Dating Indonesian Girls
Apr 4th, 2006, in Society, by PatungDating Indonesian women may not be for everyone.
Indonesian women, particularly on the island of Java, are exceptionally beautiful. They tend towards the very feminine side, with lovely skin, are not too tall, and have knock-out smiles. There’s plenty of plus on that side of things.
If wer’e to be honest we have to recognise that many men are interested in a woman who will take care of him, do the housework without complaint, and take care of other matters similarly without much bother. Your average Indonesian girl often fits the bill in this respect, certainly more than your average western woman, the less said about them the better.
On the other hand going out with Indonesian women in a romantic way can have many mysterious pitfalls.
Some women here are clearly only interested in money. Some men are unbothered by this. Others of the female variety, can, once we get to know them very well, come across as practically insane, hysterically emotional, scheming, over-possessive, inclined to, usually fake, attempts at self-harm in order to get their way. As I said, not for the faint-hearted.
There are a few Indonesia dating websites although the area is not nearly as developed as that in nearby Phillipines or Thailand. To begin your online journey on the Indonesian dating scene our very own “Meet” section has many a lady eager for company.
4,898 Comments on “Dating Indonesian Girls”
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ET says:
@ Nay
What women want are “Resources and Commitment”.
What women want is attention and some of them will say or do anything to get it. Like trolling in public forums. But when you ask a pertinent question they suddenly go quiet.
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sobhana says:
i can’t shake the feeling that ET demands an answer from me in particular. i’m sorry i didn’t mean to leave you hanging. but yea so greatest desires would encompass the kind of satisfying love in return for the oh-so giving nature of a whole-hearted woman 😉
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Nay says:
@ET
Yep,… the goal of men is to have as many sex partners as possible, whereas it is the goal of women to win as many men’s hearts as possible. In both cases, once the goal is achieved, the partner can then be discarded. In many ways, this explains why women withold sex, and men aren’t too open to saying “I love you”.
The goals are different because every man wants to spread his “seed” as much as possible, whereas a woman has to be picky with men to ensure that the baby that she carries for 9 months is likely to be genetically fit… so she widens her pool of possible candidates and picks a few from that who she thinks are the best.
Hey, I didn’t write the rule book here. This is just what I know from reading, and trying to get a handle on the subject. It seems to hold up in my personal experience as well.
You’re right about the “attention whoring”. I see it all the time.
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but yea so greatest desires would encompass the kind of satisfying love in return for the oh-so giving nature of a whole-hearted woman
Satisfying love? Kinda vague. Leaves a lot of options. I had hoped to learn something more tangible and specific.
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mellie says:
Well, I’m an Indo girl and had dated foreigner but it wasn’t working out. I found out he was cheating on me. I dumped him, coz he was not deserved to be loved.
I work for international company here in Jakarta and I far from what they say: gold diggers, cheap girl,working in the bar… etc….
I always value difference culture and I interest to have difference man than others, coz it was special. But now i realize that special not just means in appearance but more into personalities. glad that my concious come early.
“For Whatever is describe can be misunderstood and whatever is writen can be erased, save hat spoken by the true heart and written in the soul, this is ever present and ever true”
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riniss says:
Brian A:
Hahahahahaha….I didnt notice his eyes closed on that pic.
At least he tried,brian.*advertised him self*
Good luck mr.Sethur..! -
yeah right on mellie!
and i also think you’re more a man if you can date high educated women from all over the world, it shows you can deal with the real stuff. let’s boast for a moment: i keep good contact with a stewardess from hong kong, an architect from brazil living in barcelona, a turkish girl who works in the museum for contemporary art in istanbul, a french stwewardess, a javanese girl who works in the rumah sakit as midwife, and of course a belanda girl who has a ma degree in law and one in art and travels the world also.
sexdiggers or goldtourists or whatsoever, personality is what counts more
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bs says:
since when is a stewardess an educated woman?
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haha, maybe not the ones from garuda, lion air, batavia air or the surabayan air service (?), rather i meant the ones from the 5 star airline companies rated by skytrax..
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oh geez, i really prefered not to be blunt about this on public forums such as, but yea really do i need to spell it out for you ET: S-I-Z-E M-A-T-T-E-R-S! and all that personality stuff too!!
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size matters for the indonesian women, i agree on that, maksudnya, according to a lot of javanese and balinese girls i have the body of the bule, but the appearance of a javanese. because i have eaten so much keju in my life, they told me, i am more bule like with my 1.82m, or isn’t that the size you meant sobhana? 😉
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BrotherMouzone says:
ET: S-I-Z-E M-A-T-T-E-R-S!
i am more bule like with my 1.82m
I say old chap, 1.82 metres is a little excessive, even for young Sobhana, surely? What did they put in your Keju?
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do i need to spell it out for you ET: S-I-Z-E M-A-T-T-E-R-S! and all that personality stuff too!!
Thank you for spelling it out to me, sobhana. At least now I have something to ‘hold on to’.
btw, your Italian bf, does he also sing while he cooks?
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haha turning the topic into: dating italian boys
.. so is he from the north, or from the south? which part of the north or south? were his grandparents left wing partizans or right wing fascists, dimmi tutto per favore! il tuo amico come uno grande toro?
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lol yea sure he sings. so i guess he’s not 100% Italian, he’s an American-born Italian. but still, he knows the art of cooking and whatever those Italian descendants are good at.
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aha that’s making it a different story now! then his ancestors must be from the rural south regions, everything beneath rome, because in the beginning of the 20th century most of them emigrated to the united states, bella!
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@lcvs
What? Do you really think the KLM or BA stewardesses all have a degree? They’re just flying waitresses, they are not “educated women”.
And to be honest, the stewardesses on the Asian airlines behave way better than the Western ones. They don’t go smashing pans in the middle of the night and at least fit through the aisle.
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haha, no, i meant the airline companies which skytrax rated with 5 stars. so that’s cathay pacific from HK! KLM and BA no way! even though i can communicate fluently with the KLM girls, in europe i rather prefer Lufthansa or Swiss Air.. yeah, at some degree they are indeed flying waitresses, but to a certain degree far still more educated than their counterparts on the ground. anyway, the irrelevant point i’d like to make is that most of the bulmen who are chasing the local indonesian girls probably never could date a stewardess from their homecountry, and moreover also never could date the even more educated women such as lawyers, doctors, academics, et cetera. in the netherlands however you need to have the second highest level at highschool to go to stewardess school. when you have the highest you don’t go to stewardess school but you can go to university. but that’s a different topic: education levels
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whateva man,
in any case, i don’t want to offend high educated good looking indonesian girls who date bulmen, just go for it!
peace to y’all, salam dari belanda
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Have you seen a European stewardess lately? They might have been very attractive in the 70s, but these days most cute and educated girls have more opportunities than becoming a stewardess. It’s regarded a low-level job now (hope I don’t offend your lady-friends 😉 ). In Eastern Europe and Asia, stewardess still is a relatively good job. I’ve never seen ibu rumah tangga as a stewardess on an Asian airliner.
in the netherlands however you need to have the second highest level at highschool to go to stewardess school.
Mind you, HAVO is also the second lowest. It is the average of secondary education.
With an educated girl I mean one that has at least completed some sort of tertiary education. I wouldn’t be surprised if a university degree was a prerequisite for stewardesses in Indonesia, but it’s not in the West. -
yeah havo is now indeed second lowest since vbo and mavo are combined into vmbo.. anyway, the irrelevant point i’d like to make is that most of the bulmen who are chasing the local indonesian girls probably never could date a stewardess from their homecountry, and moreover also never could date the even more educated women such as lawyers, doctors, academics, et cetera. still i love my stewardess chicks from everywhere also europe, they’re supposed to give me extra pillows and seat back love, girls girls girls haha
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repeating your point doesn’t make it more true.
I’d say most “bulmen” (thanks Dikkiman, you really coined a new term here…), how ugly and unsuccessful they might be chasing Indonesian girls, don’t even want to date a stewardess back home.Of course there are ugly, old, dumb men with money who wouldn’t stand a chance at home, but saying all men chasing Indonesian girls are like this is a large leap of faith I think.
Most of the male bule parts of the mixed couples I know don’t fall in this category.
I also have quite some ugly academic male bule friends, almost all of them have educated girls (from their own country that is). They just don’t consider chasing a local, poor Indonesian girl. Sorry, the stereotype doesn’t hold.A blue-collar job girl in the West probably has a low education, a blue-collar job girl in Asia just might have a Master degree. Less jobs, more supply. That’s how it works.
Your “bulman” will probably have more difficulties hooking the Garuda stewardess. -
i didn’t want to make it more true, i thought you didn’t catch my point. anyhow, i don’t care whatever who’s dating who why which socio-economic background et cetera, and i certainly don;t want to make stereotypes stereotypes, i just tried to be ironic with it. i already said: everybody cool and peace, date what you want, be happy, i just made a simple observation, and don’t take it too seriously this stewardess stuff. haha ciao
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sandoz says:
It’s ironic to go quickly through this thread and read how people can discuss about dating an Indonesian girl. To those looking for a girl : Just be yourself, be smart, enjoy life, relax and let everything go by itself.
Anyway
As I was for my first time in Bali, I discovered two things :
– Indonesian girls can be very beautiful
– Australians (at least those I saw) are lacking some style (without insulting any aussies here, as you are good fellows)
One thing is not very clear to me:
– For what reason some Indonesian girls want to get pregnant even if they don’t know you and they know they will never see you back? (They were not working girls or money girls)I will not participate in any discussions or assumptions made, so for those who want to cry out some criticism, save your energy 🙂
I just hope to understand a bit more about their underlying reason -
Inez says:
Well statistically, young handsome high demand bule men have no trouble attracting young beautiful bule women, they don’t have to waste their time chasing 3rd world country girls…. and vice versa, young beautiful Indo girls have no trouble attracting high quality young Indonesian men, no hassling with culture difference etc, and they can live comfortably in Indonesia with maids, nanny and driver while keep their high flying career, no need to live in small apartment and commute with metro everyday and Washing, Ironing, Fu** Etc (aka WIFE) their pale fat bule husband …..
Which explains why MOST mixed couples are you know…like we see today LOL…. the left overs…
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inez, jarang sekali aku tahu anak Indonesia yang mandiri dan sukses. sebel aja, kalo tau aja dia cakep jadi anak mami banget. ngertinya pake pembantu, supir. masa si generasi sekarang masih berpikiran colonial begitu. ga romantis.
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venna says:
I am an Indonesian woman who married with an expat, and honestly, I chose men from abroad because I looooveeee…. their bodies! tall, strong, handsome, sexy. especially when they are smart and educated. That’s to die for! Who doesn’t like flirting or spend time with smart and handsome man? I think everybody love it!
I like expats because most of them are pretty open-minded, and I could flirt with them without having a feeling that they would see me as a cheap girl. But, yeah… that’s perhaps because I was pretty picky and only chose good bules, not the type of foreign guys that treated girls like commodities or cheap treats. -
Sobhana, if you are neither rich nor beautiful don’t generalize most Indonesian girls who are beautiful are spoiled brat …
I came from wealthy family, I was a model aka Gadis sampul yet I managed to get masters in Financial Engineering and EE and worked for a while as trading software developer, where I met my Indonesian husband who has both Computer Science PhD and CFA and one of top quantitative analyst there… I worked as pizza delivery and my husband worked as fitness trainer… so yes we are not anak mami, try to see around if you really live abroad, many Indonesian students work hard part time to finance their study, it’s difficult for us we can’t rely on loan nor government support like bules…
Of course I look down on Indonesian girl who just expect to get bule husband only to get citizenship or residentship or Indonesian girl who just sleep around with bules from dorm to dorm and humiliate themselves. They have no self esteem and really a bad representation of Asian girls…
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respect to inez! and all the other hardworking beautiful indonesian girls who want to be independent women!
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