Dating Indonesian Girls
Apr 4th, 2006, in Society, by PatungDating Indonesian women may not be for everyone.
Indonesian women, particularly on the island of Java, are exceptionally beautiful. They tend towards the very feminine side, with lovely skin, are not too tall, and have knock-out smiles. There’s plenty of plus on that side of things.
If wer’e to be honest we have to recognise that many men are interested in a woman who will take care of him, do the housework without complaint, and take care of other matters similarly without much bother. Your average Indonesian girl often fits the bill in this respect, certainly more than your average western woman, the less said about them the better.
On the other hand going out with Indonesian women in a romantic way can have many mysterious pitfalls.
Some women here are clearly only interested in money. Some men are unbothered by this. Others of the female variety, can, once we get to know them very well, come across as practically insane, hysterically emotional, scheming, over-possessive, inclined to, usually fake, attempts at self-harm in order to get their way. As I said, not for the faint-hearted.
There are a few Indonesia dating websites although the area is not nearly as developed as that in nearby Phillipines or Thailand. To begin your online journey on the Indonesian dating scene our very own “Meet” section has many a lady eager for company.
4,898 Comments on “Dating Indonesian Girls”
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kinch says:
@ Farah:
So you booked one or two seats for flying to JKT? 🙂
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Farah says:
@ kinch
..one seat only… (why ask?).. im not the kin that traveling with my sisters or parent or the whole family… traveling for me these days is for relaxing.. hehehe…and as i plan.. i will go to bandung too a day before x-mast, meet my old best friend, her family live in bandung.. so.. hehe free homestay !! last time i went to
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@ kinch
..one seat only… (why ask?).. im not the kin that traveling with my sisters or parent or the whole family… traveling for me these days is for relaxing.. hehehe…and as i plan.. i will go to bandung too a day before x-mast, meet my old best friend, her family live in bandung.. so.. hehe free homestay !! last time i went to Bandung is like hmmm… 5 years ago (OMG !!)
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hehehe.. sorry for posting the same thing.. i hit the refresh accidentally…..
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@ Farah:
Just teasing you lah… maybe you ate too much jungly coconut milk curry and now you need to take up 2 seats on plane 😀
Well you’re better than me. I’ve never been to either of the great Ayam Kampus cities: Bandung and Jogja – I must really be a good guy I guess.
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@ kinch
Well you’re better than me. I’ve never been to either of the great Ayam Kampus cities: Bandung and Jogja – I must really be a good guy I guess.
Well…you’re in bangkok.. you wont need any ayam kampus style… you’re in the slut city 😉
and at least those who ever ayam kampus in bandung and jogja went to univ. use the slutty money for paying college and their designer bag hehehehe…..hehehe.. yeah.. you better put that on your imagination about my bum… you better watch out or ill smack you with my ultra big size a*s !!
….i would say i have beyonce knowles body type…hehehehehe
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@ Farah:
If it’s Slut City, why am I not grinning like an idiot? Never been able to get very excited about being in Bkk… probably because I got to know crazy Jkt long before I first came here.
Guess that’s why I just gotta flirt with big ass from Sumatera jungle 😀
I don’t think there’s a woman alive who isn’t interested in designer bags. The real question is whether any of you deserve one :D.
Right… absolutely terrified of your ass. Fortunately there’s this program turns my laptop into a toy seismograph – so I’ll know when you come to Thailand.
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@ kinch
……means you prefer bangkok slut than jakarta glamour night club girls?? hmmm…hehehe.. like you had no other options ya?
well.. i have to disagree about the bag.. depends on the woman taste ofcourse..
to be honest i am not into designer bag.. more realistic type, and prefer comfort rather than useless ultra expensive bag..
i wont be able to take those prada bag to hiking, or traveling prefer to use back pack almost everywhere if i could..
hehehe…. yeah yeah mr hi-tech…. you wont know the difference whether if its beyonce or me thats coming there hehe..
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Mark says:
Wow is this thread still going on?!
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crocketman says:
Mark: Wow is this thread still going on . . .
The wheels of dating fell off the web truck.
It’s now the Farah & Kinch banter.
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Atomic Ass Farah and I are only just starting!
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@ Farah:
“hehehe…. yeah yeah mr hi-tech…. you wont know the difference whether if its beyonce or me thats coming there hehe..”
We males have invented the ability to abstract and generalise. Very useful mental tools which you females would do well to adopt.
In short: Ass is Ass.
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Good to read your keeping it high brow?!
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@ kinch
…hmmm… yeah i did notice the ability of generalize in guys like you.
…quite shallow tho…
We woman had more categorize about opposite sex. We use same ability to categorize some kitchen seasoning, hahahaha ! vary on shape, size, smell, the use, and taste, etc.
Very “normal” kin of guy eh ??
@ crocketman
I think everybody here already drop their own conclusion about dating indonesian girls, but i think there will be some other people will come and drop few more comments about this “hot topic” quite funny to read 🙂
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@ Farah:
Shallowness is a feature, not a bug!
Look forward to hearing from you later what kind of kitchen seasoning I am.
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@ kinch
some people do see it that way.
>>>now becoming mistress of spice<<<
hmm… as mistress of spice i should try to understand every spices and try to connect the spices and human being 🙂 🙂
“everyone had their own spices..”
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@ farah
hmmm i did once channel flipped through a movie with a bollywoodish atomic ass in a spice shop telling it how it is to some pathetic metrosexual whitey. definitely a girly film!
and not very authentic since a real indian female would never have let him get a word in edgewise -> 120 mins of non-stop head-wiggling bitchiness 🙂 but she did look rather yummy.
i’ll always keep a vacancy open for you as mistress of my durians.
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@ kinch
I prefer the book version.. more details.
Well…. first i get the impression how could a woman like her would want a white guy like that guy. India woman very strict to their culture, i think. They will kept saying that their from india, even when they already spent 10 years in UK.Heheheh quite different than indonesian (i am sad when i said this) just two years in malaysia as house maid and she speak malaysia and forgot javanese language that she known very well for 23 years of her life.. sigh (my personal experience with some TKI in airport).
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fullmoonflower says:
just two years in malaysia as house maid and she speak malaysia and forgot javanese language that she known very well for 23 years of her life.. sigh (my personal experience with some TKI in airport).
…….sorry didnt meant to generalize !hihihihi….. 😆
Yes Farah…
I think, it’s not only happened in Malaysia. It’s happened in Jakarta, Tangerang, Cikarang (Bekasi), all over Jadebotabek (Jakarta, Depok, Bogor, Tangerang, Bekasi) too.I had a bridal boutique in South Jakarta. One day, one of my labor, a Klaten girl, asked me for resign. She told me that she got a new job in Korean Garment Factory at Balaraja, Tangerang. She talked to me in javanese, as we both are javanese.
Two months later she came and visit my boutique. I was so surprised, she was talking in slank Bahasa Indonesia mixed with Betawi to my other labors. She told them that she had forgotten how to talk in Boso Jowo. Huh??? And it’s only within two months!! 😯
Whereas I’ve been in Jakarta for over than 18 years, but I never forget Boso Jowo, even the Palawa Letters… hahaha… 😆Well, I don’t mean to generalize it also. 🙂
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@ farah:
well girly book then :).
and you’re right. very unlikely atomic ass spice girl would have bonked the guy in the movie since it’s really very, very rare for indians to marry foreigners… actually when i was in india and spending most of time on the toilet because those #$@#ers gave me food poisoning, the most entertaining thing to read in the newspaper was the marital advertisements section… none of them were leaving anything to chance along the lines of fate/romance in the spice shop.
good to see that you have evolved the ability to generalise. not being a descartes or a pascal, i’ve never had much luck at throwing it all away and beginning from first principles. stereotypes help one get through one’s day.
@fmf:
perhaps after she stopped being your employee she didn’t feel like speaking javanese to you because she didn’t want to talk up to you anymore? bhs jungle has the ‘virtue’ of being a much more democratic/’level’ language as you of course know far better than i do.
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@ kinch
I didn’t meet her personally on that time, because I was busy for another business when she came to my boutique… My other labors told me that at night when I came to check quality of my products.
And that was being a really funny story for us… 😆And actually, it’s also happened to some javanese young people I met in bus or train when I went to Yogya or Surabaya…
Some of them have been forgotten (they said), but some of them were not…C’est la vie…. 😆
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The wheels still lost on this webpage.
It would get maybe interesting to see something about Indonesian girl differences from region to region. Like what do Medan girls do that Jkt girls don’t. Bali, Lombok, Flores?etc.
Guys would love to see that.
The other banter and about JAGORAWI everywhere in Jkt, watching the paint dry is more interesting than that.
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@ crocketman
Well this kind of related to dating indonesian.sad to say.. most of the girls that i know had a weak personality. Especially those who eventually married expat.
I did saw some assimilation on some of the marriage, where the culture mix. But most of the time i will see that the culture from the woman side faded.
Its just sad because i thought most of the expat married the girl also because they had those unique culture background. Whether they speak very funny ticklish unknown language, or the way they dress or just simply laughable culture (from expat point of view). Thats actually made us unique i think. And to loose all of or most of the identity is quite a shame.
For sure, i would love to teach more than one language to my children, they should know malay language, or english, or french or dutch. That will be good.
But sure, mommy should keep talking with original language for sure. If shes from java, she should keep her java language (or culture) or malay language, or batak.. or manado…
…most of indonesia woman loose that.. too bad
>>>>sigh (watching cinta laura speak like 3 y/o baby, while mommy have java “tongue”)<<<<The difference ??
For sure what i know, sumatra girls are well known because their guts, sincere, bold, honest, stubborn and .. some of people consider us a bit “sarcastic” (??).
This is what my Jogja and Sunda friends said about me and my “species” hehe… sure they said that because they don’t know.. its just the way we talk.. no basa-basi !oh btw… i am not from Medan, and i am not a batak girl, like i said, i am pure melayu.
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@ crocket:
Are you saying that my slow, sure seduction of Farah doesn’t have pedagogical value for you?
@ fmf:
Well that’s interesting anyway. Of course the education system and media are slowly but surely wiping out a lot of cultural and linguistic diversity. Strange how this always seems to be Whitey’s fault (aka Western Cultural Imperialism -> KFC made me forget my cultural inheritance – you bastardssss!). On the ground in the real world, most of the cultural imperialism in Indonesia the last 50 years has been Pancasila (of course) + more recently creeping Salafism.
But I can also imagine that for the Wong Cilik, the whole kejawen experience might be rather less beautiful than it is for you. Deference and Feudalism has had its day.
No doubt also some element of ‘fashion’ in it too.
Not sure whether to laugh or cry about members of the pembantu class deciding that Javanese is old fashioned and that they can give themselves airs about being on the make if they pretend they can’t remember how to speak Javanese anymore.
If they ever did join the middle classes (which they won’t, of course) they’d then have to send their offspring to some special school to learn Javanese again so they could give themselves airs about having become somebody.
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@ Farah:
The truth is that ~98% of the world’s population if given a green card would immediately stop chanting ‘death to america’ and go mug the nearest person to get money for the plane ticket. Most of the worlds cultures can’t survive real contact with Western Civ and they should ask themselves why this is so. Of course most of these other cultures are incapable of asking questions like ‘why?’ – which is how we got to this point.
The beautiful irony is that Western Civ also can’t survive real contact with Western Civ. So we’re not getting the last laugh.
Many cultures contain many beautiful and graceful things… many of which will soon be lost forever. History is blind.
As Trotsky said: ‘You may not be interested in History, but History is interested in you.’
The best escape is to make like Candide and cultivate one’s garden. A small grove of durian trees, perhaps.
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Correction: Trotsky said ‘You may not be interested in War, but War is interested in you.’
Trust a Bolshevik to eschew the poetic abstract statement and cut straight to the brutality.
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Kinch you really sound like a man after my own heart, if I were Farah I’d go for you…, really not sure what Farah will make of all that western civ stuff though, so in order to clarify it with her, and perhaps oil the wheels of romance a little more both of you consider signing up at the newly minted forums, and I’d suggest making use of the private messaging system there, or starting your own personal thread so we can all continue seeing your relationship blossom.
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Sure thing, Mister Interlocutor Man. Although I was kind of hoping your site would implode when the number of comments reached some magic number 🙂
Forums are good.
Just out of idle curiosity, why aren’t you monetizing this site up the wazoo?
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Well I could waffle on about the monetisation topic at some length, but this is probably not the place, crocketman might get annoyed, Farah might get bored, and well it’d make a great forum topic!!!
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@ Farah:
That’s exactly what I was doing in BATS a few years back. Just observing!
True 🙂
But I agree sometimes it’s interesting to just watch people doing their thing.