lovers..never bad in bed…and very higenically clean…if you know what i mean guys..
money…what of money..they have no comprehention of money…very materialistic…and selfish..oh and guys remember they are mostly muslim..and their families will insist you marry in their home town. However just like Mick Jagger did when he married Jerry Hall in Bali, knew it was a useless piece of paper…outside Indonesia…you will not be actually legally married here in the UK. check it out if you do not believe me…ok We married here (UK)on fiancee visa..after much discussion..and they will expect you to change your religion ..hmmmm? why? i asked them…i didnt???
I am still married, yet its the hardest thing ive ever done..ive been bitten punched…stabbed and yet i still love her and she loves me..she is cute even at 34…has still a great figure..40kgs 1.55m i have a hansome young son..every girl his age loves him…
but before you marry indo girl..do your home work..dont be in hurry and now visa laws are going to change ..be careful..UK goverment will restrict you..that is a fact…they will not agree but …so remember its very difficult for you to live there unless u have 50,000 us d in cash …they wont even touch you…so make sure your head rules your heart.. anyone want to ask me any advice pls feel free…
michael k
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This thread starts to sound like familiar conversation I have whenever I walk my dogs to a park:
Stranger: Ay, que lindos son tus perros (Ay, such a beautiful dogs you have). De que raza son? (what’s the race?).
Me: Gracias. Son galgos (Thanks. They’re greyhounds).
Stranger: Ah, galgos? Son cachorros, verdad? (oh, greyhound? they’re puppies, right?)
Me: No. Tienen 4 años. Son galgos italianos. Asi son de pequeños. (Nope, they are 4 years old. They’re iggies. They’re that small).
Stranger: Oh…. Ay, que cariñosos son, eh? (Oh…, wow, they’re so tenders).
Me: Sii…, son muy tranquilos. Casi no ladran. (Yes,… they’re very quiet. They almost don’t bark).
Etc etc…..
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riniss says:
To diego : be careful of russian scammers.easy to find at dating website.
*btw,absolutely they prettier than indo gals.:p -
geo says:
well!! nice toping! indonesian girls rules!!! indogirls rocks!!! i have being in indonesia few times,visiting of course! indonesian people are very respectful and friendly ,i live in the u.s.a california,and i,m looking fordward to met a nice single lady,5.0 ft tall to 5.5 ft tall 30 -37 yrs old, no drink or smoke, and of course real , no fake please,education no important,just somebody sincere,and good harted,tnxs please send me an email if interested on stablishing a friend relationship, that it may finish in holy marry,ciao, seeyou soon.
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may it finish in a holy barbecue.. 😉 peace y’all salam dari belanda, within a bulan from now i will be pulang ya …
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brian A says:
hello 🙂
hello 🙂
…I have just returned from Java and Bali…
WHICH CONFIRMED TWO THINGS FOR ME… yes she( my indo gf ) is pregnant and showing a bit and yes she has been truthful to me.In Java, we got married* well we performed a nikah siri without actually signing the papers, Im still confused a little bit. But here’s the story, we went to see the Muslim priest ..me, her and her older brother. He said I could not convert to muslim because should have taken some papers from Oz, but he would marry us without signing the paper ( and I think her other 100 family from places over 10 hour by train away who came to her house for the marriage* believe it was all legit )
anyway to cut the story short on the night of the marriage, we went to the hotel and got dressed, then went to her house which had been completely emptied and the perimeter was full of men ( 30 -40bout ) who I had to shake hands with and sit down with for a minitue or so. Then about 10 seconds after leaving the men they started praying very loudly.
Then a couple of her older brothers, one sister, a daughter and myself went to the mosque for about 30 minutes where the Imam(or priest?) held the ceremony which was great, basically saying we love each other, I had to repeat some words after him, and some prayers where we all replied ‘amin’ .
after that returning to the house where all the men had left and we had a meal with the Imam. So it was a great experience, and will get married to her in Oz within the next few months * a REAL marriage * but only small.
people of Java were this time, much more welcoming or easy to understand and perhaps I was more prepard of what to expect and how to deal with people who cannot understand a word of english or inggiris. The men generally smoking and laughing, and the women in the kitchen cooking or cleaning for the duration of the time … very nice people, If you have the right attitude (easy-going/ relaxed/ and fun,happy and joki but still with a little bit of respect for them..!)
my Javanese gf/wife … Firstly, sexy sexy girl. When she is walking around the kampung I was just thinking she was an absolute hottie!
secondly, she enjoys to be hygenic and looking good.
but its not so much a problem for me now because she is pregnant, but she has no willingness or desire or motivation to look for a job, because I am supporting her. This may have something to do with her previous prostituion job. 🙁We do love each other and its not a usual relationship me 21 and her 33 and very2 hard being apart from each other. deep down I believe that she is more important to me compared to what I am to her, but perhaps it is vice verser.
* and her breasts are now about twice as big, happy days boys ( wait for the female reply comment to this )
wassalam,
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hahahahaha, man man, first of all congratulations! but be careful. what a stories on this website, pregnant, married, ex-prostitute, oz, indonesia, life in full.
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you sounds grumpy lately, lcvs.
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ET says:
I had to repeat some words after him
I bet it was something like
Asyhadu An-Laa Ilâha Illallâh wa Asyhadu Anna Muhammadar Rasulullâh
My second bet is that they didn’t translate it in a language you understand.
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yes venna, my apologies, maybe i’m a bit cynical lately. but i have to recognize that all evolution whether it is progress or process or devaluation is good, my deeply javanese fatalistic believe 🙂
peace y’all, and actually today i have to attend a western bule wedding in amsterdam. a lawyer and a banker of 30 and 28 years old and next month i will have my little brown arse moved to a javanese wedding in a remote desa di jawa timur. life in full 😉
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Swagman says:
its not a usual relationship me 21 and her 33
Ah! to be young ….
Congratulations Brian … may Allah bless you with many more such experiences 🙂
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shawty says:
thinking where to find a guy like Brian..should I go to Bali and hit the bar every night and wishing to find random young holiday guy that in the end kind of responsible and yeah the woman no need to work lol
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Peet says:
Brian,
congrats with this daring step but if you don’t try it you will never know the outcome.
Good luck with the both of you, better if she get a job after the baby is settled in as most woman get bored doing nothing. Last thing you want to have that they spend all their time in shopping malls. -
oh my god Brian my old ozzy…get your grains out your genicals..and think man..you even answered all your own worries
1 whore
2. pregnant
3. doesnt want to work
4. your not actually married
5. she will trust me get very bad tempered..80% of them are natural bad tempred..yes yes i know guys you will say all women..are,,but guys they are tempermental..they get fat and loose all purpose in life after marriage and pregnancy…they actually not good at motherhood..mine wouldnt go near my sons nappy..gagged and jundered down the loo everytime…lolso brian…it wont be like a the vacation you had mate..u best start waking up…or you gonna get a surprise,,,,hope not…ive got lots of oxxy mates who married indo girls..and nearly all have regretted it…one has gone back to bali 3 times yes married…he is 70 now..weard bastard….he treats them like dirt…maids…he hasnt got a high opinion of women..anyway.
well i guess if you in love..you made your bed ..best lay in it..its if she will with you..always..mine wont any more….:( if i give her money..promise of..she f88ks me like a whore…honest..no money ..not interested..ok
good luck
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Michael, can you pls fill this questionnaire?
http://shrink4men.wordpress.com/2009/01/12/crazy-bitch-quiz/
If you say yes to everything, yayy…. good luck. It sucks to be you.Where did you meet your wife? If you met her at the wrong place, big chance you got trouble (I don’t mean to generalize, though). Any normal women (anywhere in the world!) won’t do like what your wife does to you, except you allow them to do that. Indonesian women normally won’t do that too since culturally we are taught to be submissive to men. But, unless you give them a chance to cross the line or you forget the way how to take the control over, then yes, you’ll be doomed. Surprising though to see you able to stay with her for 9 years. What? you afraid to divorce her?
I don’t know how many times this thread posting this information: moslems have different rules in marriage, and so do other people who have different faiths. It is either you leave it or accept it. Or find a braver girl. Don’t want to be converted? then don’t deal with moslem girls. Simple.
Girls don’t want to work and guys are unhappy because of that? What’s wrong with you, guys? Where’s all bulls**** about dreams as main/solo bread-winners? Jeez…..
Families? Married in their hometown? What kind of culture differences you not understand? Family is a central thing in Indonesia, and also in Asia. We are not raised like most western people. What’s wrong with married at their hometown, though?
Money problems? Like sending money to parents stuff? Or money to throw away at malls? I gave money to my parents since the first time I got job, not because they asked me but because I feel it’s my responsibility. To whom else they get support when they’re getting older and healthcare cost a lot? We’re not as advanced as other developed countries yet, where people get good healthcare support and good access to it. If you don’t want it, tell your wives/gfs that they have to work to earn money for supporting their parents/families. Say it clearly since the beginning that you don’t want to deal with that at all. Make it as prenuptial agreement if needed. If she leaves you instantly, then good, you are free from moneysuckers just like you hope.
Indonesian women are not good at motherhood? Yeah, that’s why lots of western men come here to find good wives, huh?
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haha, straightforward venna. scoring points. however just one thing, indonesian women are culturally taught to be submissive to men you said. i won’t doubt that, although you see, roman literature, and probably also many more, learns us that despite women are taught to be submissive, and even more in those societies people had slaves (kinda like saudi-arabia haha), still any of the cultural-socially ‘oppressed’ or ‘enslaved’ could turn the odds in favour of them due to skilfull people’s management strategies.. and javanese women are certainly good in that, even without certified education 😉 i love my people ! (in any case, i mean this is not a license to socio-economically and religious oppress or enslave people !! not at all !!)
and yes brain a’s marriage story proves all but one thing, when you are not socio-economically equal to eachother, something’s gotta give in the name of love 😉
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mercy says:
poor michael 😀
i wish you’ll still have a happy life together when the “love” is overbtw, i think indonesian woman is a good mother!
itz not bcoz i’m also indonesian
but itz bcoz my mother raise me well 🙂 -
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Nay says:
This may have something to do with her previous prostituion job.
Holy heck. Sorry, I’m going to have to call you out on this. I don’t care if you hate me for it.
Here you are prepared go all religious for a woman who won’t even stick to hers… or at least, she’s prepared to go from small time prostitution to the big time…. Exclusivity for life! You might have noble intentions, but I can tell you, you *really* don’t want to play the role of “Captain Save-a-ho”. Once a prostitute, always a prostitute. Ready for that?
And her family is Javanese. I hear the Javanese are famous for “sharing is caring”, especially when the one with the most money is doing ALL the sharing and caring… 😉
Mate, you’re only 21. You *had* your whole 20s ahead of you to play around, get your wild oats out of your system, and find out what you really want. Now you’ve tied yourself down! To me, honestly, this is crazy.
…buuuut, then again, I am not married, and I do not have children…. so what do I know anyway? I haven’t been where you’re going. Besides… every good story starts with a really bad decision!
Best of luck! You’ll need it!
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harry says:
Indonesian girls surely like the tall guys. This is why they like Dutch guys. Remembering the history between dutch and INdonesian this would be surprising but it has to do with the height of the guys.
History has largely been forgotten by the younger generation. But if you are a bule and you are not tall you are in for a lot of rejection and disappointment
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Harry, wow, almost four years later, and you’re still going on about the tall vs short guy thing. 🙂
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