Dating Indonesian Girls
Apr 4th, 2006, in Society, by PatungDating Indonesian women may not be for everyone.
Indonesian women, particularly on the island of Java, are exceptionally beautiful. They tend towards the very feminine side, with lovely skin, are not too tall, and have knock-out smiles. There’s plenty of plus on that side of things.
If wer’e to be honest we have to recognise that many men are interested in a woman who will take care of him, do the housework without complaint, and take care of other matters similarly without much bother. Your average Indonesian girl often fits the bill in this respect, certainly more than your average western woman, the less said about them the better.
On the other hand going out with Indonesian women in a romantic way can have many mysterious pitfalls.
Some women here are clearly only interested in money. Some men are unbothered by this. Others of the female variety, can, once we get to know them very well, come across as practically insane, hysterically emotional, scheming, over-possessive, inclined to, usually fake, attempts at self-harm in order to get their way. As I said, not for the faint-hearted.
There are a few Indonesia dating websites although the area is not nearly as developed as that in nearby Phillipines or Thailand. To begin your online journey on the Indonesian dating scene our very own “Meet” section has many a lady eager for company.
4,898 Comments on “Dating Indonesian Girls”
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Nay says:
All this fuss about emotional, financial etc. guarantees. Hard as it may sound, the basic reason for marriage is procreation and care for offspring.
*sigh*… unfortunately “marriage” and “child support payments” are not exactly the same thing.
…and without a DNA test you can’t even be sure that they’re even YOUR offspring. 😀All the rest is – however pleasant and possibly satisfying – only secondary. If partners would keep these priorities in mind, a lot less headaches will occur.
Won’t disagree with you there. Unfortunately human nature is what it is, and despite the lofty ideals we hold for ourselves (especially in regards to relationships), in the end you have to understand who you are dealing with.
As for all the guys getting fleeced: If more of you embraced the fact that you’d be much happier sleeping around with different women (totally normal by the way) instead of forcing yourselves to be the “good monogamous nest-slave husband” your significant other wanted you to be, you wouldn’t have been fleeced for all your cash and been left heartbroken — and you would have had more girlfriends and freedom to boot.
The moral of the story is that just because Eve ate the apple, as per the biblical story, doesn’t mean you have to as well.
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bonni says:
And an illustration to the end of that story 😛
As for all the guys getting fleeced: If more of you embraced the fact that you’d be much happier sleeping around with different women (totally normal by the way) instead of forcing yourselves to be the “good monogamous nest-slave husband” your significant other wanted you to be, you wouldn’t have been fleeced for all your cash and been left heartbroken — and you would have had more girlfriends and freedom to boot.
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ET says:
And an illustration to the end of that story 😛
An alternative end of the story.
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The fairytale end of the story
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A typical man’s life illustrated.
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Phase 1 Single
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Phase 2 Married
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Phase 3 Divorced
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deta says:
Mrs Lion must have been quite a feminist…
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peter says:
I love the lion pictures, it can be so true 🙂
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OMG BAHAHAA Om ET! I like the alternative end of the story! Cool grampa… 😉
Based on phase 1, Mrs. Lion might not be ‘quite’ a feminist, or was she not the lucky Mrs. Lion?
Anyway, a conversation with my boyfriend:
Me: Do you still love me that I’m a feminist? Aren’t you scared of me?
Him: I do. I’m not scared of you. Do you still love me that I’m not scared of you? -
bonni
I like the alternative end of the story! Cool grampa… 😉
Actually the picture of the cool grandpa should have come last. After the lion gets divorced, trampled and stripped to the bone, he pulls himself together, buys a Harley, gives the feminists the little finger and goes see the world. His manes may have become gray but his semangat couldn’t be killed.
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Eerh.. I must have missed the part he booked a plane ticket to Indonesia.
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kinch says:
This thread is *still* going?
Must be about time for a Banci Thread. Timdog?
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Bad to the Bone says:
@Deta
“must have missed the part about the booking a plane ticket to Indonesia”
I’ve got a 67yr od friend wants to join me in Bali in 2 weeks, & my ‘istri” has lined up her sister to be with him for 4 days. he used to be a bit of a stud in his day & wants to recapture his glory days.
the sister is very hot, gorgeous body, nice personality (always smiling & extremely pleasant),had a quiet sexual life with not a lot of partners), so i think my mate will be having the time of his latter years. Get a couple of viagra into him & he’ll be as good as new.
The only trouble is I’m a bit jealous as I fancied her from the first time i met her & she me.
We have already sms’d arranging a clandestine few nights together, so i’m on a promise. so I’m thinking whether to sort another girl for him & save her for me- ah lust & greed. -
BTTB,
You might as well consider taking him to Dufan – Dunia Fantasi – in Jakarta instead of giving him the viagra. The effect is the same anyway: a one hour wait for a two minute ride. -
The effect is the same anyway: a one hour wait for a two minute ride.
OK, but playing pool with a rope is no fun either.
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ET,
On the other side:
Then after the divorce, the feminist pulls herself together, meditating in white lotus, and finally be able to ‘do’ other man… Then she lives happily ever after with her better half… 😛
Kinch wants some banci thread…
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Then after the divorce, the feminist pulls herself together, meditating in white lotus, and finally be able to ‘do’ other man… Then she lives happily ever after with her better half…
No bonni, they ‘Eat, Pray, Love’
– They eat until they become obese, then
– They pray to lose weight and then
– They come to Bali to make love with the Kuta KoboisThen they go home and start all over. Or finally become PhD’s.
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ET,
Or finally become PhD’s.
Alright then! 😛
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Darrell Smith says:
I am falling in love with a beautiful Lady in Indonesia I want to make her happy in every way Not a playboy so it`s important to me any advise lady`s or gents ?
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Get an education by reading all the posts you can–plenty pro-& plenty negative.
If you are not living in Indonesia you could be / are wasting your time & emotions.
If you are living there, learn the language & their ways, never let on you are loaded, only let them know about the tip of the iceberg so to speak. Enjoy the journey.
“better to lose in love than to never love at all’.
at the first warning sign be very careful & a bit cynical about it all. read the posts by those who have done/doing it.
Bon voyage . -
frankygth says:
@DS and BTTB
Yep, I tend to agree to the advice to read this thread’s comment as part of education.
However the comments and posts (at least that is how I look at it) tend to be too cynical and not representative. This is for the advice and opinions stated by both Bules as locals.As a general guideline it is good to get this education but bear in mind and not neglect your own common sense.
If you feel good about your relation and you have practical experience with interhuman relationship elsewhere, it is same as everywhere in the world…..If you don’t have practical experience elsewhere………well then good luck….
tadaaa
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Then again, who am I to give advise. i am a sucker falling in love all my life all around the world and sofar not in stable relationship yettttt……hehehhehehe
Victim of being a man? Probably yes and easy victim in Indonesia, cozz man they’re lovely
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btw missing the updates and input of this thread’s die hards
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wayang says:
I’m Indonesian women. western husband. We have 3 amazing kids. 7 years married .
living in State now. We were in 3 diferent country before move to State. first pregnant was in asia and born in europe. 2nd pregnant was in europe and born the twins in state. we both allways living far away from our familly. Now we are here, honestly, Usa is most nice country compare other country we were before. but the importand things are we as the familly are together. its make us strong and suport to each other.Many bad comment to “bule” and “Indonesian women” some because of story from other people, some from own experience , some is just stereotype . But whatever country, you are allways find Good women, gold dinger women,bad man,good man.
Not All Indonesian women and “Bule” are bad. many of them are good and normal familly person.
” One night after kids are sleep, my husband saw me still with my computer instead with him watch Tv . i said i was bussy chating with my boyfriend 🙂 . and he was answer if he Don’t believed at all . he allways trust me 100% . He have great , loyal and strong wife. He will only not trust me 2 things : he will not let me to cut his hair and his nail :-). well….not his foult . i did alittle mistake with him about that in the past 🙂 sorry:-) .”
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After reading some comments , i just want to share a litle of our story : Before married i was independent women, have own small business in indonesia. meet him ( not in the bar :-). We married in his country. after married i decided to sell my business and move with him to other country. new country for me and for him, since he just move there for work. my job title as house wife start 🙂 , so bored for few months, culture shook ? yes . but take it as a challenge. he support me ? yes . and i try to support him as i can . We want to make our maried Success and happy married. and the important things because we love to each other 🙂 .
Now about money, it’s sensitive talk ! but our commitment is clear between husband and wife : We are in the same boat ! its all OUR ! We have talk about that before married and after He always remember me about that when i still said in the beginning: ” your…….” and he said ” our……..”
He never need to give me money and i never have to ask ( it will be very hard for me if i have to do that ) i free to use but with responsibility as like him. it’s very simple for me and him. I’m Lucky girl ? Yes I’m ! I know he trust me . And when you feel it’s also yours, you will take care !
many time he want to buy something expensive for me and when i don’t really need and i said NO. why ? Just don’t want to spend our money. always open to each other…..examples : birthday present for member of both family or many things ..we always talk to each other and decided together.
nothing to hide or send money to familly without your husband/wife know about, why should ? it’s mean stealing, stealing something what it’s yours ?? so funny. so it never happen.For us it’s make everything more simple ! one of my friend also married with “bule” she want her husband buy house in indonesia. her reason….bla…bla…bla…it’s all because unsecure feeling. but i don’t blame her because maybe she have different story.
for me it’s terrible feelings. we like beautiful villa in bali but we also like many holiday houses in other country hahaha…it’s realy doesn’t matter for us.Do we fight sometimes…oh yes :-). but until now not serious things.
So for some of “bule” who’s plan to marry with indonesian women 🙂 , here some from my experience, our familly. hope can help and give some idea.
Peace 🙂
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Thx Wayang for this comment in line with the spirit of this thread.
I understand what you mean and good to hear this side too.
This is what I miss looking at recent postshehehhehehe sorry if i make die hard posters feel bad. its a free world and this is what this threads about
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Red says:
Very intrresting! Been together with my beloved husband almost 15 years. 32 years different in our age. 2 wonderful sons, 10years old and 4years old. We are living happy 🙂 he is American and yes, i am Indonesian. Good luck finding your beloved one 😉
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I could not describe it better, I guess these are pretty good guidelines from your aquantance, you need a bit of luck as its not guaranteed. Warranty till the door 🙂