Dating Indonesian Girls
Apr 4th, 2006, in Society, by PatungDating Indonesian women may not be for everyone.
Indonesian women, particularly on the island of Java, are exceptionally beautiful. They tend towards the very feminine side, with lovely skin, are not too tall, and have knock-out smiles. There’s plenty of plus on that side of things.
If wer’e to be honest we have to recognise that many men are interested in a woman who will take care of him, do the housework without complaint, and take care of other matters similarly without much bother. Your average Indonesian girl often fits the bill in this respect, certainly more than your average western woman, the less said about them the better.
On the other hand going out with Indonesian women in a romantic way can have many mysterious pitfalls.
Some women here are clearly only interested in money. Some men are unbothered by this. Others of the female variety, can, once we get to know them very well, come across as practically insane, hysterically emotional, scheming, over-possessive, inclined to, usually fake, attempts at self-harm in order to get their way. As I said, not for the faint-hearted.
There are a few Indonesia dating websites although the area is not nearly as developed as that in nearby Phillipines or Thailand. To begin your online journey on the Indonesian dating scene our very own “Meet” section has many a lady eager for company.
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Oigal says:
Compliment from AS…eerr that makes me very nervous…(looking around where’s the trap?) Thanks too TD. For some of the others yow… walking around seeing so much at the same time seeing nothing ..kinda sad..
DK..Where does one start with the likes of you..
Farah…no reply..I am crushed! We could had the kid and everything..bule nose..TV..commercials.. the whole shebang
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ET says:
@ lomboksurfer
How do you stop your Indonesian girl friend from being super attentive to your needs, great in bed, caring, and loving of everything you do?
Answer 1: Marry her answer 2: Lose your job answer 3; introduce her to someone richer than youIs this what you mean?
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kiwibali says:
hahaha nice ET
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ana says:
Dyakulture
I work in your country for a few years because I am needed here, because there is not enough of us, as people like you instead of contributing more to your own community have chosen to take things for granted and dwell in your black box of unresolved anger. Heck, I probably pay more tax than you. So enough with the monkeys or pigs or satan.. it’s nothing to do with being politically incorrect. Everybody can be stupid now and then, but for the love of God, don’t abuse the privilege.
So you have something against Africans too? Tsk. You always like the victim’s role, don’t you? Life is so unfair…! I’ve met your types in person before, with the insight of what may have happened to you, I’d urge you to seek counselling. The sooner the better. There’s always hope. Try RELATE, http://www.relate.org.uk/. They offer excellent professional help, and depending on your situation, they can be flexible with the costs. However, if you also have substance misuse problems, you’d need to have the motivation as you start finding help.
Someone else said about risk factors is influenced by percentage in population. I agree, but does it mean that if a person has access to the safety net in his/her country (i.e. money/employment, health service and education) then they have no excuse of being bigoted? It’s kind of difficult to avoid making a sweeping statement, but thanks to your comment.
Sorry, I know I’m ott. But can you imagine what it must be like to the Indonesian women who have had contact with the Dyakultures out there! ‘The horror… the horror…!’ as Colonel Kurtz said.
On the topic, what I know is that most of us Indonesian women can find it difficult to start expressing thoughts and concerns, which can be dangerous if prolonged. It’s probably due to the way we were brought up. But then we’re also struggling to keep up with the trends in modern life. We want to chase our dreams and careers and have fun with our friends but at the same time have to honour our eastern cultural expectations. When are you going to marry? Then you marry and; when will you have children? You have daughters then; when will you have a son? Nag nag nag. Some of us learned to prioritise and ignore in the end, but some simply can’t. Therefore, you’d need to be a good communicator. Tactfully bring about on what YOU want from her and find out what SHE wants from you. With that, hopefully you’d have a great Indonesian woman, great sex, great relationship.
Where you find a good Indonesian woman? Oh Christ. Does it matter?
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Odinius says:
Dyakulture, dude, are you ok?
I am genuinely concern about you.
Me too. It’s not everyday one gets to witness a nervous breakdown, post by post…
…kind of like watching a car crash.
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dyakulture says:
@Odinus
Only sentient beings think this is real and animals also think as sentient beings – so i prove the point quite clearly! But thanks for the concern anyway 😉@ ana
Thanks for engaging – it is so shit boring looking at the total crap this site contains about Indonesian Women!am sure you are now having a different experience from being in Indonesia – but sorry for asking but are you really changing your Karma?
So as an Indonesia Woman are you going to follow your history or transform yourself and your children?
your society has many social diseases – you know them… more children are in care in Indonesia than any other country in the world… what are you going to do about this to make a change?
Am sure most Indonesians reading this site don’t give a shit – instead just mindlessly breeding!
I think you won’t go back to Indonesia if you have changed your ways and if given the chance to live in the “developed” society, true… or are you going to bring bad Karma into Europe too or just take it all back with you?
My Indian, Malaysian, African, Arab, Iranian… friends know about what I am talking about on this website see but when is Indonesia going to change – racism is in the Indonesian Social Consciousness and mind, not mine and why it is so easy to openly incite the readers on this site!
@ET
Well said – we need much more stuff like this which has so some truth in it for a change!@Oigal
try taking your brain out your head and getting one that works at a higher frequency!@DumadiSatrio
see the advice for Oigal and do the same!@Diego
Thanks for the note in print am sure it will come in handy – see the advice for Oigal and do the same! But isn‘t it Indonesia that produces more illegal drugs than any other country in the world apart from Paraguay! So maybe your relatives are all making Meth and gave it to you as a child so would explain why my neighbors rabbit has more intelligence than the writers on this forum.@crocketman
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diego says:
Anybody is keeping the score?
I mean,
– dragie has ? enemies.
– schmerly has ? enemies.
– and now dyakulture … has 7 enemies.Can someone give me the number for dragie and schmerly? Thank you.
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DumadiSatrio says:
@dyakulture
“try taking your brain out your head and getting one that works at a higher frequency!”
what? I said touché
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shawty says:
Orang aus : Ur right about visa stuff, hopefully it will improve soon..at least sby become president again now (*grin)
Dyakulture: Dunno which culture he preached..
rrr social disease..better look on those young girls with the thick make up with the smells of beer carrying babies and feed them with cigarette smokes on ur high street dude.
just waiting wellfare system to support them and soon the country become the bankrupt country ever in western country. Free health support seems doesnt work, still become the country with highest STD rate.
hmm i can write 100 pages or so about what actually social disease is..
and please ‘do’ the fat stink blue eyes blonde monkey on the high street they need more babies so they can get more support from gov,
Moreover, everyone in the world also know that the most racist country is..ur almost bankrupt empire 🙂 -
gods below…..this is going to get worst before it gets better, isnt it?
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Dyakulture has had his say and will be leaving us.
Timdog you’ve described this thread before unkindly but
a great, bloated buffalo…
I rather like that, stuck in my head yesterday as I went about my business and gave me several chuckles, chuckling is always good..
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and now dyakulture … has 7 enemies
Someone once said you can gauge the quality of the man better by the enemies he has rather than the friends he keeps..
Based on that.. fairly pleased with myself today..
DK.. Arrogance and Ignorance all in one repugant little package how terribly effifient of you
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Achmad Sudarsono says:
Pak Oigal,
No catch. But you’re right – I should probably stay in character.
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Cukurungan says:
And how would this make Indonesian women different from women in every other country in planet Earth?
The different is on her perception when the Indonesia women consider something ordinary like nannies and maid to help run the house work but on your country is not the case, therefore, if you have intention to bring back your Indonesia woman to your country think about it otherwise as Andy said she will complain even on smallest inconvenient because life for the middle class woman in here is so easy, she does no need to handle boring house work by herself and she has plenty of time for senam sex, arisan on café and mall, enjoy jamu and lulur and fume pu**y with kemenyan
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timdog says:
@ Pak Patung – it’s not that I don’t like this buffaloesque thread – how could anyone not take perverse enjoyment in it? My past unkindnesses about it have been based entirely on the depressing absense of dignity, shame, or indeed intelligence demonstrated by sundry posters when the thread is on-topic.
But when the buffalo lumbers away from its appointed cart track and goes sloshing off at a wild tanget through the rice fields – as now – it’s great fun…@Andy mister… you “didn’t find racism as bad” elsewhere in Southeast Asia simply because you didn’t spend as much time there, and because you didn’t have a personal grudge against those places. If it had been, instead of Indonesia, say, Vietnam, for which you first departed Australia in search of – what was it you came to Indonesia that you couldn’t find back home, again? – then I have no doubt that you would right now be loitering on some other website pouring out poison about how Vietnam is the worst country in the world.
Malaysia actively, legally discriminates against a huge swathe of its own citizens on a racial basis; racial privaledge is an enshrined part of its system of government. I would suggest that that makes it rather more “racist” than Indonesia.On Australia – I actually like Australia a lot; I’ve spent enough time there, some of my family live there, on their own territory Australians are generally a good deal more friendly than British people. BUT, behind the bright, breezy world of the coast, Australia does have a spectacularly dark, wierd and unsettling hinterland – and somewhere out in that grim, wierd darkness lies the kernal of a truly terrible “racial issue” (which has been discussed ad nauseum by people other than me elsewhere on this site – not getting into it now)…
Anyway, back to my previous post: I said – and you ignored – as a resident foreigner in Indonesia you get into all those dual-priced tourist attractions for the same price as the locals, so, once again, whatthefricksyaproblem?
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Dyakulture has had his say and will be leaving us
Oh well no great loss and not because I what he said but more there was just no style or finesse about the way he said it. Anyone can be abusive and nasty..but to do it with glitter and panache now thats rare.
Or perhaps the God Botherers are correct and there is a super being..in which case..a quick read of the some of the more vile rants only brings to mind “that God in creating man somewhat overestimated his ability”
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He was probably a troll anyways.
What is this thread supposed to be about again? 😉
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Andy says:
timdog-
Malaysia actively, legally discriminates against a huge swathe of its own citizens on a racial basis; racial privaledge is an enshrined part of its system of government. I would suggest that that makes it rather more “racist” than Indonesia.
Ah yes, the bumiputra issue. Is exactly the same in Indonesia only there they have ‘pribumi and non pribumi’. I had to laugh when told the chinese who chose to live there hundreds of years ago would never be pribumi because they were from China but the Papuans, who don’t want to be Indonesian at all, are definitely pribumi. Of course they will never admit it was the dutch who brought them onto their soil in the first place in fact if not for the dutch there would be no Indonesia and Java would be a separate country. Why don’t you try and be a pribumi timdog? Might be a lot more difficult than making an Indo a subject of old lizzie.
what was it you came to Indonesia that you couldn’t find back home, again?
I had a girlfriend timdog, I had plenty before in oz too so can’t see your point. Yes love took me there not ‘pelacur’ as you seem to imply. In fact what you said about me before borders on slander don’t you think?
Can’t you just cool it mate? I mean am I the only person on this site who you don’t like? Would have thought a few lately here would have raised your ire with their anti-Indo comments.
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Andy: Just because the two words are equivalent, doesn’t mean the racial systems are equivalent in practice. When you take a look at it, the racial issue in Malaysia is actually quite different from that in Indonesia. Malaysia has a system of ‘racial corporatism’ that is enshrined in law, and through which a bare majority lords it over almost half of the population. There’s no similar thing in Indonesia anymore, and even when there was, it was not as all-encompassing or deeply embedded into the state as it is in Malaysia.
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Yellow Daisy says:
It surely is interesting to read some of the thread here, some are quite amusing and some are quite dumb really. Unfortunately the debate has gone nowhere from the last time i checked. It isn’t very helpful for some guys out there who want to date indonesian ladies, like i care. May be the discussion title should be change.
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leni says:
I 29 Indonesian girl who worked in overseas, I met with a man he is 32 French, both of us have a good job and he have a good position in his company, at the beginner our relationship was nice but finally I realized that we are different, he always complained every time we visited Indonesia, he said Indonesia dirty..crowded ..etc… seem he don’t like indonesia and all of this make me sick, coz I love my country. It gave me a lesson , it’s very difficult to have a relationship w different culture… or maybe I met a wrong man.
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Roel says:
@ Leni How is this possible ? Your country spanning 3 timezone’s and not a single place your frenchman like ? Impossible. Take him from Siberut to Irian by boat and he certainly encounter a place as paradise. I met a few on the trip before.
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@Leni
I think you met the wrong men or may be he’s just different kind of men.
I met my husband while studying abroad. He likes Indonesia with all it’s crazy traffic, dirty roads and kampung life style. Not to mention the people, he likes indonesian people for their hospitable manner. -
Indonesia dirty..crowded ..etc… seem he don’t like indonesia and all of this make me sick, coz I love my country.
Hi leni, I can understand that but some of the issue is Indonesia herself, to advertise herself as a tourist wonderland of sweeping beaches and pristine jungle certainly means that many will be disappointed upon arrival. That is not to say there is not a certain attraction to hubble and bubble that the chaos of the cities brings.
Unfortunately to Indonesia, the fight for visitors (and their money) is intense and Indonesia’s Infrastructure (lack thereof and pollution) means that difference between image and reality is now almost insurmountable and vistors like your guy expect more and can get more from virtually any of Indonesia’s neighbours.
As for the wrong guy, perhaps but Indonesia remains a great destination just don’t expect truth in advertising.
First step in making Indonesia Beautiful again…500Rp deposit on all aqua bottles and including this stinking little plastic cups.
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Don’t know if I completely agree with that assessment, Oigal.
Indonesia’s neighbors also have pollution and crowding problems, and some have other issues that Indonesia does not. Besides, there are plenty of pristine jungle and beaches left in Indonesia, as elsewhere in SEA.
Now that said, I do think Indonesia has to seriously overhaul its tourist infrastructure. In a lot of ways, Thailand should be the model. Very similar places with a lot of the same socio-economic problems, but traffic moves (more or less) and it’s very easy to get around the country.
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Fair enough..Ah well off topic..but hey.. Probably not where I really wanted to go as in direct comparision to other countries except the tourism market is tough and Indonesia is being left behind (wether she wants that market or not is another issue) and I agree there is plenty (I would say some and shrinking) of pristine forest left and nice beaches.
My point would be ..ok where are these beaches and forest???..Not Bali, Forest..not Kalimantan. The trick is to direct tourists to these locations where the good stuff is and Indonesian tourism fails badly in that regard. As a weak link back to Leni..Is it any wonder her guy was disappointed after seeing promotions for Bali and/or Jakarta as a vibrant safe holiday destination, the reality left him disappointed.
You and I both know that there are hidden charms to Indonesian but for the fresh visitor..confronting rather than relaxing would be the norm…
For instance..new arrival flies into KL, Sing, Bangkok, Manila, Jakarta. Safe to suggest that Manila and Jakarta are going to leave a rather different impression than the posters suggest.
By the way (and I know there is another thread for this..sorry). I have lived here for a long time but just about given up on internal holidays.. tourism Indonesia just really doesn’t get the concept. Thailand and more recently vietnam are the go..never the less welcome any suggestions.
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Oigal
First step in making Indonesia Beautiful again…500Rp deposit on all aqua bottles and including this stinking little plastic cups.
500Rp won’t be enough to change bad habits.
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Yea but the Aqua plastic will barely hit the ground before the Orang Miskin leap on it. Call it a consumption tax with the benefits going directly to the poor. Let’s face it the real poor ain’t drinking Aqua.
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Hi all thx for the openion, anyway I haven’t talked much really, I don’t care what ppl said abt indonesia, why should I care? Even ppl said indonesia have pollution, crowd, traffic, no mrt, aggressive seller, bla bla la…..I think that makes this country is unique, ppl free to have their opinion, we have the highest capacity to understand, adjust, assimilate and respect the cultural differences… so my question is how can a relationship work well with people from a completely different culture if there’s no respect between us? I heard mineral water plastic is disaster, but I drink mineral bottled water everyday, @ Roel I have never go to siberut, where is it?, thanks
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dyakulture Says:
So what you trying to say? If this helps ‘I AM THE LIGHT’.. go into the light… open your mind and walk into the light… idiot!
touché