Dating Indonesian Girls
Apr 4th, 2006, in Society, by PatungDating Indonesian women may not be for everyone.
Indonesian women, particularly on the island of Java, are exceptionally beautiful. They tend towards the very feminine side, with lovely skin, are not too tall, and have knock-out smiles. There’s plenty of plus on that side of things.
If wer’e to be honest we have to recognise that many men are interested in a woman who will take care of him, do the housework without complaint, and take care of other matters similarly without much bother. Your average Indonesian girl often fits the bill in this respect, certainly more than your average western woman, the less said about them the better.
On the other hand going out with Indonesian women in a romantic way can have many mysterious pitfalls.
Some women here are clearly only interested in money. Some men are unbothered by this. Others of the female variety, can, once we get to know them very well, come across as practically insane, hysterically emotional, scheming, over-possessive, inclined to, usually fake, attempts at self-harm in order to get their way. As I said, not for the faint-hearted.
There are a few Indonesia dating websites although the area is not nearly as developed as that in nearby Phillipines or Thailand. To begin your online journey on the Indonesian dating scene our very own “Meet” section has many a lady eager for company.
4,898 Comments on “Dating Indonesian Girls”
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Found it, that’s a good story….
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timdog says:
Thought of it as IM potential the minute I read it…
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Farah says:
They’ve done a DNA test and it’s definitely not his… I guess it will probably be a sinetron actor when it grows up…
This would, perhaps – Mr Patung? – make a good IM story, no?
Italian??? hmmm
In next 14 years the baby will definitely on tv screen as new comer in sinetron/advertising world, and mom don’t have to explain about the Italian dad what so ever…as long as the money coming (hehehehe) -
ET says:
Farah said
Italian??? hmmm
In next 14 years the baby will definitely on tv screen as new comer in sinetron/advertising world, and mom don’t have to explain about the Italian dad what so ever…as long as the money coming (hehehehe)This might well be the case. While he was at sea the poor sailer had been made grow horns. You see, Italians have a habit of turning absent husbands into cornutos.
But no worries, it’s painful while they grow but in the end one learns how to use them. -
jen says:
Farah:
Italian??? hmmm In next 14 years the baby will definitely on tv screen as new comer in sinetron/advertising world, and mom don’t have to explain about the Italian dad what so ever…as long as the money coming (hehehehe)
ET:
But no worries, it’s painful while they grow but in the end one learns how to use them.
Somehow I feel sorry to the child I’m carrying now. Is there a way to prevent him receiving all the prejudice about the mixed-race, especially the children born out of wedlock? Is there a place in this country (or should I say, in this world) that’s free from such things – so they can grow up normally like other children, not to be bitter… just like some of you guys?
I’m starting questioning my common sense when I decided to keep the baby.Oh, btw, not all Italian (men) look like Fabio Canavaro (my teenage crush on him doesn’t seem to be over 😛 ), or like they come straight out of fashion magazine. So I don’t think all Indo-Italian (or other [western??] nation in that matters) children are always model/TV star material.
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I’ll be moving some of these posts to my upcoming “Latin Lover” post….unless anyone objects….
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@Patung
Is there a threat about oz lover where I can bitch about someone? 😛 -
Well there’s a whole topic there, Oz lover vs. latin lover, but bitch away, I won’t get offended or anything. 🙂 (I’ve already got my pic of Fabio Canavaro for the other post, thanks for the tip on him, handsome devil…)
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deta says:
@ Jen
Somehow I feel sorry to the child I’m carrying now
Oh, Jen there is no place on earth which is free from injustice of any kind, that’s for sure. But never underestimate your child, a child raised by a single parent is usually tougher than we thought. Just give her/him trust and love, and everything is gonna be fine…..
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Nay says:
I don’t have time to read all the posts in this thread (there sure are a lot), but in my opinion Indonesian girls are some of the best out there. I really cannot understand some of the bad comments some of the posters have made about them.
Personally I have no problems with them whatsoever and they constantly spoil me. They all look great, are genuine, take care of themselves, and are markedly intelligent.I think a lot of bule (which I am as well) go wrong is by feeling that they have to have some kind of “serious” relationship with them. Quite the opposite! Society and the overall conservative majority in Indonesia (we all know who they are) would all have them married and sold off to husbands willing to pay for them… and in many cases the women here feel powerless to resist what seems to them like an inevitability. As foreigners, along we come and we’re DIFFERENT… not only physically (which the ladies find attractive), but a far cry from the jealous, possessive, angry men they often find themselves around.
So… call me a playboy if you like, but the fact is, women LIKE playboys! Anybody who frees them from having to play out a role that restricts their freedom (like in a relationship, or a marriage) is a godsend to them, and someone who they all like to be around. The important thing is to be honest and truthful about the sort of relationships you want with women. Personally, I believe that loving relationships should be open and about freedom — which means that I really don’t mind, and in fact encourage, girls that I know to see other guys, if they like them. People are going to do this anyway, whether you want them to or not, and whether you are jealous or not. It’s normal for men to want to attract other women as it is for women to be attractive for other men in their life… and there can never be enough admirers in anyone’s life.
At least I don’t have to deal with “breakups” and “cheating” and a lot of nonsense that other people have in their realtionships. It also means that I have a free pass to meeting other women without the guilt, because I did not promise them anything but my continued loyal friendship regardless of whatever happens to her in her future life, with me or with some other man! That’s a better deal than a jealous husband or boyfriend who they are forced to “play a role with” under the threat of a looming breakup!
I also really don’t buy the fact that Indonesian women are materialistic. They are far more down to earth than, say, Chinese women are when it comes to the importance of money in this short time we have on earth. Sure, they do ask for a lot of things — but if you’re friends with someone, and you’re in a position to help them out in a small way … why wouldn’t you? Even when some of the girls have asked for more than I felt capable of providing, my reply of “no” was always respected and I have never been pestered by them for doing so. In many cases when I’ve needed their assistance, they’ve only ever been as helpful and as giving as they can be.
Sure, there are probably some gold-diggers out there, but you’d have to wonder what kind of family they’ve grown up in. By and large, the currency Indonesian women want is your love and attention, and they cannot get enough of that from everyone in their lives. If you feel that you can’t give them that and have to pay for it with a token gesture of money, then I think that’s particularly sad. Sure, women respect men with money – but more about who made the money rather than the money itself.I don’t have any problem meeting Indonesian girls either. They are literally everywhere are more than open for conversation and some flirtation. I get eyeballed by the female shop assistants every time I walk into a department store. While you generally don’t hold hands and kiss in public in Indonesia, some of the conversations I’ve had with the women in public have made some of the stories in Playboy sound tame, and you can get away with quite a lot! The girls fall in love with their ears.
So in a nutshell, they are very loving, caring, loyal, intelligent, family oriented, and open minded. It’s unfortunate that they are simply trapped by a society that says that a man should “buy” them in a serious relationship (which really mirrors prostitution), and that they shouldn’t sleep around or do whatever they feel comes naturally … which is a catch-22 for ANY woman, and certainly no way for them to live. They are forced to put on a big act, lie, and pretend that they are innocent virgins to the men who will pay good money for that illusion, whereas I’m blessed that I can see the women as the wonderful sexy creatures they honestly truly are!
Lots of love everyone,
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@deta
You wouldn’t want your children to ask the meaning of ‘anak haram’ and ‘pelacur’ at an early age. You won’t like it to get a phonecall from school telling your daughter had a fight wth a boy because he said she didn’t have a father (I always tell her she does have a father, only me don’t have a husband. And she does have her father around).
This year she decided to take Tae Kwon Do so she could kick anyone who said bad things about mommy. She tries to protect me and she’s barely 8.
How I wish she is still like my niece, who fought her friends over a barbie. I don’t think I like my little girl being a tough girl. Not like that. I really want her to be ‘normal’.
And I hate it when I talk to some moms at school they said I need not to worry about making her study, because she is pretty and she will get a rich husband easily (do you see the how it relates? I don’t). Or that… she will play in sinetron.Maybe I need to learn to be tougher from my little princess.
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bs says:
Nay, man, you are the true woman magnet.
Go help those girls. They need you. -
@ Jen
Somehow I feel sorry to the child I’m carrying now. Is there a way to prevent him receiving all the prejudice about the mixed-race, especially the children born out of wedlock? Is there a place in this country (or should I say, in this world) that’s free from such things – so they can grow up normally like other children, not to be bitter… just like some of you guys?
I’m starting questioning my common sense when I decided to keep the baby.Oh, btw, not all Italian (men) look like Fabio Canavaro (my teenage crush on him doesn’t seem to be over 😛 ), or like they come straight out of fashion magazine. So I don’t think all Indo-Italian (or other [western??] nation in that matters) children are always model/TV star material.
Whats done is done… you don’t want to regret the choices you’ve made all the time right?
I wont say raising a children out of wedlock would be easy, no words to comfort you because we are talking about Indonesia people. No things that easy here. The only good side is, you will have each other all the time, when the baby is born, the baby is only yours, not the… biological dad (that’s the only thing that i could think of right now).
Oh yeah, not all mixed child looks like Tamara Blezensky or any other mixed people in TV. But if you’re talking about you’re own child, no matter how they look… aren’t you suppose to call them the prettiest thing in the whole universe??? 🙂 babies-children are amazing.. it could change people.
You wouldn’t want your children to ask the meaning of ‘anak haram’ and ‘pelacur’ at an early age. You won’t like it to get a phonecall from school telling your daughter had a fight wth a boy because he said she didn’t have a father (I always tell her she does have a father, only me don’t have a husband. And she does have her father around).
This year she decided to take Tae Kwon Do so she could kick anyone who said bad things about mommy. She tries to protect me and she’s barely 8.
How I wish she is still like my niece, who fought her friends over a barbie. I don’t think I like my little girl being a tough girl. Not like that. I really want her to be ‘normal’.
And I hate it when I talk to some moms at school they said I need not to worry about making her study, because she is pretty and she will get a rich husband easily (do you see the how it relates? I don’t). Or that… she will play in sinetron.Well sist…. i was 5 when i pick fight with boys and kick them right on their crouch and its not because i don’t have a dad…
Kids always find a way to bully each other. My sister, got bullied since she is 9 because she doesn’t have a father ANYMORE…. my dad passed away when she was 9, and her friends call her “Anak Yatim”, and anytime there’s kids loosing pencils or wallet they will straight pointing at her, because she is the only one who doesn’t have father anymore (bad stigma about that).Now, age 21, she is strong, like Deta said, children with single parent tends to be stronger… now she work in one of reputable Bank, had scholarship, finish her study earlier than her friends, doing traditional dance all over Asian countries. I am proud of my baby sister !
BTW, martial arts like taekwondo, not only teach your girl a self defense and discipline, it teach her to have self confident too 🙂 its good for her!
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@Nay
You remind me of someone, ALOT. The only thing that makes me think you’re not him because he wouldn’t write anything that long hehehe
One thing I can tell you (or that guy I was referring above)… I don’t like the idea of sleeping with my friends.
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@ Nay
So… call me a playboy if you like, but the fact is, women LIKE playboys! Anybody who frees them from having to play out a role that restricts their freedom (like in a relationship, or a marriage) is a godsend to them, and someone who they all like to be around. The important thing is to be honest and truthful about the sort of relationships you want with women.
Well…. i am women, and i don’t like playboys/player… it does sound cheap or easy for me (any girls could get free way to your pants?). Easy come, easy go….
But i do agree, at the very beginning of your relationship, if you don’t intend to having any bound such as marriage in the future, should state that clearly. Start things with honesty will be good.
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I totally respect a woman’s desire to be married before having sex with a man. If they’re willing to satisfy a single man’s desire and receive a lifetime of support from him for that then I respect that.
It doesn’t mean that we can’t be friends anyway, and it I’ll still like them and it won’t change anything. My offer still remains on the table, and it’s always the woman’s choice anyhow.
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Farah dear,
I’d been living in Indonesia for 32 years of my life.
A bit OOT, I know how people think it’s ok to abuse someone by calling names here. They can always find a way to attact me verbally; religion, gender, ethnicity, phisical characteristic, culture, including how I dress and my way of life were never be free from being given a negative label. Some are true… like when they sneer “dasar Batak!” at me, but how come it leaves a negative opinion of something not even negative. Like when people said “dasar Batak”… yes I’m Batak… but how come it then sounds like it is a negative thing?
But my point was, I’m always double standard: when some abang2 on the street call me something unappropriate, I just flip them off, with style 😉
It’s just sad when an educated young woman would make a comment likeIn next 14 years the baby will definitely on tv screen as new comer in sinetron/advertising world, and mom don’t have to explain about the Italian dad what so ever…as long as the money coming
… since we’re exposed to the human right, gender equality, discrimination, and presumed innocent until proven guilty issues in our everyday life. But that’s just me. Of course you’re free to say whatever you like, this is (suposed to be) a democratic country anyway.
About my girl, she has a freedom to choose whatever she wants to learn according to her age, just not for the wrong reason (like defending her mom).
She’s beautiful, and very talented. I’m amazed how such a little creature could absorb so many things, from foreign languages to music, art to sports. Yes I’m a proud mommy 🙂 . Therefore the need to protect her from world’s cynics has grown huge.
A talent hunter try to convince us for her to do a tv commercial but it’s a no no until she can decide on her own. We did a couple of shots for women magazines, but it was a friendly gesture since the fashion editor, who happen to b my friend, couldn’t get models in such a tight deadline. For a half day shot, we ‘only’ got around 400 thousands rups and lunch (I think most parents would rather work theirselves instead of rely on the children to support them). She said she prefered to take pictures than had her picture taken, so be it. For now she wants to be a writer when she grow up, she thinks it’s pretty cool to travel to beautiful places and take pictures and make a living from it. Did I say she was hardly 8?My adopted daughter, a year younger than the sister, is a pribumi. With her jet-black hair and lighter side of olive skin, she’s no less beautiful and talented than her sister. She too faces problems like any other kids in the world. Without trying to underestimate her difficulties of being a child, for me they’re ‘just normal’ things as a part of their developmental stage, that I’m as her mother can help her go through it. She has never been name-calling, or I heard anyone saying that she’d have an easy life for her beautiful appearance, or the parents forbid their children not to befriend with her… Or not given a chance to do the spelling bee competition because she looks too bule etc.
Both are my children… both are (relatively) not trouble makers. They go to the same school, but they’re treated differently by the people. -
@ Jen
It’s just sad when an educated young woman would make a comment like
In next 14 years the baby will definitely on tv screen as new comer in sinetron/advertising world, and mom don’t have to explain about the Italian dad what so ever…as long as the money coming
… since we’re exposed to the human right, gender equality, discrimination, and presumed innocent until proven guilty issues in our everyday life. But that’s just me. Of course you’re free to say whatever you like, this is (suposed to be) a democratic country anyway.
I am just being cynical with the fact that MOST of the face we seen in local TV or say.. SINETRON are mixed face between caucasian/bule-indonesian. Even most of expat whos married local girl in my office at least have one of their children doing tv commercial or sinetron (lebih “menjual” ketimbang lokal?). Maybe because they consider as pretty-handsome by Indonesia standard, or maybe their face could somehow represent some product image or branding?? and the father (the expat father) short of proud of this.
So i don’t know why you should be sad with the thing i said? … but if you offended ill say sorry !!
And being a batak not sound that bad, mendingan jadi orang batak daripada orang gila! just smile at them, and say thank you for remind you about that 🙂
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Browser says:
Interesting conversation.
I didn’t read all posts, so I’ll just commented on several issues.
About the word “bule”; I believe the term is not meant to be racist, well, by definition it is racist, since it is used to describe another race, but it is not racist if you “define” racist as a derogatory, offensive remarks. But, this can go both ways. Probably best if I use the words in some scenarios of conversations.
For examples:
Scenario: A native girl met a “bule” and marry himHer family (okay her mother, not being sexist, but usually this is a woman’s thing) in kampung told her friend
The mother: Hey, my daughter just got married
Her friend: Oh yeah? Who’s her husband?
The mother: A bule ( orang bule, a caucassian)
Her friend: Wow, I envy you, I wish I can have a bule as a son in law.Six months later, the girl went home without her husband.
Neighbor 1: Hey, do you know that A’s daughter is home now, without her husband?
Neighbor 2: No I don’t, and where is her husband anyway?
Neighbor 1: He run out, went back to his country.
Neighbor 2: Dasar buleI can’t translate “dasar bule” phrase, if you don’t understand, probably best if you ask your Indonesian friend or whatever to translate it.
So, from my example, you probably can understand, that in the end “bule” is just our (Indonesian) word / slang for a Caucasian. Nothing negative or offensive. Think of it like this, instead of saying “an American, a Brits, an Aussie, a Dutch”, the Indonesian will say “a Bule”.
Most Indonesian have stereotyping the bules, same thing they did to their own countrymen (Jawa, Batak, Padang, Ambon, Manado etc) again, in the end, it is just a word for a Caucasian, and these people (Indonesian) is simply behave like a normal human would.
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Yes, the majority of Indonesian prefer white, pale skin.
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A playboy is a playboy for a reason(s). Of course he will attracts lots of women.
I’ll be speaking majority wise now.
Women wants commitment (and security, but I think all human wants security). So, these girls got attracted by a playboy, and they will agree to whatever he says (again, the majority). But in the end, there is one thing that is not bargainable; commitment. Back to my statement, a playboy is a playboy for a reason(s)..
Side note: Actually I wanted to make a comment on a forum’s thread about a 25yo girl who doesn’t want to move with his BF cause her parents don’t agree due to a fact that they’re not married. This could be an Indonesian cultural thing, or the girl wants him to marry her. NOT saying that the poster is a playboy (if he is, WTG!! lol), just the commitment thing.
I can’t post on forum, have to fill out some form and I don’t feel like it, sorry mod(s) 🙂
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It is sad that a kid is mocked in his / her school because s/he was born out of wedlock, but that is how the kid’s world. If it isn’t for the wedlock thingy, then it will be his / her name, his / her haircut, hair, shoes.. etc. Kids will always find something to mock. I don’t have kids, but I’ve been there.
What will be the saddest thing is if the parents actually “encourage” their kids to mock other kids who was born out of the wedlock. I don’t want to argue about religion or culture here. I just think that it is unfair, not making any sense to judge someone (a kid) by how s/he was born.
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Goddess_in_paradise says:
… since we’re exposed to the human right, gender equality, discrimination, and presumed innocent until proven guilty issues in our everyday life.
Unfortunately, I’ve seen more of “guilty until proven innocent” in this country. Sadly that is how most things work here and that has a lot to do with the mindset of most people here. Just to illustrate some, a woman who bore a child out of wedlock would be called names immediately, no matter how loving she is both as a woman and a mother, or if a woman chose to have a sexual relationship with her unmarried partner, no matter how much they love each other, she would be frown upon, called names etc. There are just no excuses for such things in this country. I should know, I am Indonesian myself, and this kind of mindset saddens me really.
Prejudice is a very strong thing in this country. One is supposed to live his life accordingly to the norm of the society, and if one is different or act differently from the norm, then one is most likely to be rejected. But if you dare to speak up, stand up to your own principles, it does not matter what people think of you. All that matters is that you are true to yourself. It is not easy, I know, but that is how I choose to live my life. Of course this probably doesn’t apply to everyone.
@Jen
Your daughters seem lovely 🙂 I wish only the best for you and your two little princesses 🙂 -
@farah
No, Farah, I’m not offended. It’s just a mother’s thing, trying to change the world to make a better place for the children 😉
If I got offended that easy, I wouldn’t be here right now@Goddess_in_paradise
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riniss says:
nice topic.too late to respond rite?lol.
I had BULE bf, but then we’re broke up.
I like Bule/white guys, because i think they are different than local (indonesian) guys.
like, hm from some bule friends i knew and from my ex BF, they are expressive, romantic, and (most of are) smart.
they (He) will show u and tell u whatever They (he) think(s) about you.
and most of Indonesian guys are spoil, whiner, demanding, and shallow.
for me, why I like Bule guys alot than indo guys, it isnt really about money *because im working and get money by my self*.it is because the characters of bule *i mentioned above*.if people said im looking for better life if i get married with bule guy, that’s ok.
that also can be true .because i’ll have cute children with the bule husband.LOL.so far, when I had love *and serious* relation with my ex Bule BF, no bad things happened that came up from our behaviors. so why we’re broke up, it was about our faith *different religion*.
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theonlyme says:
hi all..
im new here and ive found this topic interesting enough..but it really takes time to read all the post 🙂
i just want to share my experience..i had 1 bule bf before when i was in Malaysia for study, and yeah, i agree that bule is more romantic and their thinking way is really different with indonesian.. they sometimes not give a damn about the small issue, like most of indo do.
and for me personally, i found that bule is more attractive than indo or chinese guys (i like the white skin and coloured eyes :P, no offense please)
but im kind of shocked when my friends told me what are they thinking if asian girl have a bule bf (especially about the economic-forces).. that just saaaaaadd….
anyway, i wish my next bf will be bule again, but couldnt find a decent one in indonesia 😛 (maybe im not lucky enough hahahahaha)
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@ Jen
Don’t stop then, for your daughter future 🙂@ riniss & theonlyme
My opinion is… once you’ve date a bule, things change.
You will change your point of view about how a guy should treat you. Its about culture things too. Local mostly want/demand someone who’s obedient and perfect with their standard (fair skin, long black hair, good cook, good in house keeping etc) not all.. ok.. not all local guys like this.. but MOST.Oh yeah.. i never forget those sharp blue eyes (wink wink).
Hehehe wish local guys more supportive/fair, not over demanding cause they are not perfect too.
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@farah: yeaaaa agree…my ex even complained when i cut my hair hahahah 😛
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mezzaluna says:
I’m a newbie here, just registered yesterday and found this site really interesting 😛
talking about dating a bule, Ive been with one for about 6 months now, and not like in previous comments which said that long distance relationship wouldn’t work and just for desperates, it just doesn’t suit us actually. we’ve been keeping in contact and talking everyday just to know how each other doing, in fact its more exciting than ones i had before despite the distance which is around 7k miles :(. there’s a saying that long distance relationship is proven will likely more work out in the end than short distance as well, quite certain about this 😛So anyway, i wanna emphasize one thing here that not all foreigners are just into sex when they’re in relationship like many Indonesians think, example like my bf here, even though he’s been sexually active way before he met me, we made an agreement that both wont do anything reckless till he visit me again in the upcoming year. so yea, that means he agreed for being “monogamous” -yes it must be really hard x)- till he’s back here. i guess the stereotype that bules are just sex pest and afraid of commitment are not really true here.
@farah i have to agree with you that once I’ve had experience with bule i prefer to date them to local guys and blue eyes ? I’m more into green eyes *wink* lol I’m not saying that they’re always much better, its just my preference i guess 😉
@theonlyme try to join those online dating sites or hang out in one of those clubs in kemang, seems like u’re so desperate to get a bule.
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@ theonlyme
My last local ex-bf complain more than that! hahaha…@ Mezzaluna
So anyway, i wanna emphasize one thing here that not all foreigners are just into sex when they’re in relationship like many Indonesians think, example like my bf here, even though he’s been sexually active way before he met me, we made an agreement that both wont do anything reckless till he visit me again in the upcoming year. so yea, that means he agreed for being “monogamous” -yes it must be really hard x)- till he’s back here. i guess the stereotype that bules are just sex pest and afraid of commitment are not really true here.
…mine was last for 4 years without sex. And its long distance relationship between continents. Even if its ended in “tragedy” (lebay! hehe), but i am not regret it 🙂 he teach me how love suppose to be !
So keep on your track.. it might will end up great !
Blue, green, hazel, brown etc… all are heart melting when they stare you with love and respect hehehehehe….
Bule kemang? hahahaha ! but its a nice try… 🙂
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Lol.farah,i have same tought with onlyme.i wish i have bule bf for the next..or husband maybe.lol lol lol…kemang?bule abg?lol.
I think no local guys impressed with me,since they are too shallow n over demanding.im fair skin,black n very thick hair (but now i coloured it into red.lol!),im working woman,im not stupid nor ugly (i think),but every local guys i met they never wanted to take me as gf*curhat d*..now i know,im too pretty,too funny,too independent as a woman.n they dont deserve me.hahaha.
*btw,dont take it serious.im kidding*Maybe i just like bule.thats all.*lol*
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shawty says:
after 6 weeks discovery what is so called ‘bule’ on my solid ground..
was thinking Its gonna be difficult to attract white men back home compares to when I was on their land..then it turned out become its not that difficult even yeah the competition higher and the quality may far lower..in 6 weeks I successly date any type either the ‘not my cup of tea type’ or the super duper intelligent and decent one..
and I started feel gave up..yeah gave up and start seeing local boy..Local boy
‘They know how to treat you better’
‘pick u up and take u back in the front of ur door without any expectation of getting into ur pants’
wont compare u to hot dumb dirty cheap chicks that will do anything even morally wrong in pursuit bling bling and fun..
respect ur intelligence
respect your mom and dad better..
look after u far better..and No no they are not stupid at least not the ones I see 🙂
now I start contemplate why in the end Tiara Lestari the super hottie leaved her caucasian somehow rich & hot BF to great local boy and happily married
Just my 2 cents
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But ET, there’s a very different dynamic at work when a black American reclaims the word “n*gger”, or when a homosexual reclaims the word “queer”, from that operating when a smug foreigner in Indonesia, with a smirk and a self-assured sense of irony that they know would go sailing over the heads of the “natives”, appropriates the word “bule”… no?
Now, apropos of nothing (but justified here because the report used the contentious word in question), did anyone see the story about the woman in Semarang who gave birth to a bule? It was in today’s Jawa Pos; I’m sure it was covered elsewhere.
Her husband was a sailor. She got pregnant. Judging from their last contact (he’d been away at sea) the baby should have been born in April or something, but it wasn’t born until August. When it popped out it was, according to the paper, a bule. The dark-skinned dad was already suspicious about the dates; now he knew. Then he found the number of some Italian guy in his wife’s phone. They’ve done a DNA test and it’s definitely not his… I guess it will probably be a sinetron actor when it grows up…
This would, perhaps – Mr Patung? – make a good IM story, no?