Dating Indonesian Girls
Apr 4th, 2006, in Society, by PatungDating Indonesian women may not be for everyone.
Indonesian women, particularly on the island of Java, are exceptionally beautiful. They tend towards the very feminine side, with lovely skin, are not too tall, and have knock-out smiles. There’s plenty of plus on that side of things.
If wer’e to be honest we have to recognise that many men are interested in a woman who will take care of him, do the housework without complaint, and take care of other matters similarly without much bother. Your average Indonesian girl often fits the bill in this respect, certainly more than your average western woman, the less said about them the better.
On the other hand going out with Indonesian women in a romantic way can have many mysterious pitfalls.
Some women here are clearly only interested in money. Some men are unbothered by this. Others of the female variety, can, once we get to know them very well, come across as practically insane, hysterically emotional, scheming, over-possessive, inclined to, usually fake, attempts at self-harm in order to get their way. As I said, not for the faint-hearted.
There are a few Indonesia dating websites although the area is not nearly as developed as that in nearby Phillipines or Thailand. To begin your online journey on the Indonesian dating scene our very own “Meet” section has many a lady eager for company.
4,898 Comments on “Dating Indonesian Girls”
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Missmibebi says:
There are only two types of Indonesia woman: blackberry user and iPhone user.
Blackberry users provide u beauty and barcompany. iPhone users provide u beauty n beertalks.
Blackberry users are interested to brand and stuffs but iPhone users are more to brain and behaviour.
Just like blackberry, the users have many types. Some of them are cheap, some of them are expenssive but still even they are expensive, they just arent smarter than iPhone.
Blackberry is blackberry, claiming as a smart phone in fact is just a mssger phone. So is the user. They think theyre smart just because theyre english speaking, but in fact theyre socially disorder. You know when they do that head-down-reading-bbm-while-someones-talking. -
franky says:
thanks for the tip Stevo.
And yess there is a difference between sarcastic compliment and flirting,
difficult but if you try hard……..Talking abt trying harder…..your mate won another point.
Stay focussed Stevo!!!!You may want to only leave the corner focussed 🙂
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stevo says:
Thanks for your concern franky, your easily impressed. Clearly love is blind.
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sorry I am not concerned.
Maybe another time but not yet.First I wanna make sure you’re not German.
The thing is that you look German, attitude, level, loud and blunt.
And your Englisch (sorry I know mine is awfull also)My parents would not forgive me…….
(showing concern to German, ww2, get it?)and going back to the thread……..I am sooo impressed by the acceptance level of Indonesian girls.
That is, if your gf-bf is Indonesian.
Then again, love makes blind 🙂 -
Well not even close, but I do get on with Germans rather well. They are less full of shit than some folk and tend to be logical. Perhaps it is those very foreign qualities you have picked up on. I accept the compliment.
As for Indonesian ladies, don’t worry, they can keep me on my toes.
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BrotherMouzone says:
There are only two types of Indonesia woman: blackberry user and iPhone user.
That’s an improvement; when I first came here they were all Nokia users. (Showing my age)
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Oh, there are also non blackberry and iPhone user. (indicates their age)
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deta says:
Just like blackberry, the users have many types. Some of them are cheap, some of them are expenssive but still even they are expensive, they just arent smarter than iPhone.
Some of them have beautiful casing but terrible performance, some of them come with over sensitive touch screen, and some of them just can’t put you through 🙂
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Susanti says:
Missmibebi, your statement make me smile 🙂
“There are only two types of Indonesia woman: blackberry user and iPhone user”I dont use BlackBerry nor Iphone coz I dont need it yet for work, I’m afraid I will busy with the gadget and can’t do my work, for a while I just need mobilephone for communication 🙂
how do you think about me, what tipe I am?
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@susanti
Oh, youre the u uniqUe one. I would say ure follow ur own style, ure not having issue of being alone, ure sometimes insecure, haha maybe. Am i right?@deta
See now “dont judge performance by its casing” is another form of “dont judge book by its cover” in this World2.0 -
ET says:
Blackberry, iPhone, Nokia, whatever… I suspect Indo girls must have some kind of libidinesque relationship with these contraptions, the way they passionately hold and stare at it as if it were the last penis on earth.
Slightly OOT, is it my imagination or do I see a dog running to and fro the bowling alley?
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ET, Indonesian girls are indeed a wonder indeed if only for the speed and Multi conversations they can conduct at the same with their fingertips.
Having sex..oops said that Indonesian guys leave the girls for dead when it comes to phallic phone envy. My best count at an airport was three BB and two nokia for one guy. Heaven only knows why he seemed offended when I burst out laughing.
And what is this bizarre relationship with more phones the guy carries the more crass and gaudy the hand jewelry. Is there anything more silly than a man wearing trinkets.
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Oh and Stevie, this is the second time Shhhh…back to your corner or we will revoke your day pass and you know how much you hate the guys in the white coates and the Meds.
If we need any fertilizer for the roses we will get someone to run over and poke you 🙂
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ET, Indonesian girls are indeed a wonder indeed if only for the speed and Multi conversations they can conduct at the same with their fingertips.
They are indeed the living proof that women are better in multitasking if you see how they ride their motorbikes, steering with their right hand while texting with the other and intermittently checking how they look in the rear view mirror.
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@ Stevo,
Although not close still close, cozz you can get along fine with them.
Which is ok and good for you. Enjoy it and I will not bother you anymore.And as now I know you have to stand on your toes for Indo girls (or boys), I am sorry about any remark I might have made towards small people. Hope I didn’t make you upset in any way.
I found another site with usefull information on the actual topic of this thread. But will come in and see now and then how you are doing little Stevo 🙂
Oh yea here is a site that you will like. So you dont have to stand on yr toes all the time: mylittlemidget.com. They also have a German section but you have to select that once there.
Good luck enjoy yourself and “auf wiedersehen!” big guy:)
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Sorry Stevo. My humble excuses for my impolite behaviour.
Reading it back I find it kind of rough, you see I was bussy and not really paying attention what I was typing. Sorry and will hopefully not happen again.
It’s just that it brought me back to a period in which I was quite vulnarable for the same kind of unkind remarks abouth length and I was hurt. It was when I was 12 and entering highschool as newbie. Horrible period that was, all the older and longer guys bullying on us. Now way other 12 yr old newbie helped eachother. So all were on their own. Brrrrrr if I think of that.Oh yeah back to the thread. I remember that first year in highschool in French class, I was sitting next to Indonesian girl. As you might know we Dutch have a shared history with Indonesia so we have around 400K Indonesian living in Holland. Her parents both were from Indonesia, but I believe her grandfather from her father’s side was Dutch. May, cozz that is here name, was soo good looking and abt 2 yrs older. But her smile…man….gourgeos! Not only beautyful but also so sweet. Her eyes, nose and white broad smile fought eachother for immediate visual attention. Lovely. And not only her looks…..her behaviour was so naturally sweet that you would believe anything she says. And I did…hehehehh Just after one week in highschool I fell in love with May….and believe me it was heaven. We actually didn’t kiss yet but that would soon happen on a planned schooltrip to Germany. A schooltrip to Berlin was planned and we would have to stay there for a week in October. Many plans where made beforehand as you can imagine. In the bus to Berlin my May sat next to me. And after we made some fun, finished our Coca Cola, mars and chips she fell asleep. And she slept like an angel with her head on my shoulder. Man I was proud…..the most beautyful and sweet girl in the world, in the bus to Berlin for an adventouras week with her …….I was dreaming all the way. It was a long drive from Amsterdam to Berlin. And because she did not wake up at the stops for toilet and all…….I did not move…. and man I had to go for a leak but did not stand up…..I didn’t want that angel to wake up. It was a great trip.
Arriving in Berlin the boys and girls got seggregated. But hey we soon knew from eachother where we were sleeping. And after the teachers went to bed we would meet.
Well I will not tell too much about that first night but it was my first encounter with an Indonesian Beauty. Although I was still young I had some Dutch GF. ANd difficult to compare experience in this dynamic period of yr life. But man it was heaven, sweet kissing and warm caring and above all it felt so sincere and lovely. But again, in this period of life any experience is unique. But at that moment I was sure that I woudl always wanna stay with here.We fell asleep together and next morning I had to crawl back to my room before our teachers found out.
Hahahaha and I felt so good. My Indonesian Girlfriend was mine and a wonderfull week in Berlin together was waiting for us……..
During the day we went guided by teachers to the obvious Berlin highlights.
And that night I would meet my indonesian Angel again. My friends in class were all curious to what happened the night before but I didn’t tell them. They were saying and pushing to go to the next stage and as they were all older they had other goals.
But that night at 1 am when the teachers slept I sneaked off to my Angel. However while wandering along the corridor a group of German school stopped me. They were with 4 and a few years. And the selfproclamed leader happened to be the smallest. He was around a head short on me. But that did not stop him to tease me. And if you know Germans, you also know that their teasing is a bit weird. Actually they tease you into fighting. And the sad fact is that they will only do that when they are sure they win. Because you see Germans like teamwork. Well with the help of his friends the short guy managed to get me on the ground. I am not afraid and fought back but 4 is too much.Well you can imagine now why I get sensitive about Germans and also about short people. It is like throwing salt in open wound.
Hey gotta go now. The story with my Indonesian Angel did not finish with the short German intervention, so I will finish that later. Sorry for any mistake in English cozz I did not readback…
Stevo hope you feel better now that you know you are not the only one. Me too was like that when I was 12.
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Oh yea ref yr comment:
I seem to recall reading that American mixed marriages tended to be more successful, not less. Particulary European men with Asian women. Based on my own observation I tend to agree.
This annoys the liberated harpies of the [English speaking] West no end. There is one thing they like less than Asians, that is happy men.
Regardless of your personal view of happy men.
Mind that European men do not make part of American countries.
They live in Europe and Europe is independant from any American country.
Bear that in mind before you tend to agree.
But please don’t let that stop you from sharing your own observation with this thread. -
Franky, thanks for sharing the story of your difficult and traumatic formative years. It showed, but at least I now have some context.
It is a bit cheeky for a Dutchman to accuse Germans of arrogance, don’t you think? I am wondering what your point is in reminding me that European men differ to Americans? I agree totally and find European women very different also, in a nice sort of way. Truth be told I get on with women ok, regardless of where they are from. Indonesian women have been both the worst and the best of them, based on personal experience. Once thing they never are is boring! The horror stories make the most interesting reading, so I suspect that is why we see so many on this thread. I could share a few myself, but I am reluctant due to the public nature of this forum.
As for Oigal; Once again he sees himself as the self appointed morality police of IM. Casual observation shows a correlation for authoritarian behaviour and moustache wearing (along with rather allot else !) Franky, at least, seems to be drawn to this.
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agan says:
I could share a few myself, but I am reluctant…
C’mon Stevo do tell us your chase n conquest story and we’ll promise to spread all the good words for ya. You can leave all the participant names to remain unchanged to protect the guilty and punish the innocent.
I don’t wanna sound crude or creepy here but I fancy Bonni, Deta or others female forumners teasing us with their Aha! moments too. When angle’s and devil’s collide.
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More homosexuals inferences Stevie? Mmmmm not the first time nor the first thread. Not overcompensating by hanging around on the dating girls thread are you? Oh my, was I wrong in telling you to get back to the corner….was it closet?
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C’mon Stevo do tell us your chase n conquest story
In relation to Indonesian girls, it often felt more like survival than conquest.
I will think about how to share one particular story, and protect the innocent, because I have not heard one like it. I feel bad for the guy who had the dirty done on him, she with me. I told him everything when I found out. (Honesty is a side effect of being an outspoken arrogant prick.)
I am getting a flavour of the sort of story Oigal is hinting at, its alarming but not surprising.
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ye stevo.
Share a story with me in the true spirit of this thread.
Cont worry about it.But mind this is ‘Dating Indonesian Girls’.
Always check the thread ur commenting in……:.)And thanks for your sweet comments
I will revert as soon as I have keyboard.
And of course continue with my lovestory with my lovey May…..But first you Stevo? The floor is yours……
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Hey you, bitter soul,
I suspect Indo girls must have some kind of libidinesque relationship with these contraptions, the way they passionately hold and stare at it as if it were the last penis on earth.
Contrary to your suspicion, Indo girls generally love a hand phone much more than a p***s. Why? Because a hand phone is much easier to handle. When not in use, we can keep it silent, or inactive. We can even set a password to make sure that nobody else uses it.
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bonni says:
Nay,
The idea of a couple being loyal and faithful forever is a Disney sponsored pipe-dream which, much like communism, sounds good on paper but doesn’t work in a practical sense.
Seriously nay, you need some ‘good touch’ from a real woman.
Missmebabi,
Brand new categorization! It is basicly about whether they (we) need to have that gadget or not. You can not tell about them by the phones they are using, but you should also consider the priority to have that certain kind of phone, then you can categorize them into some other more detail categorizations. Do I sound too serious? I’m using blackberry anyway… 🙂
Franky GTH,
Bonni, you’re a good balance to these guys. Though wonder how come you state things as you state them.
Feel free to ask and have nothing to wonder…
Deta,
In replying to ET,
Contrary to your suspicion, Indo girls generally love a hand phone much more than a p***s. Why? Because a hand phone is much easier to handle. When not in use, we can keep it silent, or inactive. We can even set a password to make sure that nobody else uses it.
Hmmm… I don’t like generalization…
Although a hand phone vibrates, I still prefer a pen*s… (please excuse my languange if it sounds nasty) It is easy to handle, as long as you know how to handle it. A better accompany that can keep you warm in your coldness. The one that opens doors for you, keeps the chairs right for you, wipes your tears, even feeds you fruits in bed… The one that would hold you safe after a hard day… It doesn’t need a password to make sure that nobody else uses it, just simply set them free, give them a good loving, and stop acting like it’s your period…
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yea still wondering Bonny, as soon as I know why I will ask.
Nice metaphore of Penis- man. Love the end of it as it’s soo true.Deta, before your reaction to Bonny take a deep breath.
i presume the phone you prefere over Penis was more a metaphore too…
But then Penis being a guy you had bad experience with.
Sure you must also have positive experience same as evryone.
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Although a hand phone vibrates, I still prefer a pen*s… (please excuse my languange if it sounds nasty) It is easy to handle, as long as you know how to handle it. A better accompany that can keep you warm in your coldness. The one that opens doors for you, keeps the chairs right for you, wipes your tears, even feeds you fruits in bed…
What p3nis can do all of that? I tried to open a door with mine once, ended up having the door slammed on it. And the missus always gets angry when I try to wipe her tears with it…
As for feeding someone fruit with it…
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BrotherMouzone,
LMAO hahahahahaha yeah that’s true, I should’ve not used that so called metaphor (Is it called metaphor? Oh whatever…) But you know that means a man right?
As for feeding someone fruit with it…
Oh my…..
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hero(troyher@yahoo.com) says:
i m foreigner and new comer to indonesia and don t have girlfriend and i stay alway defend about indonesia women are the best and more compassion n good hearted in asia
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Oigal’s spot on, now that ET has clarified his position I can see where he’s coming from. It’s not the mixed-race nature of the marriage; it’s bringing the poor girl back to some shithole in the West that’s the marriage breaker.
I wouldn’t dream of bringing my missus back to my home town and it’s got nothing to do with race, I had British, American and Aussie girlfriends who were the same race as me and I wouldn’t have considered for one second expecting them to live in the city I came from, fuck me! the people there drove me crazy I would hate to think what they’d do to an Indonesian girl.
No, mixed-race works just fine as long as the person who has made the initial move is prepared to settle in the country he or she has met their beloved. It’s completely unfair to rack up in some foreign land, pick out a local beauty and then haul her back to Scunthorpe, Wagga Wagga or Hoky Poky, Idaho and expect she’ll fit right in, that’s insane.
I remember a stunning lass who worked as a waitress in Desperados, in Surabaya, she was heart-achingly beautiful with a personality to match. I really fell for her but I was a month or so late, she told me she already had a boyfriend, a New Zealander, and they were going to get married and move back there. I met the fiance later, don’t get me wrong he was a nice lad and we got chatting, he was a farmer from a small town in the South Island and he was really looking forward to taking her there.
My soul wept at the thought of that poor girl living in some dreary little sheep station in the back end of NZ, it would kill her.