Dating Indonesian Girls
Apr 4th, 2006, in Society, by PatungDating Indonesian women may not be for everyone.
Indonesian women, particularly on the island of Java, are exceptionally beautiful. They tend towards the very feminine side, with lovely skin, are not too tall, and have knock-out smiles. There’s plenty of plus on that side of things.
If wer’e to be honest we have to recognise that many men are interested in a woman who will take care of him, do the housework without complaint, and take care of other matters similarly without much bother. Your average Indonesian girl often fits the bill in this respect, certainly more than your average western woman, the less said about them the better.
On the other hand going out with Indonesian women in a romantic way can have many mysterious pitfalls.
Some women here are clearly only interested in money. Some men are unbothered by this. Others of the female variety, can, once we get to know them very well, come across as practically insane, hysterically emotional, scheming, over-possessive, inclined to, usually fake, attempts at self-harm in order to get their way. As I said, not for the faint-hearted.
There are a few Indonesia dating websites although the area is not nearly as developed as that in nearby Phillipines or Thailand. To begin your online journey on the Indonesian dating scene our very own “Meet” section has many a lady eager for company.
4,898 Comments on “Dating Indonesian Girls”
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Mike says:
I have never had an STD. I never said anything about sex, but I like your imagination. Actually, I am having more fun with you three (Sobhana, Farah and Missingchips) than I had with them. Maybe because I value mind over matter. My point was that if you treat people with respect then you can receive the same. I thought they were having just as much fun with each other (as friends in a relaxed environment ) than they were with someone who treated them well and not like an object.
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missingchips says:
@sobhana
Of course not lah, Say. You guys are awesome. If you ever hit Surakarta or Yogya’s border, let me know. Maybe we can chat over some coffee.
@farah
You too, Farah!
Anyway, I just had this conversation with mom and sister, and somehow ended up using oreo as analogy (innocent matter, of course, since we have to keep everything PG-13 around her). Can’t help but disapprove Mike’s metaphoring oreo in such lewd way. That’s so wrong, man! Wrong! Wrong!
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OK, so my only lewd comment was about an Oreo. Let’s face it- white people want brown skin and brown people want white skin. I see the commercials for whiteners all over asia (along with everyone carrying umbrellas in the sun) and commercials for tanning salons in the US. I had a friend on a reality show who was competing against two guys from African decent and he was standing in the middle and said “I feel like the middle of an oreo”. so I just remembered that saying and made the story more interesting. Can’t we all just get along? I was going to the pump room in Clarke Quay tonight, but this is far more entertaining. Hopefully we can continue this in the morning and I can meet you three in the future. I will never take advantage of anyone, especially of someone young like you implied. But it appears that I could be taken advantage of by people who don’t know me.
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@Mike
Lol, easy Mike. I said that in a friendly half amused way of disapproving 😉 I am a regular Oreo consumer. And you have officially ruined the innocence of “diputar, dijilat, dicelupin” ritual.
P.S. If it’s a latino man instead of white, then I suppose the choco/peanut cream Oreo will do? Or if it’s a Scottish man with freckles, make it strawberry. 😛
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sobhana says:
@ Oreo, we are sorry for tainting your image.
@ Mike: I believe you have good values and were just trying to have a good time. Do continue to appreciate more of what lies beneath the surface. Beauty fades, stupid is forever (I believe someone famous came up with that line). Clark Quay it up! That sling shot bungee thingie is quite the ride.
@Missingchips: I lived in Jogja for awhile. Dunno when I’ll be back though, it’s kinda depressing for me. -
Ok, back from clark quay. I couldn’ wait to get back to this. Don’t worry, I didn’t meet any sluts. I am a white, but dark Irish and don’t have any freckles or red hair or red nose. Actually look like latino with dark hair and dark eyes. I may be considered a latino because I live so close to Mexico. And I have done that bungee- I have it on video. It’s late/early and now I must do yoga- up dog, down dog, runner’s pose, sun salutations, namiste.
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Farah says:
@ mike
I you try to keep it in “shade” such this line?But we all know that most every foreigner that comes there is looking for quick sex and when you go straight to that it is hard to learn about the real person (I am not knocking going straight to sex, it just didn’t happen that way this time).
So… am i wrong for assuming its not as innocent as it sound?
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ET says:
They were all 28 -33.
Cougars on the prowl.
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But we all know that most every foreigner that comes there is looking for quick sex
Nothing like a generalisation to make a point..maybe Batam perhaps..but seriously most every foreigner??? You really do need to get out more or change your network of friends..
As for 14 year old etc etc..that’s just creepy, they are kids!
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that belpheron dude made me sick. i’ve never been to canada, but if that shit’s legal over there, i don’t think i ever will. or go to any country that lets you have sex with children.
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@ Mike: so what you’re saying is…you are Irish but not a “ginger”. correct? is that a bad term to use btw? sorry if i offended you. glad you had fun. do it again it’s the weekend!!
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@ ET
Cougars on the prowl.
hehehe…. syyuuuhhhhh….no cougars! just 4 innocent kind heart BAR girls.
@ Sobhana
What happens in US should stay in US i guess…… 😛 -
@ farah: yeah anyways it felt like centuries ago, or perhaps a previous life.
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pringles says:
I havent logged on for a couple of days and this forum has definitely gone WHACKOOOO!! I’m too far behind this steaming discussion but that Blapheron whatever guy scared the shiz out of me big time. Being a proud pedo and letting the whole world knows isn’t a very good thing to do, dont you think? I hope he wasn’t too enamored and remembered to get them a prenup. Chances are either that girl will be all americanized and leave him for some younger, fresh faces or she will be all americanized and scam him out. I give 5 years then we’ll see.
Oh and I want to applaud that Mike guy who’s been such an amusing sketchy romance author 😀 you should publish your own book! Change the characters’ name tho.. Carrie Charlotte Samantha and Miranda are too booooOooring. Don’t keep me intrigued, go on, go amuse my sexless days with your creativity! -
Aveng says:
What do indonesian girl wants if somebody is courting her?
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MrBojangles says:
Indo women are just women, we must remember this. If they didnt have vaginas we’d throw rocks at them. Your better off going to a local cewek cafe for some eye candy and going home to masturbate – because indonesian women are sexually inept/shy/not adventurous enough. Even the most gorgeous flaunting indo women are like virgins in bed (absolutely useless). Unless your a impotent fat bule don’t court an indo girl. As for anyone with future prospects for women – just use them for fun and throw them away (this requires saying u love them in most cases unfortunately)… unless your a complete idiot and are compelled to follow suit in this game people call marriage!!!! Most married indonesian women will sleep with any passing bule2 after a couple chats at their workplace.. Travelled there for years and its great to see the womens standards dropping – as it makes it easier for nymphomaniac travellers to spread std’s …. Why settle for indonesian??? get one in every damn country morons —— Can someone make a website for the men who go to these countries to violate these gold digger women …………. as i think they need a reality check as to who is prey!!!! wkwkwkwkwkwkwkwkwk number 14 in 2 years – for statistixs sake only 5 of them we’re married
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Indo women are just women, we must remember this. If they didnt have vaginas we’d throw rocks at them. Your better off going to a local cewek cafe for some eye candy and going home to masturbate – because indonesian women are sexually inept/shy/not adventurous enough. Even the most gorgeous flaunting indo women are like virgins in bed (absolutely useless). Unless your a impotent fat bule don’t court an indo girl. As for anyone with future prospects for women – just use them for fun and throw them away (this requires saying u love them in most cases unfortunately)… unless your a complete idiot and are compelled to follow suit in this game people call marriage!!!! Most married indonesian women will sleep with any passing bule2 after a couple chats at their workplace.. Travelled there for years and its great to see the womens standards dropping – as it makes it easier for nymphomaniac travellers to spread std’s …. Why settle for indonesian??? get one in every damn country morons —— Can someone make a website for the men who go to these countries to violate these gold digger women …………. as i think they need a reality check as to who is prey!!!! wkwkwkwkwkwkwkwkwk number 14 in 2 years – for statistixs sake only 5 of them we’re married
The one who’s in need of reality check is probably yourself, MrBojangles. Of course I realize that I shouldn’t have let poorly made comment like this affect me, because I understand that you are free to state your opinions, regardless how sometimes a post just easily surpass the idiocy (I don’t have weak stomach, for I won’t be here, and play farmville instead, if I do). And also the possibilities, that you are just a troll seeking attention, and for one, I believe not to judge anyone until I walk on their shoes.
But reading sexist, chauvinistic comments like this make me sad. When I started to read on this very forum, I was so disappointed by the high number of stereotypical and judgemental posts saying that Indonesian women who looks for a bule husband/boyfriend just want his wallet! I thought that since many have been already crossing thousand miles to get to another part of world, at least the experiences they get would make for good intercultural understanding. Apparently not.
Reading your comment gives me the doubt if we even live in the same time. You sound like someone living in the 13th century. But well, I can feel the hartred, so I am wondering if this triggered by some failures in the past. Do you know that misogynist are often the ones with secret wants? Do you like it when woman ties you up in bed, helpless, and takes all the responsibility that hunch your shoulders away? Have you consider on this possibility? I suggest you to explore more this side of you. Maybe you will be able to let go of some of that anger. If the options don’t suit you, then I don’t have another theory other than maybe it’s true that you are just a complete jerk. 🙂
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Okay, someone please tell me whether I was just imagining the passionate arguments between Farah and Oigal or not? ^^ I read it on the notification I get via email, but apparently, constant abuse on the “refresh” button won’t make it reappeared?
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Hmmm women that use ropes in bed that would be kinda dull (pink furry handcuffs would be better or maybe some electric nipple clampz please!) … *yawns* gosh you people have dull sex lives if u think thats thrilling … they invented the pamela anderson rope swing bed over a decade ago …. hence why i said Inodnesian women a crappy shaggs! No wonder theres so many cewek cafes these girls can’t even keep their husbands pleased…. I’m sorry if i offended any with my observations but indo women are really bland … got anything spicier??? Skip indonesia anyone looking for a decent women as all you’ll find there is americanised idiots who grovel and worship tv idols. And a helpful hint most = them girls in the large cities e.g. jakarta, surabaya, denpasar, malang are shit – you may think you’ve hit a jackpot … but go to a place like kintamani or bedugul and you’ll find out, the girl selling durians in the street have far more sex appeal and originality than those from ANY kind of suburban environment. 3 thumbs down to a moronic race of people with contradicting double standards and a flimsy grasp on reality, By the time u learn some of their religious habits and beliefs – you’ll then realise they are completely dillusional as a race. But to sum things up … if you want stupid women u can feed shit to all day long and shag the leave – go to indonesia cause they’ll savour ur lies and sleep smiling …. Indo women are very beautiful though and this makes us horni travellers keep cumming back ——- Thanks for making it so easy for us bule2 —- I lub u rong time
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Ho ho ho. Someone seems to have thrown a club in the henhouse. Although generalizations should always be taken with a pinch of salt, there is some truth in the statement that
but go to a place like kintamani or bedugul and you’ll find out, the girl selling durians in the street have far more sex appeal and originality than those from ANY kind of suburban environment.
Many kampung girls still have a great charm that can’t be bought in malls.
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No Missing Chips… I think you find I (We?) have been red carded and sent to the Sin Bin (again) for contributing nothing of value to the thread and being generally obnoxious..hehe :-). Its an occupational hazard, but if you have not been binned you have not been trying. 🙂
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@ sobhana
yeah anyways it felt like centuries ago, or perhaps a previous life.
Hahahah! you don’t seemed that old to say those! anyway, those stuff are experience, what made you different than any other girls (even from me). One night stand-just for a night to even think about-thats why i said what happens in US stay in US (unless you did it here in Indo at present time..hehehe)
@ missingchips
Please don’t abuse your refresh buttons dear hehe.. it was there, and its just not belong to this post-worth the delete 😀 -
hey bojangles, you people’s existence prolly justifies the reason for prostitution in this world. you should pray and thank god for these girls who can mother theresa your a*** and not puke on you, fugly POS
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Nay says:
The ulterior motive checklist.
People only want 3 basic things from relationships:-
1) Sex
2) Emotions
3) FinancesIt’s safe to say that once you start cancelling out possible motives, the real ones show themselves.
In addition, in many cases people swap some things for others (eg. Man swapping finances for sex)
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@Mr Bojangles
And a helpful hint most = them girls in the large cities e.g. jakarta, surabaya, denpasar, malang are shit – you may think you’ve hit a jackpot … but go to a place like kintamani or bedugul and you’ll find out, the girl selling durians in the street have far more sex appeal and originality than those from ANY kind of suburban environment.
errrhhh… why would a bule look up for girls who’s selling durian, thats not that “appealing”??
Most of them will skip anything smell or shape like durian like 500meters from source of smell!! I only know 1 expat who actually eat it. Others… nah.. they can’t stand it!
@ Nay
Hum..well depends on the relationship… you almost cover it all.. i will add something.. you forgot the other point: Having a “sinetron material” children. You should count that too (in terms bule-local relationship) -
Farah
errrhhh… why would a bule look up for girls who’s selling durian, thats not that “appealing”??
Don’t you know that durians have euh… ‘aphrodisiac’ qualities? Like poor men’s Viagra. Even Jupe knows it.
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I think durian selling girls are the best.
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Lairedion says:
ET,
Don’t you know that durians have euh… ‘aphrodisiac’ qualities? Like poor men’s Viagra. Even Jupe knows it.
No, that’s “pasak bumi” (tongkat ali in melayu)….
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@ farah: i think that would fall under the category of emotions or finances, hmm can’t be sure. lol, nevertheless good point. cute kids and a fat pension. really? that’s all they’ve got goin for them?
@ nay: what about love?
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@ farah: “Mau one night stand tapi pake hati.. haduuhh …bodoh kuadrat dah!” omg this is my favorite line. mm don’t hate me but haha jujur ya, aku DOELOE sering one night stand, namanya manusia, belum punya pacar etc. tapi akhirnya ketemu yang bener2 demen, adooh, nyesel deh ga jaim dikit hahaha. bener deh, if word gets out about a girl who gets around, she will be wearing that scarlett letter. but then after awhile, no one really cares. eits, aku tinggal di US, dan itu waktu kuliah, so…let it slide aja kali ya.