Dating Indonesian Girls
Apr 4th, 2006, in Society, by PatungDating Indonesian women may not be for everyone.
Indonesian women, particularly on the island of Java, are exceptionally beautiful. They tend towards the very feminine side, with lovely skin, are not too tall, and have knock-out smiles. There’s plenty of plus on that side of things.
If wer’e to be honest we have to recognise that many men are interested in a woman who will take care of him, do the housework without complaint, and take care of other matters similarly without much bother. Your average Indonesian girl often fits the bill in this respect, certainly more than your average western woman, the less said about them the better.
On the other hand going out with Indonesian women in a romantic way can have many mysterious pitfalls.
Some women here are clearly only interested in money. Some men are unbothered by this. Others of the female variety, can, once we get to know them very well, come across as practically insane, hysterically emotional, scheming, over-possessive, inclined to, usually fake, attempts at self-harm in order to get their way. As I said, not for the faint-hearted.
There are a few Indonesia dating websites although the area is not nearly as developed as that in nearby Phillipines or Thailand. To begin your online journey on the Indonesian dating scene our very own “Meet” section has many a lady eager for company.
4,898 Comments on “Dating Indonesian Girls”
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Nay says:
Having a “sinetron material” children. You should count that too (in terms bule-local relationship)
Yep. I’ve seen that from Indonesian ladies. Not that I have a problem with that. Fairly normal for parents to want their kids to have genetic diversity. It’s cute.
What about love? That’s covered in the “emotional” bracket of the 3 ulterior motives. Love is a nice emotion. Different for men and women though. Men use it as an instinct to detect whom sex might be enjoyable with. Women use it as a sign that the guy is going to stick around and support her.
Personally I like kampung girls, but only because they don’t try to be something they’re not like spoilt little mall rats.
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Farah says:
@ mrbojangLess
farah women over 30 are revolting and should be put out to the fields (away from the public eye) to harvest grains for the younger more beautiful women ….
Harvest grains? LOL.
I’ll leave that job for you buddy.
Too bad.. i can’t wait to be 30, as life began at 30 i think. When i was 20-24 too busy to finish univ, no fun. When i was 25-27 still trying to settle with the new job etc.
No need to hide. When i was traveling solo to Singapore for the very first time like 5 years ago, i met a woman from Europe. She was 60. Traveling solo too. She’s on her way for traveling around the world. I will do that too when i am at her age!
I will encourage my friends to do the same. Do what they want to do. Traveling solo, backpacking, bungee jumping, kayaking, sky dive, surfing… DO IT!
You could chase your 15 yo gf and drag her to bed, and i’ll do my sky diving or base jump! Those things are much more exciting than your stupid kinky cheap sex fantasy! (not even turn me on hahahah!) even perhaps last longer than you!
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@ MrBojangles
I also love watching morons throw some provocative comments into forums not because they have anything of value to say, but just to get the attentions. How sad. Speaking of sadness… You sound unsavoury enough to end up old… all alone…, in a sad… sad… saaaaaad… state. (Whom juveniles will throw practical jokes at). Better enjoy your life while you still got it, mate. Open as many legs as possible….!@ Farah
Tone it down just a little bit, gal… laugh it off. Over promoting your awesomenessosity makes us women sound insecure. -
Patrick says:
@ Farah – you miss me so much that you would rather jump out of perfedtly good airplanes and off structurally sound platforms rather than have sex with another man! That’s why I love Indonesian women, who would dare question their loyal and devotion to their man. LUA bebe’ 🙂
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sobhana says:
@ ET and everyone else who read it and took offence: that women over thirty blog ramble is NOT my point of view. I cannot take credit for any of those opinions, first of all because I didn’t write them and most importantly due to the fact that I hated it!! I thought it was profoundly affected by male-chauvinism.
@ bojangles: I sincerely wish you the best of luck in Indonesia you sad sod *CHEERS* to a much happier life compared to whatever hole you crawled out of!!!!!! LOL
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@ farah & missingchips: i am a fan. i can only hope i will be as excited as you are when i turn 30.
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People have made statistics about penis size based on nationality. Anyone here aware of similar statistics for vagina? Where do indonesian women stand?
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KULDIP says:
I’m Kuldip. I say, i hope you are verry verry hot ans sexy girl, I’m hot & sexy boy also.
So I Daiting to you. -
Sexy SOBHANA,
I’m Kuldip. I say, i hope you are verry verry hot ans sexy girl, I’m hot & sexy boy also.
So I Daiting to you. I am a very honest boy.
KULDIP SONI
DHANBAD
JHARKHAND
M.No. 09128918063 -
bj says:
It sounds like a lot of misunderstanding on how relationships begin and become a lasting companionship between two people.
Firstly you do not go looking for it. Just be a respectfull person and it will happen as it is meant to be. It cannot be fabricated on Looks, ones worth, ect.I work in Balikpapan and do not look for relationships but do get continuously approached, usually by the wrong type of women. I am never rude to them and offer conversation. I understand they are only tring to make ends meet, I just wish I could find a way to help each one know there are better ways.
I also do notice the majority of western men out searching for the one night stand which gives us a bad reputation.
Remember when looking for a soul mate let it happen as it is meant to be. If it seems hopeless look in the mirror! you are the problem. Are you looking for only beauty?
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ET says:
diego
Anyone here aware of similar statistics for vagina? Where do indonesian women stand?
It’s easy to find out. Go and have a look at the Tampax counter in the local mall.
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@dianwulan
Tone it down just a little bit, gal… laugh it off. Over promoting your awesomenessosity makes us women sound insecure.
Sorry if you feel that way-insecure. I can’t see why?
My point is…. if that lady there age 60 could do it, i can’t see why we-as indonesian woman can’t? why had to hide when you’re 30?? maybe that bojangless mum even went to belly dancing class when she was 65 with her wrinkly tummy on her weekend. Why we can’t do the same?
@ patrick
@ Farah – you miss me so much that you would rather jump out of perfedtly good airplanes and off structurally sound platforms rather than have sex with another man! That’s why I love Indonesian women, who would dare question their loyal and devotion to their man. LUA bebe
Errhh.. ok.. i didnt say that i miss you…. @@ or did i really miss something here? (any post that i didnt read ..errh?). Anyway… ya.. rather than spending my time with an ass.. local or expat, i rather do things that i like.
If my bf doubt me more than once, ill dump him. I’ll label him as nagging lil boy. I am soooo over the jealous bf (insecure men are TURN OFF for me).
Like beyonce say;.. “if you liked it then you should have put a ring on it” (I am only up for something real). If its only in state if “dating” i am still belong to my boss at work.
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@BJ
I also do notice the majority of western men out searching for the one night stand which gives us a bad reputation.
At least someone who dare enough to say it right–thanks.
Sometimes they just forgot the supply and demand rules.
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@ ET
geezzz.. hahahahahaha!!!! -
@ Farah
Sorry if you feel that way-insecure. I can’t see why?
No need to attack me. I am secure just fine. *smile* I had, and still do have, a great life. You’re right, no reason for me to feel any other way.
Look, the article was written in such a way that it is demeaning to Indonesian women in general. I read it when it first came out all those years ago, single and proud and just bought my mum her dream house. I commented then. I commented somewhere in the middle when I finally got married. Lo and behold, I am commenting now, from Ghana, a mother of one who lost two of her other babies on the way.My point is, we know we are great. Most of us are. You, Sobhana, Missingchips, Kania, Marisa, Rima, Thierry, Anita, etc. (all the ladies who have commented on this forum)
We don’t need to shove our greatness up these guys arses. How do you think it will make us look? (now think about it carefully) What are you/we trying to prove, and to whom? Nobody’s gonna think big of you/us when we shout it outloud to the world that we are so, so, wonderful. It will, believe me or not, only make us look insecure, and our readers, therefore, will smile at us.Of course we can do great things, like the lady you met in singapore. And believe me darling, you will, and I bank on it.
As for this forum, don’t take it seriously. Laugh it off. This is just entertainment. Pure hedonism. *smile*
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@ bj
For someone who speaks some sense, the nickname you chose is a little bit peculiar (is this intentional?).I am never rude to them and offer conversation. I understand they are only tring to make ends meet, I just wish I could find a way to help each one know there are better ways.
That’s the thing, when I meet that kind of women/men, I’d be rude and tell them there are other ways to make ends meet, if only they’re not so damn lazy and want money to come easily simply by lying down with open legs.
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@ dianwulan
Great to know that you actually feel secure. And glad to know you had good life.I am not attacking you, eeeerrrrrh… just being bold. Just talk bluntly like any spicy Sumatra girl.
If no one wrote story about great woman around the world like Marie Curie, Mother Theresa, Indira Gandhi, etc we will never know that they exist.
If these clowns believe the greatness of indonesian woman.. then they will do.. if they don’t then they wont. Doesn’t really matter if i said here i could do moonwalk better than Michael Jackson (RIP)-wont prove anything if they already had that mind set anyway.
Like you say .. take it easy lah! 😉
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missingchips says:
@dianwulan
If I were not married, I’d ask her out on a date
Honey, stop flattering me, for I can tell already from posts you made (and that awesome blog of yours, and just so you know, the As if I have big enough breasts to be a bimbo anyway? comment made me howl in laughter, and I would, you know, ogle you anytime! :p), how exceptionally cool you are compared to… my mediocre one (envious with thee’s Ingles… articulate and perceptive!) But oh well, if you’re really sure about it, I mean, I don’t see how being married would impede the prospect of you dating me. (wink) I’m sure that British Gentleman of yours would not mind at the slightest bit. (wink) He can even j… okay, better leave it at that. ^^
And I’m sorry for your loss. There’s this saying: An Angel, in the book of life, wrote down your baby’s birth. And whispered as she closed the book, “Too beautiful for earth.” Somehow I can see this happened to the two. (BIG BIG HUG)
Am I the only one who could see that MrBojangles wrote those commentaries just to get the attentions?
No you are not the one, since I could already see this coming from a mile,
And also the possibilities, that you are just a troll seeking attention,
but couldn’t help to give him some advices he might need. And until he comes out with better argument, I won’t bother to respond. Although he may have a point there. Internet, I’ve got to say, is the number one killer of papers. I could have finished the thesis proposal by now, wrote more papers, read more books, washed more laundries, if only I could stop procrastinating. Foraging through LJ, delicious, archive of our own, youtube, kgs, feels more and more entertaining as if my subconcious mind trying to dawdle the unavoidable. When you’ve got to pay Rp. 30.000,00 a day (the tution fee I must pay daily, thanks to my dad who had the spare to count, and is thoughtful enough to point this out to me, like every single time), it’s better to start thinking about the concept of what’s urgent and what’s important, and most importantly, what’s none of both. Maybe I’ll have to take drastic move.. er, like unsubscribe from this forum, ask Telkom to cut their daily internet service off, deactivate my LJ account, etc, etc.
Having said that, I think you lot have been overrating Kampung Girls. While they can be pretty awesome, one will run out of conversation topic with them after only a few sentences.
The best place for interesting Indonesian girls is probably the state universities. They have (too) high (a) standard and idealism.Then I must be a combination of both. Always consider myself to be one of those kampung girls. I even live the stereotype. My house is at a mountain’s feet, only half an hour by bus to get to the nearest tea plantation. And thus the same distance from nearest durian plantation (would think of the possibility to start durian-selling enterpreneurship if the edjumacating bussiness didn’t get me to the prosperous life I long dream). Very calm and quiet here, at 8 pm people goes to sleep, and at 5 am you can see farmers cycling to the farms. But on the other side, I am also your stereotype state university students, who
would think that they are better than anyone else, therefore better than you, and too good to be with you, and in return you’d never run out of topics (as far as conversation goes).
Hehe. And now as I teach as an assistant lecturer for post grads in this private university – let’s call it S university – I am so stunned, literally have jaw-dropping moments from cultural shock. Here, everything’s so different than how life is run within the state university domain. Man, and I thought my old Rector was a tyrant. Here the students are! (I.e. here in S uni, students are getting paid for attending a seminar held by their uni, when students from state uni often begging shamelessly to be invited into such seminar, though mostly for the certificate purpose; here in S uni, certain assistant lecturer has to wait for her students to attend the class, not the other way around, which is sooo unacceptable back then when she was working on her undergrad, and even now; here in S uni, the (female) uni (seemingly to be) popular students wear revealing tank tops and sandals to class, eventhough the rules prohibit it, so certain assistant lecturer has to send them out only to be given a talk or two by the vice dean about not being too hard, this is private uni, afterall; “Democracy? I’ve heard that somewhere,” said one of her student when asked about the subject. Well, if it’s not only one of the most well-known political system in this whole world…, etc)
It certainly gives me something to think about.
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@sobhana
i can only hope i will be as excited as you are when i turn 30
Sadly, I’m not as excited as you think I am, hon, or at least as enthusiastic as Farah sounds. I still haven’t reach my quarter, and yet the prospect of becoming 30 one day terrifies the gut out of me.
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Something here smells like Teen Spirit. Maybe it’s just my imagination.
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It’s just your imagination, ET.
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That’s a relief.
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@ ET,
I know… it gets boring without the cat fights, doesn’t it?
Patung wrote this almost half a decade ago (is Patung = David ?). I’ve changed 3 boyfriends since, switched 2 jobs, got married, got 3 babies (and lost some), learned how to cook, gained 10 Kg, paid off my mortgage for mum’s house, and yet, this forum is still around…!
It’s just surreal. 😀
Is anybody ever going to close this comment section? Or is it a keeper for it provides good traffic?
I just can imagine coming back to this site 5 years from now, and see that people are still arguing in here. The proud empowered early twenties Indonesian girls against the abusive predatory expats. *phew* -
@ dianwulan
Is anybody ever going to close this comment section? Or is it a keeper for it provides good traffic?
David, aka Patung, has already made an attempt to sideline it but on general demand has been forced to back down. It’s a welcome distraction when things get heavy in other threads – a resting place for the warrior – or during doldrums when there is nothing else to harp on. It is also a clear indicator of what’s usually on people’s minds, a wealth of information for the aspiring psychologist, and for some even serves as a watering hole to try and catch a fish.
All in all it serves many purposes.it gets boring without the cat fights, doesn’t it?
No, no, no. It never gets boring. But cats are always so dramatic.
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deta says:
And this thread is a convenient place for people to brag, whatever it is they want to brag about. Real or otherwise. Fully aware or subconsciously.
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Lairedion says:
dianwulan,
I just can imagine coming back to this site 5 years from now, and see that people are still arguing in here. The proud empowered early twenties Indonesian girls against the abusive predatory expats.
When Indonesia continues to develop the way it is now in 5 years there will be no more empowered Indonesian women left because sharia has been implemented fully and completely.
The only cultural exchange permitted between bules and local women will take in dead-boring malls like this:
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@ ET,
Well, if it’s really for the greater good, and by majority’s demand, then I fully support it. Some form of democracy is never bad, after all.@ deta,
You see, some times people have so many great things in their lives, and there’s just so little opportunities to shove it up other’s faces. So I guess ET was right, the forum carries it’s own purposes.@ Lairedion,
When it comes to that, people will still find a way to practice some ‘fun’. Like what my Iranian friend told me about how it’s done in her country. -If you know what I mean-@David/Patung,
Was this article based on your personal experience? (I have waited almost 5 years to ask this question -and now I am at the ‘what the heck’ point)
Well, if that’s the case, I hope you have found happiness by now. Better still, with an Indonesian woman. *lol*
Indonesian women are the best, my husband banked on it. *grin* -
dianwulan,
When it comes to that, people will still find a way to practice some ‘fun’. Like what my Iranian friend told me about how it’s done in her country. -If you know what I mean-
No I don’t. What I do know women might end up like this and that’s not fun at all:
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A fine example of sharia surgery. Isn’t Iran the country with one of the highest rates of ‘plastic’ surgery?
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@ sobhana
I am not 30 yet i think that way already. I got the money, i got the education, and i demand same amount of respect and treated equal. If you can’t give it then dadaaah buh bye!!
Not easy thing to get equal education here in jungle. As man always got the larger part of parents education, also the mentality of “why go to school if at the end you just going to be a house wife?”
Need to achieve and show that you really want it (the education and the job!)!!
So.. achieve the education and good job, and then treated like door mat? u-uh!! you better go for kampung girl with simple life boy!