Dating Indonesian Girls
Apr 4th, 2006, in Society, by PatungDating Indonesian women may not be for everyone.
Indonesian women, particularly on the island of Java, are exceptionally beautiful. They tend towards the very feminine side, with lovely skin, are not too tall, and have knock-out smiles. There’s plenty of plus on that side of things.
If wer’e to be honest we have to recognise that many men are interested in a woman who will take care of him, do the housework without complaint, and take care of other matters similarly without much bother. Your average Indonesian girl often fits the bill in this respect, certainly more than your average western woman, the less said about them the better.
On the other hand going out with Indonesian women in a romantic way can have many mysterious pitfalls.
Some women here are clearly only interested in money. Some men are unbothered by this. Others of the female variety, can, once we get to know them very well, come across as practically insane, hysterically emotional, scheming, over-possessive, inclined to, usually fake, attempts at self-harm in order to get their way. As I said, not for the faint-hearted.
There are a few Indonesia dating websites although the area is not nearly as developed as that in nearby Phillipines or Thailand. To begin your online journey on the Indonesian dating scene our very own “Meet” section has many a lady eager for company.
4,898 Comments on “Dating Indonesian Girls”
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Astrajingga says:
Naah, don’t take it seriously. It’s more a tool for my own insecurity, so I can professionally analyzing my own personality, while trying, in a sok tahu way, to analyze yours.
I think you’re okay. Skin and look won’t be a problem. If you think look–including skin color–is not that important (apart from a round ass, a six-packs-package, and a straight-to-heaven looks combined), many men has the exactly thought too, wouldn’t they?
You’re independent, young (24-25 is very young nowadays), capable of making right decisions, you never let people disrespect you, and if someone tries, you gonna fiercely strike back, and you speak helluva English, that’ll increase the probability to meet more prospective ‘love of you life’, statistically speaking.
I think it’s only a matter of time until you meet one. (Or you have met one?) You can make many man to bertekuk lutut anytime, if you want them to.
Don’t rush. Don’t think twice, think thousand times. Good luck.
It’s always nice to know that there’re many people like you in Indonesia, a small part of the earth we call Tanah Air.
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Farah says:
@ Astrajingga
Don’t rush. Don’t think twice, think thousand times. Good luck.
Got that right… 🙂 thanks for the advise.. 😀
And now can i say… you’re agree that not all ex-bule gf is a bule chaser ? (back to Andy’s comment about a girl who ever had bule bf).
…… cause i don’t really feel like i am a bule chaser for sure.
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First, I don’t think that Andy says that ALL ex-bule gf IS bule chaser. There are some, probably many are.
Second, I am very sure, that even if there’s only one and one only in the whole world ex-bule gf who is not a bule chaser, she must be you.
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@ astrajingga
Second, I am very sure, that even if there’s only one and one only in the whole world ex-bule gf who is not a bule chaser, she must be you.
These days, lots of indonesian women work at same office with young expatriate workers from around the globe, so… falling in love and be one of those expats gf is nothing weird.
Especially, if you work in oil and gas or mining company.. lots lots of expat who’s leaving their gf at home and end up broken heart and found someone here.
At my university one of my french language lecturer married a french guy who teach at the same place (my university). She is not a bule chaser for sure, in fact very religious.
……so there’s plenty not bule chaser out there who ever had ex bule bf. I am not the only one.
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ET says:
Roel said
Nevertheless, I think Diana Ross and Sade have also become a role model for indonesian girls ??
Maybe in another era. Nowadays, judging from the shampoo ads on TV, it’s rather types like Nicole Scherzinger from the Pussycat Dolls who have become the idols and role models. Fairskinned with a touch of sawo matang and lots of shiny black hair.
Aduh, aduh ketombe. The horror, the horror! -
As I say, “If.”
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Cukurungan says:
……so there’s plenty not bule chaser out there who ever had ex bule bf. I am not the only one.
Here below my advice for you and Indonesian Woman in general who want to marry with the bule man :
To be happy with a bule man, you must understand him a lot and love him a little.
Do not marry with the bule man unless He is a sucessful man
The successful bule man is the bule who makes and give more money than you can spend
If you want to divorce him ensure that he get poorer than before he married you
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Good advice.
We should prevent what an economist would call ‘capital flight.’ And we should optimize our limited ‘assets’ as an ‘income generator.’
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@ Astrajingga
And we should optimize our limited ‘assets’ as an ‘income generator.’
Which ‘limited’ assets do you mean with regard to Indonesian women? Physical or intellectual?
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Which ‘limited’ assets do you mean with regard to Indonesian women? Physical or intellectual?
Physical. What the writer means by ‘limited’ and ‘assets’ is, how to say this politely, well, it’s merely the size of the ‘ass’ets, I mean, probably he was talking about T&A size kind of assets (as a comparation to bule’s own ‘assets’–which is meticulously studied from pornographic material)
But of course he won’t admit that.
To make it sound more reasonable, I think the ‘limited assets’ should be translated as: The quantity of Indonesian female population, not the quality, reliability, liability, nor their complexion. Indonesian women are only more or less 50% of us, and all of them are needed to mate the rest of 50% male. The quantity is limited, not to mention that some of 50% male needs more than 1 female.
So, actually, we don’t have much ‘assets’ enough, or a left over for bules.
We could reserve some, but someone has to pay (expensively) for the reservation.
Since they are ‘limited’ in quantity, we can not put all of them in reservation, because they’re not Indians (the one with feathers, not the Indian with dot on their forehead).
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@ cukurungan
To be happy with a bule man, you must understand him a lot and love him a little.
… i thought reason why lots of bule like asian women because they had LOTS of love.. hehehehe
Do not marry with the bule man unless He is a sucessful man
The successful bule man is the bule who makes and give more money than you can spend
… sometimes look could deceive.. lots of head department from oil and gas company traveling around indonesia with shorts and t-shirt that had hole on it, no different than surfer boys that doesn’t had real job in their country..
But good advice 🙂
If you want to divorce him ensure that he get poorer than before he married you
…miaw !! (purring with sharp claws hidden).. hehe another good idea for revenge? hm..
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Very interesting.
This topic is growing everyday. 1722 comments and counting, while “How to Catch Ms Bule” has only 83 miserable comments.
Statistically speaking: Indonesian girls are a great Indonesian assets, while Indonesian boys (apart from Cowboys Kuta) are hopeless. Indonesian men are so hopeless they are not interested in discussing and refining the method of catching Ms. Bule.
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Astrajingga
We could reserve some, but someone has to pay (expensively) for the reservation.
Aha, now I understand why a couple of years ago there were talks within the Indo government to have bule’s pay an exorbitant sum of money for marrying an Indo girl. Limited assets used as an income generator. Some call it pimping.
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Pimping, pumping, schimping…. whatever you call it.
I think we must do whatever the best for our economy. We need a lot of money to leap forward, and jumping ahead after being backward due to the centuries of exploitation.
At least, it’s better than sending our women to Arab, to be paid cheaply and to be raped.
And Manohara… what a great loss. Glad to see her escaping from Malaysian sultanate hell.
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Mohammed Khafi says:
Cuk said:
To be happy with a bule man, you must understand him a lot and love him a little.
Do not marry with the bule man unless He is a sucessful man
The successful bule man is the bule who makes and give more money than you can spend
If you want to divorce him ensure that he get poorer than before he married you
Spoken like Cewek Matre or Germo, which one are you Cuk?
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Spoken like Cewek Matre or Germo, which one are you Cuk?
Oh my beloved brother…..I thank you for your attention…as usual I am always pleased to the other to call me whatever you wish as long as you are happy with it.
… i thought reason why lots of bule like asian women because they had LOTS of love.. hehehehe
It is up to you how you should play nicely while without harming your self
sometimes look could deceive.. lots of head department from oil and gas company traveling around indonesia with shorts and t-shirt that had hole on it, no different than surfer boys that doesn’t had real job in their country..
My dear read again my post I never said about penampilan but Penghasilan ..
I forgot one thing, we will call you a sucessfull Indonesia Woman if you able to find and trap those successful bule….I remind you …please stay away from the bule kere….because they are most miserable human species in the planet
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Mike says:
I m not in favour of stereotyping women, or men, of any nationality. Some folks get lucky and other don’t. An example of why stereotyping doesn’t ring true……. I met my wife more than twenty years ago. I’m Britisish and she is, of course, Indonesian. Fate brought us to a chance meeting and I knew she would be my wife within one hour of meeting her. I am neither rich nor handsome – and I am the same height as most Indonesian men. What my wife saw, and still does see in me remains a mystery to me, but we married and have raised two children, a son now 18 and a daughter now 17 and we are proud of them both. Our family’s circle of friends includes wealthy Chinese and Pribumi Indonesians, CEOs, office workers, becak drivers, shop keepers, bank managers, police officers and even immigration officers to mention but a few. This is mostly due to my wife who has an uncanny ability to make friends with just abot anyone.
During the two decades of our marrriage, we have experienced financial ups and some truly devastating down times. My wife’s pimary role has been the upbringing and caring for our children, but she has also worked hard to earn money for the family, particularly during difficut times. Among the very few people I trust in this world, my wife is first and foremost. Her honesty makes me think that she might really be an angel. Her devotion to me and to our children is unquestionable. I hope that other couples can find the richness in marriage that we have found and the experiences that binds a happy family.
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Fedeco says:
I have leave in indonasia for few years and i speak a good indonasia langauge the main problem with indonasia girls goes this way some of them look at white people like their God and they beleieve in that white color than their own.
I’am a Malaysian i trave alot to different country if you look at the way must Asian girl look at white color i think Asia girl are the must foolised one i ever seen in this world.
The white woman never took Asian man like that even they look down of asia man
if you go down there in Africa you find out that the African woman did not look at white man as something great then their own man
i think Asian woman should look away to reason like human being.
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Orang-Aus says:
Fedeco,
Why they wanna look at Malaysian men, they lock indonesian women up and harm them???
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Roel says:
FeDeCo
Go to Singapore. As a Bule in the metro no way to have a flirt with one of the beauties even if you speak malay. Maybe only if your chinese is perfect ?
Then you leap over the border and can not sit in minibus without being very close to some beauty who does not mind your head rest on her.
So most of the time it’s simple economy stupid.
Not that it is impossible for a Bule to impress a Singaporian beauty but you must do hard work and show you are someone who can be trusted. So every indonesian girl, go to Singapore for a training and see how your sisters over-there think and behave. -
Kodew says:
@Cak Roel
Not that it is impossible for a Bule to impress a Singaporian beauty but you must do hard work and show you are someone who can be trusted. So every indonesian girl, go to Singapore for a training and see how your sisters over-there think and behave.
Why cant we say : “So every Singaporean girl, go to Indonesia for a training and see how your sisters over there think and behave”
Maturnuwun 🙂
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Eskimo says:
Well, this entry made me try out Indonesian women half a year ago. Now I’m married to one. Gee, thanks!
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Oh, and I’m from Finland so I took a fairly deep dive into the unknown 🙂
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@Kodew
Impossible
they will learn “Lu Lu GueGue” and “Nakal” sometimes maybe “Kurang Ajar’
you can’t mean that
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Odinius says:
Eskimo said:
Oh, and I’m from Finland
I’m sorry 🙂
(skoj)
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@ Fedeco
You’re one of the reason why i don’t like Malay guys.
You see from your point of view only, ask me why i don’t like you and i could list more than ten thing why i don’t like you. I know malaysian, my step grandmother there, i have step uncles and aunts. What i see even worse than in Indonesia.Why western women look down on YOU, ask your self… maybe because you never been supportive and RESPECT other choices, even if that person is WOMAN.
If there’s malaysian woman choose to be with “mat saleh”, respect her choices. He might have qualities (or lots of thing) that you don’t have. One of it maybe the “look”, or maybe simply because he had more ability to listen and more polite than you are. Sorry sounds so shallow, but people had their own reason to like other people.Trust me its not ALL about their color or physical appearance, some of these girls who’s choose to be white guys are the most prettiest woman, and also had big incomes.
Sorry to hear when you traveling a lot but just can not understand/learn why me (or other asian woman) choose some typical of men, bule, mat saleh, african, chinese, local (and not you).
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@ Mike
You’re very lucky ! good for you -
I have leave in indonasia for few years and i speak a good indonasia langauge the main problem with indonasia girls goes this way some of them look at white people like their God and they beleieve in that white color than their own.
I doubt you speak a good ‘Indonasia’ language. Nor english. Or you just a reckless typer?
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@Eskimo
Congrats! 🙂
@Cak Roel
they will learn “Lu Lu GueGue” and “Nakal” sometimes maybe “Kurang Ajar’
Cak Roel, I believe Lu Lu Gue Gue you mentioned is typical language people from Jakarta and some who Jakarta-Gaul-People wannabe? 😀 . Wow, I didnt know that Indonesian are Jakarta people only? wow! 😀
About Nakal and Kurang Ajar, well some people are bad and some people are good no matter what their nationality and race are right? 😉
Maturnuwun 🙂
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@ Astrajingga
Thank you for the advise. But i am proud of being Asian and had a fair-complexion healthy skin for sure, not necessary to look like latino .. that sound a bit desperado.