Dating Indonesian Girls
Apr 4th, 2006, in Society, by PatungDating Indonesian women may not be for everyone.
Indonesian women, particularly on the island of Java, are exceptionally beautiful. They tend towards the very feminine side, with lovely skin, are not too tall, and have knock-out smiles. There’s plenty of plus on that side of things.
If wer’e to be honest we have to recognise that many men are interested in a woman who will take care of him, do the housework without complaint, and take care of other matters similarly without much bother. Your average Indonesian girl often fits the bill in this respect, certainly more than your average western woman, the less said about them the better.
On the other hand going out with Indonesian women in a romantic way can have many mysterious pitfalls.
Some women here are clearly only interested in money. Some men are unbothered by this. Others of the female variety, can, once we get to know them very well, come across as practically insane, hysterically emotional, scheming, over-possessive, inclined to, usually fake, attempts at self-harm in order to get their way. As I said, not for the faint-hearted.
There are a few Indonesia dating websites although the area is not nearly as developed as that in nearby Phillipines or Thailand. To begin your online journey on the Indonesian dating scene our very own “Meet” section has many a lady eager for company.
4,898 Comments on “Dating Indonesian Girls”
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Oigal says:
Dang this girl is really morphing, she started as having some fun with her BF and in the space of four posts has become the queen of depravity!
Then again even if true what business is it of yours??? Sorry really sounding like the ol schoolyard thing “She doesn’t want me, must be a slut”
but a certain basketball club has its own collection.
Says as much about the maturity of the idiots in the basketball team as it does about any girl involved
might be blasphemous and totally destructive to certain people.
By certain people, you mean those with the inability to mind their own business and thier own families. Always amuses me who any one could think that a omi powerful super being even if he/she existed could build whole universe but needs some backwood hicks to pry into others personal lives in order to keep the world from crashing down.
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brian astaga says:
@ Farah
i dont know who you think you are – i’ll assume you have a useless life!
because you just worked up a lot of anger inside of me by saying that!FIRSTLY…she doesnt just have two children she has a mother looking after her children which she needs money for.
SECONDLY…do you really think selling cupcakes all day is going to feed herself, her mother and two children? and not just FEED thats what they all live on, clothes, school etc.
THIRDLY…(about the self respect) 1. she would not be doing that if she had a husband or didnt have a family which needs her money 2. when you say”does she even own herself” I have the answer to that….like this…..F*CK YOU STUPID MOUTHY F*CK
LASTLY…she wont ask me for money, now farah, or ever farah, why? because I know she is in clubs looking for business/sex I am not going to criticise her for that because the money she earns goes to a needing family! so Farah watch your mouth in future posts im positive this website is for general discussion not for getting under peoples skin OK?
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rifraf says:
Sorry really sounding like the ol schoolyard thing “She doesn’t want me, must be a slut”
I don’t think that was in a good taste at all, Oigal.
But nevermind. I can understand why you think so.By certain people, you mean those with the inability to mind their own business and thier own families.
By certain people, I meant her immediate family, my friend.
And if anyone think that immediate family and friends should be minding their own business and not care what your sister or daughter does, then obviously I don’t belong to this planet.And nobody is prying. This is a discussion forum and discussing what people call it right and what people call it wrong. Everyone can have opnions and standards and morals.
Again, using words like backwood hics is not in good taste.
She is not the queen of depravity. But go and ask simple, loyal, religious minded parents who just come to know about their 18 yr daughter bonking away to glory.
What do they think?Is minding your own good business a solution when you see such things happening to your best friend?
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Taste is a personal thing isn’t it.. I find it distasteful that other people feel they have the right to impose their moral standards into others personal lives. I further find it very distasteful that someone would name a girl on the net in a vain justification of their own moral views on how others should act in private.
loyal, religious minded parents who just come to know about their 18 yr daughter bonking away to glory.
Oh and I bet the teller of stories just about wet themselves delivering that juicy piece of gossip.
Is minding your own good business a solution when you see such things happening to your best friend?
Surely you cannot mean the girl? You named her and tried to shame her here..hardly the acts of a friend..
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Oigal…
I hope you watch your mouth when you hint at me. This discussion forum is not for mud-slinging at each other.I have been extremely polite to you and I hope the same courtesy can be extended by you.
Nobody is forcing you to reply to my topics or whatever I write. So, if you can’t contribute to the discussion, stay out of it.
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Rifraf..
“Watch my mouth”? What an interesting thing to say skipping over the aggressive/threatening and somewhat nasty tone. It’s rather unclear to me where I slung mud at you personally..
Certainly your statements and some of the actions therein described by some as yet unnamed but then did you ever consider that perhaps those actions deserved such “mud-slinging”. Do you not finding it slightly bizarre that you find it offensive that percieve someone is saying nasty things about you and yet your whole posts are about one particular girl? Is there not a lesson there somewhere perhaps?
Nobody is forcing you to reply to my topics or whatever I write. So, if you can’t contribute to the discussion, stay out of it.
Ah yes but thats the fun of an open forum isn’t it, you take a position and people comment on it. I agree it can be a bit of shock when you find people who think your views and actions are shall we say less than desirable.
As for the “stay out of it” Mmm sorry I must have missed the bit where you were appointed moderator.
However to a certain degree you are right..this conversation is becoming boring..
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Whatever, Oigal. Whatever.
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Goddess_in_paradise says:
My advice is simple, go with the flow and if it feels right then pursue it. If you have concerns at this point perhaps it is already time to bail out and start afresh.
Rob’s got a point there.
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ET says:
@ brian astaga
SHE IS ABSOLUTELY GORGEOUS AND IS BEING TRAPPED TO DO THIS TO SUPPORT HER FAMILY!!!!
I wonder if you would be so apologetic on her behalf if she wasn’t so absolutely gorgeous.
I’m sure she doesnt want to be a prostitute……..
An old and wise Indonesian saying comes to mind..
No money, no honey.
is pulsa money??
No, pulsa is for asking money.
learning bahasa indo and how to be a good muslim is a good plan but dont get too excited with it!
Say Asyhadu an la ila ha illalah waasyhadu anna Muhammadar rasulullah who have hope for muslim pussy.
If you find it difficult lilo-lilo will do too. -
Suryo Perkoso says:
Wow, this is a great one, loads to comment on here.
1) @ Anthony – You are “asal”, not “asli” – a common mistake, but lets start the way we mean to procede.
2) @ Matey with the going to a hotel for a shag – you had no choice mate, unless you live in an exclusive perumahan like wot I does with no RT/RW, then you will need to find a hotel, see if you keep shagging at home (yours or hers), then Pak RT will be round your drum with the Wilkinson freshly stropped, ready to give you 36 stitches and 2 weeks in hospital. In most areas mate, it just won’t get the time of day, if your “girlfriend” has her own kontrakan then she will get drummed out in a flash if she keeps bringing blokes back. BTW for what it is worth, the RT/RW system was brought in by the Japs, it isn’t an Indo idea, so I am led to believe.
@ RifRaf – WTF? Hard core what? Putting on a Jilbab now and then and have an Islam KTP does NOT make you a hard core muslim – I should add that gnoshing on someones hampton is probably not halal.
@ Brian Astaga – Yes well, what can you say. Whilst most Javanese Toms are nowhere near as professional as their Thai counterparts, they do know how to play the game, particularly if they have already migrated to the smoke and sudah kenal dunia. I’m sorry to have to sound like a crusty old bule, but you are still shitting green in this game buddy. There was a classic posted a few years back on a site I am permanently banned from because I don’t do “hello kitty” (and I don’t like smug, poncy frog munchers) – anyway this green bule posted and asked about this old Tom that he had become fond of, pretty much the same story as yours, except he took the next step, love, spelled “lust”, he fell for the old tosh that this university girl had made a couple of silly mistakes, and carried on, he wouldn’t listen, called all us crusty bules nasty names, then ended up kawin adat, a month later, along came baby Adam (she was already up the spout, lord knows who the father was), and 6 months after that, she had fleeced him and her brother was going to knock his twat in. Now, our friend was only a bleeding painter by trade (houses, not chapel ceilings), and since the contract to Artex Prambanan and paint it green and purple had been put on hold by the Kampungan Objek Parawisata Society, he was pretty much in the kak when it came to finding work.
Our little lady promptly did a Rupert Maxwell on him and had it on her toes with his pension money and baby Adam. Well he didn’t want to listen, and I suspect you don’t either, so you must make your own way with this, there is no point in asking for advice. (it was you who fell in love with the brass wasn’t it?).@ Mike Coxblack, yep, bless little Yenni, she is a real sweety, I managed to sneak in first while thw wife was unloading the tribe, and managed a little hand hold and a palm rub which always tenderizes the old knicker elastic – then the bloody kids turned up and the war office started slurping G&T like it was tap water so me moment of magic evaporated. To be honest, Yenni is not that far behind KiKi (jagung muda KiKi), and I just need to pack the wife off to see the wicked witch in Solo, then I can give Yenni the attention she deserves, starting with a ride in me 3500cc V6 passion wagon.
@ Anyone who is bored enough to read this far – You ALWAYS pay for it, you could be married to a nun (do they get married?) and you’ll still pay for it, one way or another – point is, how much porridge is already in the bowl, if you get my drift. Let’s not kid ourselves here, some of these girls are very much like a parrot’s cage (had a cock or two in it) – I can’t get much enthusiasm for something that has been around the block a few times, one or two careful owners is one thing, something with more history than a driving school Nissan Micra is quite another.
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I suppose I should also spell proceed correctly too – got excited with all this talk of Yenni and Kiki and the baby sweet corn.
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shawty says:
brian astaga : I think u better finish ur engineering study and use ur GOVERMENT money properly rather than messing around making opinion about some unlucky girl in developing countries
rifraf : I agree with Oigal, u such not nice friend try to insult someone over the net and I think u just being annoyed cos she doesn’t want u or just stick with u ha..It’s free world anyone can do whatever they wants girl or boy either sleep with 5 diff people in a day whatever religion they have
what a boring narrow minded people..zzzt
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Shawty, would you like me to send you a keyboard that has all the letters?
Actually Brian’s Brass isn’t unlucky, she is doing very well out of it.
As for rifraf’s girl, well you can’t blame her can you?
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Kekik says:
Peoples wants that. Fck them and give money only!!
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@ ET
buddy, there is nothing in her life which needs to be apologetic towards, and it really doesnt matter whether she is gorgeous or not, maybe we wouldnt have met in the first place if there wasnt an attraction to each other…understand? i dont think you do!@Shawty
why would you say that? when in all my posts I have been supporting this girl and caring for her!
and i’m not making opinion I am telling it how it is, or can’t you read
and she isnt unlucky! and i’m not messing around or I wouldnt waste my time discussing her on this website!
AND YES EVERYONE SHE IS A PROSTITUTE AND SHE DOES LOVE THE COCK! BUT I LOVE HER AND HER PUSSY …..GOOD BYE
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Brian – can you come back in a year when she has drained your bank account and broken your sweet little heart?
As for the attraction, I suggest that it may be towards your wallet.
I’ve got an idea, why don’t you get her to post here, in Indonesian will be fine, it will be good to hear her side.
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fire up suryo thats the way!
im not giving her any money but….
get her to post here and talk to you…………………..ill talk to her and see what she thinks……………….
she would probably consider suicide b4 that my friend
take care of yourself
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Brian, you miss the point, I’m not sure anyone cares, it’s you that is going for serious open wallet surgery, no one else. And if it is just money you lose, then count yourself lucky.
It’s yet another case of “laki-laki dorong sapi”.
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Farah says:
@ Brian
Wow… and you said i have lots of anger.. look what you write again after an ice cold shower, think with your head, not with your.. errhh.. if you have one anyway.Brian my dear honey bunny sugar sweet pie (bwahaha)… some people here said the truth, just finish your degree, and get a job building houses for poor people or something more useful than bangin’ a whore for free and think you’re doing world a good favor.
Of course selling cupcakes better than being someone selling her self and what so ever pride she have left. I’ve seen indonesian women do lots of thing than being prostitute to pay their children university fee. Read that right UNIVERSITY. Its a very naive thought that to pay school fee you have to be a prostitute, and she have to do it, and that’s the only way.
If she cut her expense on expensive THICK make up that she use every night, cut expense on alcohol (what 40-50 thousand per shoot?that’s price for a lunch), cut expense to go to hair spa for pedicure or manicure, cut her monthly expense for useless mini dresses… and much more.. she could afford the whole expense. Especially if the mother and children live in kampung/village.
Hey.. whats up with all the anger because i am asking you the question about she own her self? every time someone pay her does she really own her self that time with that guy? i am just saying the truth, the fact about the rental units.
I am not trying getting into your skin. As you post here so i assume you want other point of view about what you write here. So that’s MY point of view. You don’t like it so just ignore it, why you have to be upset ? (because maybe i am saying the truth and hit the right spot and you can’t accept it?) grow up kiddo !!
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get her to post here and talk to you…………………..ill talk to her and see what she thinks……………….
she would probably consider suicide b4 that my friend
isnt she such a gentle heart in a mean world.. aaaawwwwwww.. what an angelic diva……
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Roel says:
@Farah
I think it is time to put the DVD of “once upon a time in the west” again into the slot.
How sweet the beginning when you see the intention of this man to give such a poor strong experienced lady a brilliant future.Where was? it in the movie? she responds “no woman died of this, it is just another filthy memory” Here you see west and east are quite devided but woman is quite the same everywhere.
And yes the topic is indeed to elegant to become boring by those without control over their anger.
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Andy says:
Brian, I got to say I agree with Farah and Suryo here….You are in love so aren’t in a position to make a balanced, careful decision. Take it from me, I was once in your shoes. Young, attractive Javanese lady who was many years my junior. But she was WRONG with a capital W. I’ve since moved on and have a Chinese Indonesian wife closer to my age and a young son. But I learnt from my mistakes and thought exactly the same way as you several years ago. I was burnt and have since picked myself up and moved on (and back home). If you make the tough decision now you will hurt in the short term but you will come out a better and stronger person. If not you will be hurt and broke and wishing you listened to the advice on this forum.
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andy thanks for not being a sarcastic pr*k in your post like many others
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Roel said
How sweet the beginning when you see the intention of this man to give such a poor strong experienced lady a brilliant future.
Isn’t the road to hell paved with good intentions?
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Brian, would walked into the sarcasm that you received with a cocky, know it all attitude. In like a lion, and out like a lamb as the saying goes.
You might thing that your girfriend speaks good english and understands you, but let me assure you that she doesn’t. Oh, and when a Javanese says “yes” it can mean “no”, and the list goes on.
If you don’t believe me, ask your girlfriend to translate for you the following :-
“lara wirang”
(i’ll save you the bother of her telling you she doesn’t understand) – it’s javanese for “the pain of shame”, Javanese are incredibly conscious of losing face, which is supposed to be something that the Thai’s are good at – well let me tell you that the Javanese are better at it. The whole social hierarchy MUST be observed – there is a twat on another forum who speaks 5 words of indonesian, and insists as a grown man to be called “mas” – it just doesn’t work, the whole culture has to be observed, and a girl who lives with a guy outside of marriage (99.999999% of the time) will be regarded as trash and have verbal comments made at – if indeed society allows it to happen, and a girl who is a prostitute will certainly not be respected in any shape or form – forget comments about it being her “right” to work as she wishes etc, she will almost certainly be carrying a dodgy KTP for fear of police ever turning up at her home address.
Actually, it’s quite a similar story to a workmate of mine who fell for a Thai brass from a pool bar (Sukhumvit Soi 3, next to the beer garden) – she is now sitting pretty in his penthouse suite , purchased from the same of the property he had in the UK, she got herself up the duff, he speaks not a word of Thai, and the whole lot is falling to bits around his ears.
In the Honeymonster’s case, the pro wasn’t even pretty, and certainly didn’t have what could be described as a nice personality.
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@ brian
andy thanks for not being a sarcastic pr*k in your post like many others
Fair crack of the whip. Sarcasm may be a way of dealing with ones own past. It put things into perspective without becoming fluffy.
My advice to you is: tell your mother about your experience and listen to what she has to say. She knows you better than we do.
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My mother is no longer alive otherwise I would ask her any more advice for me, I’m all ears.
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Sorry to hear that. If so ask other women who are close to you, preferably older ones with life experience. Men tend to see these things through macho glasses. Women generally have a more realistic approach to matters concerning the spell of the magic triangle. They know the power concealed in it.
Don’t dispel Farah too soon. From what we learn from her comments she’s been around the block too. -
@ brian astaga
If you want my opinion the only way for a man to deal with a whore – outside of paying for her services – is either to become a doctor or a pimp.
Engineers are definitely in the wrong business.
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Mate, I would really like to know where have you seen parents or others agreeing to the fact that their 18 yr daughter is bonking someone in an hourly rental hotel?
These are just ideas that its between 2 consenting adults.
Get real. No matter how much open minded a family is, they will never allow or agree or be okay with their daughter bonking with 8-10 guys before she settles down.
Poor by no standards at all. This girl has money, property, cars, everthing.
And the devil inside was also leading to renting out porn and enacting it with almost every guy she slept with.
And this also included clicking pictures and making a sort of porn movie of their own.
Yes, I agree about the lil boy bragging bit, but thats not much in this case. You should see it yourself. Its not out like the Itenas video, but a certain basketball club has its own collection.
What we call as more adjusted, open mindedness, consenting adults, etc might be blasphemous and totally destructive to certain people.