Dating Indonesian Girls
Apr 4th, 2006, in Society, by PatungDating Indonesian women may not be for everyone.
Indonesian women, particularly on the island of Java, are exceptionally beautiful. They tend towards the very feminine side, with lovely skin, are not too tall, and have knock-out smiles. There’s plenty of plus on that side of things.
If wer’e to be honest we have to recognise that many men are interested in a woman who will take care of him, do the housework without complaint, and take care of other matters similarly without much bother. Your average Indonesian girl often fits the bill in this respect, certainly more than your average western woman, the less said about them the better.
On the other hand going out with Indonesian women in a romantic way can have many mysterious pitfalls.
Some women here are clearly only interested in money. Some men are unbothered by this. Others of the female variety, can, once we get to know them very well, come across as practically insane, hysterically emotional, scheming, over-possessive, inclined to, usually fake, attempts at self-harm in order to get their way. As I said, not for the faint-hearted.
There are a few Indonesia dating websites although the area is not nearly as developed as that in nearby Phillipines or Thailand. To begin your online journey on the Indonesian dating scene our very own “Meet” section has many a lady eager for company.
4,898 Comments on “Dating Indonesian Girls”
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ET says:
Farah said
Indonesian women just like another in entire world, why you think its different?
I don’t agree. An awful lot of them look prettier and more feminine which confuses the male brain and makes him think with his small euh… ‘head’.
Men are born idiots.
*sigh*
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percy says:
farah,
this is not lust>>
Its not abt I like complicated stuffs or not. My ex husband was indo n as well my ex bf…n they caused problems too…yes its really hard for me to take the decision cos its not merely abt me but also my son. But i would never know if i not try at all.
He s ready to quit his everything from his country…n i will know it will be a disaster for me n him…cos he wouldnt be easy to get job in indo.I have enough savings in my account.. so if there s something happen in the future.. i can come back to indo n find a job.
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Farah says:
@ percy
Sorry if you do think i am a little bit straight talking about that.
I think its better if he really want to marry you, you live in indonesia, and he could try to build a business here, something that he could do (plumbing business?maybe?).
The living cost is higher where he is, for sure, and the recession hit harder in western country for sure, would be hard for you to find job there. If anything ever went wrong (i only wish good wish for you), it would be also kind of hard to go back home with all of those heart broken and of course frustration. Here in indonesia, you’re settled, better job, probably better salary than him, and your family here if anything ever happened.. and they at least will never abandon your children if bad things happened.But that’s just my suggestion to think of…. all the best wishes for you !
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Jomblowati says:
Hey y’all..peace n love..no fightin’
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sheikhalam says:
I often travel to Indonesia for travelling. looking for someone above 40 years old who can give company during my stay in Indonesia.
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Mike Oxblack says:
Hey you missed one Patung. He’s back with a new selection!!
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Some new faces there, but Pinkan is still there, she must be one hell of a picky girl…
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@ patung & mike
hehehe.. good idea for lonely bule.. -
Young Pinkan appears to be about 11 years old in that photo Mr. P. She’s possibly waiting until there’s grass on the pitch (which can be mown off immediately).
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Jess says:
Omg this is a great a site! Glad to stumble on here.
I’m a 23 y’old indonesian girl and I have to admit, I like bule. I’m familiar with their culture ’cause I used to live in a town where there were lots of expat families living there.
First of all, to harry (page1), NOT all of us indonesian girls are choosy. I personally would date a man with any nationality IF he’s fun to be with. And if we’re clicked and we like each other, I wouldn’t complain if he’s not as tall as other bules. I think what I want is a real relationship with a real person. so don’t fall into stereotypes pls. If you’ve met too many indonesian girls who are shallow like that, I’m sorry for you. but I’m not one of ’em.
And not all indonesian girls want to be with foreigners because they’re looking for money. Maybe most of them, yea. but at least not me.
@percy
I’m so happy for you coz he sounds serious! ughh i want a man who’s committed to me too. 🙁
But I have to agree with Farah. You are settled here, maybe it’s best for you to stay here. but that’s just my opinion. If you think you have a shot over there, then just do it. Best of luck for u and ur son!! 😀 -
Suryo Perkoso says:
Never let it be said that old Mike Oxblack is slow to miss an opportunity.
And yes, the same girls are there, including the one with the flappy ears, and the one who holds her head to stop it falling off.
You’ll note that it’s Yuyun who does the sames pitch now, after Sheldon’s rabbi said it wasn’t kosher (unless he got a cut). Yuyn is also keen to point out that she doesn’t sell the girls, she only rents them out. -
azan says:
As far as I know indonesian girls don’t like indonesian boys. They like arab, pakistani, and american boys. They like tall hairy guys.
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Peet says:
May I suggest if you marry/live together with any foreign lady best to live in the country where she is from. Less complications at the end, family issues, religion, racial issues etc. It is easier for us to adapt as most of us are travelers anyway (or work abroad)
Does not mean you should not take your wife or girlfriend over for holidays once in a while to meet family, friends and for them to see how your life was before you came to Indonesia.
I sometimes get the impression when I talk with Indonesians (male and female) that they think everything is better outside Indonesia.@percy
Let him come to you, don’t throw away what you have built up in all those years.
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Rob says:
@ All…
60 pages and still counting, what a thread!
@ Peet…
To each their own. This is not going to be true for all couples, and it is certainly not true in almost all of the couples that I know who are involved in inter-racial relationships.
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Rob,
This is only my own experience, sure not true for everyone, luckily for them.
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azan Says:
August 16th, 2009 at 5:00 pm
As far as I know indonesian girls don’t like indonesian boys. They like arab, pakistani, and american boys. They like tall hairy guys.Mate, i’m sorry to upset you on this, but they don’t like pakistani boys, my wife assured me of this. I’m led to believe that chinese girls do however like Pakistani boys, especially now they have found out that they taste like chicken.
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Rifraf says:
Pakistani boys? taste like chicken?
No way.
We taste amazing.
And Indonesian women do like Indian and Pakistani men.
I have dated an Indonesian women from Bandung, xxxx and she is one experienced woman in matters of taste so to say. Name it Javanese, Sundanese, Balinese and outside, Japanese, Pakistani, Indians.
Althought she was buttery.
She has majorly confused, who to date and who to marry.
An Indonesian, a pakistani, an indian or an american.
Within the indonesian group, she was confused about bandung and jakarta.
Dating her was nothing short of a fairy tale with a lot of drama and hollywood stuff involved.
Her confusion and her friend’s who used to advise her….were also so confused…that it was clear to me that women from Bandung wanted sex, money and comfort….and not too sure about the kind of man they marry, the nature. -
@rifraf
Not all women from bandung like money, sex, comfort,etc. At least u cud exclude me bro! -
Odinius says:
All people from ______ are _______, whereas all people from ______ are ________.
Don’t you agree?
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Pakistani boys? taste like chicken?
No way.
We taste amazing.
And Indonesian women do like Indian and Pakistani men.
I have dated an Indonesian women from Bandung, Alia Karenina and she is one experienced woman in matters of taste so to say. Name it Javanese, Sundanese, Balinese and outside, Japanese, Pakistani, Indians.
Althought she was buttery.
She has majorly confused, who to date and who to marry.
An Indonesian, a pakistani, an indian or an american.
Within the indonesian group, she was confused about bandung and jakarta.
Dating her was nothing short of a fairy tale with a lot of drama and hollywood stuff involved.
Her confusion and her friend’s who used to advise her….were also so confused…that it was clear to me that women from Bandung wanted sex, money and comfort….and not too sure about the kind of man they marry, the nature.On a more serious note…. possibly in a pay-as-you-go relationship, but otherwise no. You guys just don’t mix. An associate of mine is of Indian descent and all of his kids are married with similar keturunan India – it’s very rare to see Indians and Pakistani’s marry outside their own circle, and that is also true in the UK.
And also let’s be honest, if we continue the Indonesian girl stereotype of wanting to end up with a rich expat and get whisked off to pastures new, she is hardly going to appreciate ending up on an Air India flight to Gujurat and her very own camel – and let’s also not beat about the bush here, many Indo girls marry their bule sweethearts and have dream of their Disneyland castle, only to end up in a council house in Burnley (which in it’s own way is like Gujurat, just without the camels).
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Suryo Perkoso said
An associate of mine is of Indian descent and all of his kids are married with similar keturunan India – it’s very rare to see Indians and Pakistani’s marry outside their own circle, and that is also true in the UK.
A noticeable exception to this occurred sometime ago in this thread. An Indian guy – sunny was his nickname and it certainly wasn’t stolen – was madly in love with an Indonesian girl and he was even prepared to sell his soul to the devil to be allowed to marry her. I wonder what became of him.
As for me myself I certainly wouldn’t object marry an Indian woman. Because I love curry and many are also extraordinary beautiful, in that order. On the downside having to watch Bollywood movies all the time is no picnic, but neither are Indonesian sinetrons.
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Am sure not all Bandung women are like that. But xxxx was. And so were all her friends from the most popular university, ITB. This group consisted of 6-8 girls.
Truth is stranger than fiction.
The best part is that all these women were so into pre-marital sex. Even though they belonged to wonderful families.
I am not talking about one partner. Many of these women who I talk about lost their virginities around 17-18.
And by the time they had settled down, like marrying and all, they had dated around 4-5 guys. And all of these relationships included sex and much much more.
Every date ended with something more which the parents will never approve of, in movie halls, in cars, in friend’s houses, anywhere.What is the thing about pre-marital sex being a taboo here?
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Pre-marital sex is desperation in disguise for hypocrite ‘bandung’ bride to be of yours.
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I don’t deny it.
They were desperate to seek their sexuality.
They didn’t even care about what will their parents think if they come to know about them.
But they….just went ahead….full steam…..doing everything with their temporary boyfriends, everything under the sun that a married woman might feel shy of with her husband.Hypocracy exists in women of Bandung that I have seen.
They are perpetually two timing.
Am I right or wrong? -
@rifraf
Trust me, ain’t nothing to think when they ready with their legs wide spread!Another thing., they dont seem to have ability to think, cuz their brain s right on their p***y!
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I could not agree more about their brains being between their wonderful shapely legs.
🙂Another thing is the level of commitment.
Take this women, xxx, for example.
Has relationship since 17 with a start basketball player, xxx. (remember Garuda Basketball?), loses her virginity to him, does everything under the sun to please him…sexually, like anytime orals, twice in a day, in cars, in his house, in Garuda club, including some really nice photography by xxxx. 😉
Then dumps him right in the centre because she can’t take pressure from parents.
Then gets into a relationship with a rich guy and again does everything and goes for holidays with him (obviously lying to her parents) and does everything (in cars, in movie halls, in house, everywhere), then goes to Japan and has a relationship with a Pakistani (sleeps with him, showers with him), comes back and goes back to her rich guy.
During the talks of engagement with that rich guy, she starts sleeping with an Indian and develops relations with him, then while the Indian was away, sleeps with her collegeaue once, then with another man.
Starts dating another guy, xxxx, and does quite a lot. (Once she was on phone with that Indian boyfriend saying “I love you”, while being in bed with him).All this was explained by a simple sentence by her “I was confused.”
Really????
How can confusion lead to sluttishness?
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All this was explained by a simple sentence by her “I was confused.”
Not quite confused, “demented” is the word you are looking for.
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Demented….not exactly.
xxxx and her friends were really intelligent and knew exactly what were they doing.
A demented person will not lie to her parents and go for 24 hours to Jakarta just to be in a hotel room with her boyfriend (that time guy from Garuda Basketball), just to have sex, more sex and more sex. I think she clocked 7-8 times in that trip, which included the topless drive from Bandung to Jakarta and oral, both ways.It was more of Nymphomania which explains the promiscuous sexual behaviour, persitent thoughts about sex and making plans to do something new today just to have an orgasm, constantly thinking of new ways of satisfying her partner and herself……and if the partner is away, get another partner.
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@ michael
She just trouble. Hate to say.
She sound so insecure and had so many hidden agenda. Why would you have a relationship with someone but you can not enjoy it ? It wont last that’s what i thought. If you’re just expecting something bad happened most of the time.
She want a baby, and its another problem for you. Do you think most of indonesian parent would be okay with babies outside marriage?
If you don’t mind to convert to islam that would be good since indonesia government not allowed moslem women to married guys from other religion. Unless you just want to be gf-bf for the rest of your life.
Indonesian women just like another in entire world, why you think its different? if you sense trouble just stay away… its just more headache (even for me to read it) i don’t even know what she want (from what you write). Just someone whos feel so insecure about her self and your relationship.