Dating Indonesian Girls
Apr 4th, 2006, in Society, by PatungDating Indonesian women may not be for everyone.
Indonesian women, particularly on the island of Java, are exceptionally beautiful. They tend towards the very feminine side, with lovely skin, are not too tall, and have knock-out smiles. There’s plenty of plus on that side of things.
If wer’e to be honest we have to recognise that many men are interested in a woman who will take care of him, do the housework without complaint, and take care of other matters similarly without much bother. Your average Indonesian girl often fits the bill in this respect, certainly more than your average western woman, the less said about them the better.
On the other hand going out with Indonesian women in a romantic way can have many mysterious pitfalls.
Some women here are clearly only interested in money. Some men are unbothered by this. Others of the female variety, can, once we get to know them very well, come across as practically insane, hysterically emotional, scheming, over-possessive, inclined to, usually fake, attempts at self-harm in order to get their way. As I said, not for the faint-hearted.
There are a few Indonesia dating websites although the area is not nearly as developed as that in nearby Phillipines or Thailand. To begin your online journey on the Indonesian dating scene our very own “Meet” section has many a lady eager for company.
4,898 Comments on “Dating Indonesian Girls”
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sobhana says:
or is the wild selfish notion of wanting to be with someone at any cost just not in these days? a concept too foreign for a foreigner?
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Farah says:
@ ET
Don’t you know that durians have euh… ‘aphrodisiac’ qualities? Like poor men’s Viagra. Even Jupe knows it.
Some one said to me, if you want to catch a fish, use a correct bait and fish where their habitat is. You can’t catch gold fish at sea with shrimp as bait…. thats very wrong.
Durian a big no i guess…
…errrhhh.. looks like girls who used to sell satay and noodles on side road on the way to my work field…. no durian season.. hahaha
@ sobhana
Future plan for sure.. a good pension money… -
ET says:
Farah
Some one said to me, if you want to catch a fish, use a correct bait and fish where their habitat is.
In my experience durians seem to be very attractive bait. Whenever I buy a piece everybody, especially the locals, line up to get a piece of the action.
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missingchips says:
@MrBojangles
Hmmm women that use ropes in bed that would be kinda dull (pink furry handcuffs would be better or maybe some electric nipple clampz please!) …
Equalizing pink furry handcuffs, electric nipple clamps and/or any kind of sex toys with the real joy of love making itself is kind of tedious and superficial, don’t you think? Man, if you think having sex with any Playmates with all humanly applicable sex toys will bring you to the ultimate satisfaction, I can tell that you miss out BIG time. The most important thing is what’s on your head. The recent research finding states that the key to sexual satisfaction is less about biology and more about psychology. When you understand this, you can actually bring yourself to higher degree of pleasure. Rope is dull? Maybe it’s your own mind that is dull, and that imagination too impotent to be challenged with this higher level of exploration. As a former girl scout myself, with a tad bit of dirty thought, I can already form many scenarios, involving, well ropes. Or just a plain boring cock. Or socks. Or tie. Or both. Or feet. Or …
You get the idea.
Furthermore, related to your previous post, this psychological side of sexing is actually related very closely with women’s struggle with sex and identity. You probably have a point there hypothesizing the seemingly meek and pliant attitude of Indonesian women (in bed). I will not address the fact that you are over generalizing this, for it’s quite obvious, and complaining about it has been proven, well, useless. (It was years ago when I read book about Indonesian population, where it said that the numbers of Indonesian citizen are 200 million people and with the trend of increasing birth rate, I won’t be surprise if it already reach multiple times. Let’s say you have been here for four years long, and you change girls like twice every week, the number won’t even reach 500. FIVE HUNDREDS. And of course I will not question the probabilities of the fact that you must have sex with them regularly and constantly minimum 5 times per girl, which I am going to point out why after this). Have you ever questioned yourself, that maybe it’s you? Maybe it’s because of the most simple reason that you are a lousy partner in bed? You are spoilt with the image of what women should and would do for men in bed, that you expect them to jump straight to bed with stilletto, whip, cock ring, butt plug, vibrator, etc, etc. I will not blame you for this insensitiveness. Your culture raised you to believe this. And in turn you will raise your environment to believe this. But finer, better man, will see this as some sort of psychological challenge. The superficial won’t attract him more than the urge to pee. You can find him eagerly creating his own love nest, collaborating with his partner to go to that place (i.e, you sleep with a innocent girl who doesn’t even know how to do fellatio, but with some dedication and support, she will have the potential to master the art to suck your brain through your cock). Love, passion, affection, whatever feeling people call it these days are the key. Maybe this is what you’re lacking of.
3 thumbs down to a moronic race of people with contradicting double standards and a flimsy grasp on reality, By the time u learn some of their religious habits and beliefs – you’ll then realise they are completely dillusional as a race.
This, again, confirms my theory. It’s usually connected, you know, how you view the world, with how you perform in bed. Selfish, ignorant. The biggest turn off. Do you know what you really need right now? A dominant lady or gentleman (who knows) who would manhandled you to the realization how you have been a bad bad boy all these time, and then show you the consequences. *evil laugh*.
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@ET
Not that I need it, of course.
So what are you doing near those durian stands all these times? 😛
Many kampung girls still have a great charm that can’t be bought in malls.
Kampung girls are the bestest!
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@sobhana
what about love?
I was about to ask the same question, lol, but then well, I realize that love is part of emotion that we feel right? Oh hey, wait! They said about love is nothing than merely chemical reaction of human body. So it’s under the same category with sex?
1. Physical
2. FinancialThere, I did some editing for the previous categorization. ^^
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omg missingchips you are awesome. yes every girl has the potential to master the art of sucking one’s brain through one’s cock (f*cking thumbs up) lol
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missingchips
So what are you doing near those durian stands all these times?
Like I said before, I use them as bait for ‘social’ contact. Very efficient.
Kampung girls are the bestest!
Glad to see someone agrees.
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every girl has the potential to master the art of sucking one’s brain through one’s cock
Funny, but durians – at least on the inside – look like brains. I think I’m beginning to see the connection.
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@ missingchips: personally i think love belongs in it’s own category. part emotion part physique at the same time transcends both. it’s quite irrational really. nothing can ever be planned out, it lingers even when your feelings get hurt. and sex, although rather necessary, it’s quality should never be used as an indicator, regardless of what most people think.
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@sobhana
every girl has the potential to master the art of sucking one’s brain through one’s cock
Hehe. Glad you find it amusing. I know, right. It’s up to their partner to bring out the best or the worst. 😉 (not that i ever done it) :p But I can get the clear view from the high horse I’m riding right now, and woman, I can’t wait to get down and dirrrrtyyyy myself.
Tsk, I did it again! I promised myself to get over the feminist stage, and just… I don’t know, accept my fate to be second class citizen, man’s possesion, kanca wingking. The spirit of the rabbit year will see this and disapprove of the slip! I’m doomed! :3 Please save me!
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personally i think love belongs in it’s own category. part emotion part physique at the same time transcends both. it’s quite irrational really. nothing can ever be planned out, it lingers even when your feelings get hurt. and sex, although rather necessary, it’s quality should never be used as an indicator, regardless of what most people think.
Very well said.
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haha no worries, they shall worship and adore us, even on our high horses, perhaps some would even find it more appealing the thought of their grubby hands trying to grab hold of our **** from way down there. those are definitely the keepers!
and thank you =)
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@ ET
In my experience durians seem to be very attractive bait. Whenever I buy a piece everybody, especially the locals, line up to get a piece of the action.
Ok.. good bait for you as you need to mingle with kampung girls… but bad for me, as bule guys not in to durian.. like i say… different bait for different fish!
Kampung girls rock.. i agree! they are much sincere than city girls for sure 🙂
Love their super black hair, and their ability to do multiple jobs at one time. Taking care younger bro/sist while cooking and cleaning house. Life is simple, no coffee at malls, just some saturday night dangdut show once a week!
Well, the further deep kampung you go.. the more you see those beauty! the most rare and beauty flowers often found in places that you never thought before… 😉 (kampung in deep jungle?)
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@ Missingchips & Sobhana
Atta girl… you know what you want, what you don’t want.. or your disagree.. you’re not afraid to say it or express it… thats what i call smart 😉This is what made my bf also gasping when i say it loud what i want from him! (not always what he want–well he’s not the center of the universe after all).
Hail the Indonesia kick ass girls.
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haha no worries, they shall worship and adore us, even on our high horses, perhaps some would even find it more appealing the thought of their grubby hands trying to grab hold of our **** from way down there. those are definitely the keepers!
Aduhai and indehoi. It seems Mr Bojangle’s comment has unleashed tremendous hormonal imbalance.
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@ET
has unleashed tremendous hormonal imbalance
Speaking of the devil, today I finally know why I got too emotional reading his first comment. ^^ Woman’s anatomy sucks. I don’t get why men can become a lunatic during (borrowing Farah’s term), Saturday night Dangdut Show, when Tiga Macan show them their assets. *sigh
I think I’m beginning to see the connection
Durian (at least on the inside) = Brain? What?
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Durian (at least on the inside) = Brain? What?
It was you who linked sucking to brains, isn’t it? Now watch them sucking a piece of durian until the nut is exposed.
Sorry but this is as graphic as I can get.I guess I needed a bit of distraction after commenting in the Ariel thread.
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missingchips says:
First, Oreo. Now durian. ^^ anymore food sex metaphor?
Yeah, it was pretty depressing, the Ariel-FPI thread. 🙂 some of your words make me think…
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Lairedion says:
bojangles,
pink furry handcuffs? that’s corny…
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WHY MEN DON’T WANT WOMEN OVER 30
The sad but undisputable FACT is that: ‘If you’re a woman over 30 years old; your stock is plummeting, when it comes to LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS. There is a current trend that is moving toward more and more ‘mature & established men’ 30+ going after (and getting) the younger females leaving the 30+ women hanging high and dry.You need only open your eyes and look around you to see that I am not making this up; More women over 30 are single than ever before and there are more older man younger – woman relationships everywhere & it is more acceptable than in the past.
Why Is This Happening? There are several very simple reasons that this is the case & it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure them out. Here are some of the major causes of this dilemma; agree or disagree as you like and feel free to add to (or take away from) this list as the spirit moves you.
INDEPENDENCE: Many women over 30 have this ‘my dick is bigger than yours’ mentality which is based on their incomes or material possessions. While I support women in achieving their own economic independence, I also caution them to be aware of the emasculating effects that behaviors like arrogance & cockiness have on the potential men in their lives & how utterly unfeminine those qualities are. REMEMBER: Men are looking for women and femininity does not equal being a doormat anymore than financial achievement equals superiority.
SHALLOW HAL SYNDROME: Thanks to television and Music Videos the bar has been raised in terms of what society defines as beauty. Hot bodies are the rage and the media bombards men with images that create a thirst and hunger and lust in each man to acquire his very own ‘bad bitch.’ Unfortunately these ‘better bodies’ are not typically attached to women in the 30+ age range. REMEMBER: You might be thinking that ‘ok Drew women are also subjected to the media’s brainwashing efforts, so we are you not mentioning that?’ I am perfectly aware of this fact and the truth of the matter is that women tend to be overall more maturity than men and can generally still recognize that ‘beauty is more than just skin deep’. Also physical fitness is a healthy option for all humans; it promotes good self-esteem, better health & keeps you competitive in a game when the deck is not stacked in your favor.
SIMPLE GRATITUDE: Younger women are less experienced in life and therefore it takes less to impress them, to make them happy and to simply blow their f*ckin minds period. Women over 30 can suffer from the ‘been there, done that’ syndrome which is a two-edged sword: on the one hand this means that you can school your man on some things and you have a better idea of what you want and like in life; however, this also means that there is added pressure on the man to pull a giraffe out of his hat, cuz a rabbit just won’t cut it with you – you feelin me yet? Good. REMEMBER: When you have been blessed with something you need to cherish that thing whether it’s a job, a car or a lover. Human beings are emotional creatures (even men) and we require encouragement, support and praise – just like you do. So put your cheerleader skirt on and root for your man, recognizing that sometimes you have to give him an A for effort.
REALITY CHECK – there are many women over 30 who are in relationships, I never said that it can’t happen. But consider how many of them were already in the relationship when they turned 30, also how many of them have a relationSHIT where it’s all bad but they cling to it to keep from being alone. Also consider the sugar mommas who have the best love that money can buy – well since money can’t actually buy you love that shit that they’re holding on to is simply a fantasy & a lie. They are tricks period.For any 30+ women who are looking to be winners in the game there are the Golden Rules that must always be considered: 1. What you won’t do another person will – this doesn’t mean that you have to become a slave it only means don’t be cold and uncompromising – it is NOT all about you. 2. God giveth the blessing and it can be taken away: this means that people are not property and should never be taken for granted – we need to appreciate (not just in our hearts) but also with our actiosn whatever blessing God has bestowed upon us in the form of a lover. 3. Honesty, Communication & Faithfulness are qualities that can NEVER be compromised on.
Peace and enjoy your journey.
CAN YOU BELIEVE THIS SHIT!
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Am I the only one who could see that Mr.Bojangles wrote those commentaries just to get the attentions? Well, I’m glad he did. *smile* Things become a lot more interesting since.
I’ve enjoyed the thread so much I am on the verge of worshiping missingchips. (If I were not married, I’d ask her out on a date)
Having said that, I think you lot have been overrating Kampung Girls. While they can be pretty awesome, one will run out of conversation topic with them after only a few sentences.
The best place for interesting Indonesian girls is probably the state universities. They have (too) high (a) standard and idealism. They would think that they are better than anyone else, therefore better than you, and too good to be with you, and in return you’d never run out of topics (as far as conversation goes).
As for furry handcuffs… it’s a joke. Any sex toy is. I prefer body part(s). *wink* -
Sobhana,
CAN YOU BELIEVE THIS SHIT!
I don’t want to believe it, but I somehow can… I’m married to a British gentleman in his advanced years (stereotyping is welcome, I never mind). So anyway, he’s been on the mating ground for quite a while before he settled (with me).
Once, he told me that he’d go for the mid twenties or mid forties but would stay clear of the women around their 30s. “Too much trouble.” he said.
While I couldn’t agree, I tried not to fight him over it. Defending the women of the world is a lost cause, I presumed.
But interesting, hey? -
sobhana,
I disagree. There’s actually a large market with MILF and granny themes in adult movies. All is not lost yet.
dianwulan,
Exactly. Either bojangles is yearning for attention or sexually frustrated…
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Nobody says:
@dianwulan
But ofcourse, state university girls would be near impossible to woo with just the fact that you are an expat from some foreign country. Kampung girls is much easier because the competition would be some farm boys who might or might not have a farm. -
I would say that (foreigner trying to charm kampung girls) are bordering exploitation/abuse. They have little liberty to decide on this matter, it is similar to offering money for a kidney to a poor and starving person. You can say that they gave the kidney willingly, but deep inside you know that they did not. We must protect people like this like we protect a child against predators.
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MrBojangles says:
Omg! what a productive troll ..! I love throwing complete utter shit into forums and watching all the psuedo intelligent people try and express their e-peen might.. All you guys, especially the crappy indo girl raving on about guys not wanting women over 30 – are really retarded – i think this reflects what you people must look like in real life (really retarded and ugly) …@ missing chips – i do believe the amount of times you post on a single forum reflects how many times u masturbate before breakfast, this makes about as much sense as your theories … therfore u must masturabte 5 times before breakfast (this isnt tallied by the amount of times u orgasm as i do believe you have aready prematurely ejaculated watching the morning kiddies shows on tv) …
But behind the great troll there are a few lessons and points to be taken —- Women in general are retarded, love is something men say to open womens legs, sex is only improved with toys, electric nipple clamps, a third partner so forth (it by no means ur making up for inadequaices, it means ur adventurous and willing to try new things)… this is probably why most married women will cheat (boring sex lives with missing chips) – and for those who think otherwise obviously are vain about their apperance or think the orgasms they have are as good as they get (which is just wrong) … I feel sorry for you people and i hope you will all find lives and errr love to go with it …. P.S. farah women over 30 are revolting and should be put out to the fields (away from the public eye) to harvest grains for the younger more beautiful women …. have a nice day and see you all in indonesia with big smiles 🙂
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febs says:
wow,i just read this article ‘Dating Indonesian girls’ but i haven’t read all the comment yet..interesting topic and debate!
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@ sobhana
Men are looking for women and femininity does not equal being a doormat anymore than financial achievement equals superiority.
Could have said it myself.
@ dianwulan
Having said that, I think you lot have been overrating Kampung Girls.
Give them a chance and you will be surprised how they develop into real ‘gems’. Unless it backfires, of course, and they succumb to the mall syndrome.
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Lairedion
Well, that’s what I’ve been told here about the durian. Maybe it’s just a sales argument.
Not that I need it, of course.