Dating Indonesian Girls
Apr 4th, 2006, in Society, by PatungDating Indonesian women may not be for everyone.
Indonesian women, particularly on the island of Java, are exceptionally beautiful. They tend towards the very feminine side, with lovely skin, are not too tall, and have knock-out smiles. There’s plenty of plus on that side of things.
If wer’e to be honest we have to recognise that many men are interested in a woman who will take care of him, do the housework without complaint, and take care of other matters similarly without much bother. Your average Indonesian girl often fits the bill in this respect, certainly more than your average western woman, the less said about them the better.
On the other hand going out with Indonesian women in a romantic way can have many mysterious pitfalls.
Some women here are clearly only interested in money. Some men are unbothered by this. Others of the female variety, can, once we get to know them very well, come across as practically insane, hysterically emotional, scheming, over-possessive, inclined to, usually fake, attempts at self-harm in order to get their way. As I said, not for the faint-hearted.
There are a few Indonesia dating websites although the area is not nearly as developed as that in nearby Phillipines or Thailand. To begin your online journey on the Indonesian dating scene our very own “Meet” section has many a lady eager for company.
4,898 Comments on “Dating Indonesian Girls”
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keith says:
As we all know most major indonesian cities are hunting grounds for western men.As a westerner with a western wife and an adopted achenese child it breaks my heart to witness this.At least this lil achenese putri will not fall victim to this disgusting trade
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pringles says:
Help! I’m having a hard time keeping my bule guy. He keeps coming in and out of my life as he pleased. Maybe there should be a new thread about “Dating Bule Guys”
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Farah says:
Indonesian women loyal? Married javanese women go to bali to have affairs. All women are the same.
I know a guy who’s married and when he work abroad he will visit other girls. Another one even married the Indonesian girl while back in his country he still legally married.
Can i say all men are the same, base on these fact that i know??? Are you the same like this guys i know Michael? 🙂
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@ pringles
Just kick him away. Bule or not bule…. there should be no guy treat someone they love like that.He obviously not into you. Got your self esteem girl! Face that fact and move on… neeexxxttt!!
(Unless if you think you deserve to be treated like a yo yo just what it sound. He comes/call or contact you when he feel bored or when he doesn’t have a date, and go and forget you when he met prettier or sexier girls)
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Laurence says:
Hi Farah,
When you next in Bali?
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handsome guy says:
To David
Yes, always a couple is difficult either single or multiculture same problem…..do you think a european lady is more easy to handle?…… yes the asian especialy indo women are lazy, and she will be more and more lazy if you marry her……. but they are so sweet and not demanding so much………
To all others critics
I am coming to indonesia 6 / 7 times a year since long time for my business. I have been traveling every where in the country. I speak indo a bit.
the indo ladies want mostly a bule for future safety, of course, most of the bule they want have fun only and trow the lady when they have enough, they can find a new one every day.
Yes, as tall caucasian, handsome even in my country (I can get an european woman when ever I want) I get 3 or 4 ladies every time I come, not difficult for me. It is my fault? I dont force their to come to me. God they are so nice……….
I just have to click my fingers and it is easy to get even without any promise of marriage.
Money? no, they are not prostitutes, they just want a good time more long as possible with a educated gentleman who care of their.
Sometime i get married women and all saying the indo husband is not taking care of the woman. They love us as European because we are caring about the ladies so much, we treat their as princess, that’s make the difference.
Despite the people who critic, Indonesia is a magic country for lot of subjects, the most beautiful sweet women are there and they are a gift of God for men who knows how to treat the women.
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trae says:
The majority of indonesian girls are extremely lazy, many don’t ever have jobs, have lots of kids then most of the even worse alcholic deadbeat indonesian men do a runner and leave the kids, same as in most south east asian countries. So then they try to hook up with some naive shrivelled old man john foreigner to sponge off and marry and bring up the bastard children, and so on and so forth, no thanks i say to you.
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agan says:
^lol, I can smell the blood now
go for the jugular gurls. -
Who ever wrote this article (David, it’s you!) shouldn’t have done a generalisation of “Indonesian girls” just for traffic. I’m sure David meant: “Dating Indonesian Girls That You Found In Night Clubs, Discos, or Bars.” Right Dave? 🙂
I am Indonesian, married to a British bule. We met at work, he’s short and plain. But we love each other in every way but materialistically. And believe it or not, I helped him out of his bankruptcy a few years back.
An article like this is not fair to the decent and empowered end of Indonesian girls. -
big mike says:
i have never meet indonesian women but i like the strange nature of they beauty. i have question for you all: how is it that i go about impressing an indonesian women. not for sexual encounter but for dating?
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The majority of indonesian girls are extremely lazy, many don’t ever have jobs, have lots of kids then most of the even worse alcholic deadbeat indonesian men do a runner and leave the kids, same as in most south east asian countries. So then they try to hook up with some naive shrivelled old man john foreigner to sponge off and marry and bring up the bastard children, and so on and so forth, no thanks i say to you.
@ Trae
Indonesian MAJORITY… wow.. you hurt my heart by saying that. Are you even educated person??
do you know exactly how much woman in Indonesia? where do you get the numbers from?? How long have you live in Indonesia? how many woman do you know? How many indonesia men you know very well that you said they are having bastard children??Or….are you talking about Philipines girls or..Indonesian girls?
Have you ever chat with a 14 years old girl, beautiful, that insist she want to marry a 54 yo caucasian men? and guess what.. daddy sit next to her to “whisper” which one good catch which one waste of time?
I did.. its fun. All i do just tell on my profile my name is Dan/Mike/Ryan i am young, working in oil and gas, had too much money and want desperate loyal wife.
And there you go, 800 msgs a day, mostly philipinos or thai… start with “i am simple girl” or “hai” or lots of other stupid things that i can’t believe someone their age wrote…
Maybe you forgot and talk about this girls instead of Indonesian woman?
Or maybe you hit your head too hard moment before you wrote that?
What a joke.
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@Farah : thanks girl! I know I dont deserve that attitude. Guess it’s the right time to show some teeth..
@Trae
Did you just get scammed out? Get a grip, dude…………AND SOME EDUCATION AS WELL! You know you need that 😉 -
rayofhope says:
I am a Singaporean. I just have a breakoff with my indonesia girl friend. She been working here for years and we spend wonderful 2 years together. But she have some issue here, so finally she give up everything here include me. Another things is althought she is here, she has prob from staying away from her ex(indonesian).
She have issue with him that y she left and came here. We do have great time together.
When we are together she mention many time that she may leave singapore. That time I find that myself are not good enough for her, and I spend many time at work. So I say if you can find a better life out there I will let you go.And finally she left months ago. But I am totally regert and sad. I didn’t really want her to go. I thought I still have time to fix it. But I let it slip by. Than I found out that I really love her more than any girl I ever be with. I cry for her many time and i miss her so much. I still have sleeping disorder due to this. I try to look for her, but she say she went back be with the ex. The moment I heard this my heart totally broken. Even I m not too sure if it is ture. But whatever it is I am living with this regert from now on.
I still wish her well.I can only miss the days we were.
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Nabilah says:
Hi,
Im writing this email on behalf of my indonesian acquaintance. She is origainally from indonesia but left for the neighbouring country since she made a decision to leave her husband due to some differences. She also left behind her two children who are being raised by her husband. She still keeps in touch with them via her mobile. During the time Ive known her, she has opened up to me about her relationship with an italian guy which lasted for a few months. So now shes turning to me to find her a white guy who would be intrested in her hand for marriage. She doesnt speak english fluently but that would not be a problem since shes willing to learn. Her email address is ernawatie67@gmail.com Since she does not have an access to the internet, I would have to print the email or translate the response in bahasa indonesia.
Thanks for your time. Btw she was born in the year of 69 since (you guessed it) we have trouble understanding each other sometimes. -
dianira says:
hi all, send email to rdiani87@yahoo.com if u wanna know me more, i have much love to share with n hope for friend first or serious relationship..:), btw i’m not kind of matralistic or prostitute girl..
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missingchips says:
Competition… competition…
*sigh…
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^…but how ‘d you know them bules aint players or pimps?
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Players n Pimps n Whores you are looking in the wrong place here…
I would suggest you need to look at that mob of jackals supposedly running the country. Any number of them are all too willing to lie down and spread their legs for the sake of couple of pieces of tarnished gold.
Any of course, does anyone really not know who the biggest Pimp in Indonesia is…?
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😀 😀 this is interesting 😀 😀
…watching and waiting for a cat fight…. (or mud wrestling?)
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Between two options, I would opt for the mud wrestling. Mainly because I’m too old for a cat fight, and this dianira is just too cute for words. If I were a boy I would drop her a message right away, and stake a claim.
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@Missingchips plus she has much love to share (and much less cynicism I suppose). If I were you, I wouldn’t even dare to take in the mud wrestling offer. She’d still be sweet or even hotter while at it… *sigh* 😛
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she has much love to share (and much less cynicism I suppose). If I were you, I wouldn’t even dare to take in the mud wrestling offer. She’d still be sweet or even hotter while at it…
@pringles, I know, right. 😀 That’s why I stated very early (in seemingly failed attempt to attract male occupants of this forum) that I am done being a blasé, who thinks everything is stupid or redundant and tends to sigh a lot, uups, didn’t I just sigh, few posts ago? Admit it, dear @pringles, Cynicism is just… overrated. We all should be positive, loving, and cute. It’s the new trend for the incoming rabbit year. 😉
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ET says:
Cynicism is just… overrated. We all should be positive, loving, and cute. It’s the new trend for the incoming rabbit year.
Positive, loving and cute?
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@Missingchips Word! I (we) can be cute too, let’s wiggle the wabbit tail and let the inner cuteness shine blinding everyone out with overflowing glowing love. Year of rabbit, year to procreate! Oh how I wish I had the right mating partner for that.
*I swear I wasn’t being cynic* 😀 😀 -
Farah
…watching and waiting for a cat fight….
Why fight? Try some kerjasama like hunting in group. Very efficient for predatory purposes.
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@pringles I know you weren’t being cynic, dear, 😉 not. :p
@ET Lol, better not give us ideas!
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@ ET
well.. thats the difference between cats and dogs… cats more individual, while dogs hunt in pack. Dogs share their prays.. cats more to… well if you want the mice you shall hunt it your self!! (*miawww*)You’ll see more guys like to hang out together, while girls prefer to keep the pack as small as possible… the less the merrier… no competition! (should quote previous comments!)
hehehehe… dont take it too serious…. jodoh gak bakalan kemana.. kalau dapat bule yahh bule aja…. kalo ngga ya.. jangan di paksa!
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Dogs share their prays.. cats more to… well if you want the mice you shall hunt it your self!!
O, I see. More like sly and stealthy.
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“And of course, does anyone really not know who the biggest Pimp in Indonesia is…?”
Pak Oigal Yth.,
That’s not a good idea to blow up your mate Mas Achmad Sudarsono’s spot
in detail like dat.
Like they say there “ Friends, what happens in Purbolinggo stays in Purbolinggo.”
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This topic reminds me of some rumors about Indonesian girls that I heard during my time in Germany few years ago.Many of my German friends told me that mostly Asian girls including Indonesian are materialistic and what they are looking for in western men is nothing more than money, They even gave me some stories – their own experience with some Indonesian girls
I told them..you guys looked for girls in all the wrong places.Where did you met those Indonesian girls? I’ll tell you one thing…If you want to find gold or even diamond, you go to respectable jewelry stores….because that’s impossible you can find them in the garbage can, except you are very lucky…you got it?
I believe bad girls/guys or good girls/guys are exist everywhere in this world.Just make sure you look for them in the right places.And get to know them before diciding into a committed relationship.
I am an Indonesian girl too, but not the kind David wrote about because I am intelligent and highly educated ( I am a doctor and I hold a master degree) and I come from a well off family. I have met some western men too in my life, wether during my education abroad , or while traveling, some of them are nice and genuine, But I have met some jerks too, who think because I am Asian I will fall into them easily because they are western, some of them even trying to get some money, telling me that they wanted to give me a visit but its hard to get the visa because of the terrorist issue in Indonesia,and wanted me to send an invitation visa PLUS some money..And ofcourse I never sent anything..one more story about a UK guy I met online, who was after few times corresponding, insisted to marry me because he needed to come to Indonesia very often for his bussiness, and he thought marrying an Indonesian girl would help him easier to do that, not to mention all the paperworks :D…And thank God for blessing me with an excellent common sense so I didn’t fall into that trict because I will only marry some one for LOVE.
David, I believe what you wrote about Indonesian girls being overly materiastic,only interested in your money, hysterically emotional,overly possesive are your personal experience , Probably you met some uneducated and poor bad Indonesian girls in a cheap bars/clubs…which meant you looked for gold in the trash can.
GO broaden your life …I hope you’ll be lucky to find diamond,just make sure you find it the finest jewelry store if you got what I meant.