Dating Indonesian Girls
Apr 4th, 2006, in Society, by PatungDating Indonesian women may not be for everyone.
Indonesian women, particularly on the island of Java, are exceptionally beautiful. They tend towards the very feminine side, with lovely skin, are not too tall, and have knock-out smiles. There’s plenty of plus on that side of things.
If wer’e to be honest we have to recognise that many men are interested in a woman who will take care of him, do the housework without complaint, and take care of other matters similarly without much bother. Your average Indonesian girl often fits the bill in this respect, certainly more than your average western woman, the less said about them the better.
On the other hand going out with Indonesian women in a romantic way can have many mysterious pitfalls.
Some women here are clearly only interested in money. Some men are unbothered by this. Others of the female variety, can, once we get to know them very well, come across as practically insane, hysterically emotional, scheming, over-possessive, inclined to, usually fake, attempts at self-harm in order to get their way. As I said, not for the faint-hearted.
There are a few Indonesia dating websites although the area is not nearly as developed as that in nearby Phillipines or Thailand. To begin your online journey on the Indonesian dating scene our very own “Meet” section has many a lady eager for company.
4,898 Comments on “Dating Indonesian Girls”
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Didi says:
DUH…………go to Bali and u’ll see these gals chasing after the guys. I blame the girls and i blame the men as well. The girls wants the money, obviously (if not u wouldn’t see them hanging out with a 80 year old grandpa! ) and the guys just want a taste of tropical Eden. Stop prostitution!!!! No Supply, No Buyer!
P:S I think Thai, Philipine and Indonesian gals have to stop this white men hunt. -
rcrc says:
I’m going out with an Indo girl right now. No complaints at all – and she is absolutely filthy… 🙂
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Mohammed Khafi says:
@rcrc
Soap and water is cheap my friend!
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Lairedion says:
hi rcrc
and she is absolutely filthy…
Can you tell us what do you mean here, with all the “juicy” details please? 🙂
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No, sorry, fellas, I’m afraid I can’t… It was actually her that put me on to this site a few hours ago, so she might still be checking it out 😉
She’s Peranakan though, so combines the best of both worlds for me – the Chinese looks and the Indo, er, attitudes to sex… -
onlyme says:
Hey guys,
still remember me?
well I’m here to say that I broke up with my bf
and thank you guys for the support you gave, but we coudln’t make it
what a shame. Only one next step but we failed@shawty
sorry can’t tell you about western man change in maturity. Mine just last for 11 months.
Btw, as you said : Happy dating and be ready to pay the price
I guess I already have no debt here 🙂cheers,
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touche.touche says:
ahahaha (was tryin to find sate ayam recipe and got into this place)
love the topic, well probably more on the debate :pgirls are just girls (older/not maturer/who get mature anyway?: women are just women)
boys are just boys (older/not maturer/who get mature anyway?: men are just men)they are all the same, varied, whether they are indonesian or bule.
it’s just about how u can find ”a human”(should i change it to ”someone”?) with great personality, or even not that kind of personality he/she got ”something” that interact u (physical, pheromone, smile, warmth, demeanor, u name it).Btw ASIAN rocks! (\m/)
I don’t know what happen to Indo and other asian girls with”bule”fever lately..
But the positivity that i can see through my perception is: that’s lessening the rivalry(for me :D). lmao (dude, i don’t know what am i talkin bout).
Well girls, can’t u just see how hot Asians just as the same way as we are? lmao! (start to think that turn to be a narcissist and need to ‘mitigate’ it)
So this house believes that ASIAN rocks! Yay!
:p***To any of art lovers who needs and want to get paintings, refer myself :p please mail: gia_sporty@hotmail.com, subject: Painting***
Cheers,
A common lady, art lover who wanna have a duet with Bono U2 on stage -
adam says:
i have a meet with an indo. girl she was really nice and beautiful.
the was a treat to eyes , she talks nicely and had a good heart. -
missingchips says:
I WANT ONE PLEASE, A CARING LOVELY UNDERSTANDING FUNNY CUTE MATURE BULE BOYFRIEND.
If anyone happen to be interested, or know someone who meets the requirements, please let me know.
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Farah says:
Chips,
“Caring” and “lovely”… sound bit scary on a guy… western or locals (might bit sound like…gay?) its just too much “feelings” on that requirements….Just a thought.
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Laurence says:
I’m so sad, now finish relationship with Indonesian gf. She was professional worker, good job, educated and good family but she lie to me and I find out.
Such a shame, I think she would have made good wife but it not to be.
Now out looking again so hard!!
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Farah, relating the “caring” and “lovely” qualities with gay folks in general is kinda oversimplifying, don’t u think? Many gay men are often very manly and some even rather “gahar”.
The lovely and caring qualities itself, I agree are based on our own “feels”. But taste aside, I think there is some sort of universal standard of the qualities in men that we, women, want. “Caring” and “lovely” don’t necessarily mean “sissy”. Even the rather dominating, manly men might have the “caring” and “lovely” qualities in them.
Well maybe, it’s my own fault, to put that many adjectives on the requirements of my dream man. Here we go, the new ad, (completed with some reality check):
Wanted. 28-45 years old BULE man. 180 cms height or more. Single, with no questionable past (ie. obsessive-compulsive with stalking tendencies ex/es, unknown offspring/es/illegitimate/es). One dimple or two would be nice. Non-vegetarian, or if he is one, then with no secret mission to convert his other half to his current life style. Play baduk occasionally, and have the manner to let me win from time to time.
If anyone happen to be interested, or know someone who meets the requirements, please let me know.
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buleman says:
missingchips, I am bule man and I met all your requirements, how may I contact you ?
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Hi buleman, lol. Are you really 😉
Well, um, I am kinda new myself. And I’m so not putting my email for public consumption. So anyone here got some ideas for the two potential love birds?
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Hello my email address is marc.anderseen@yahoo.com
please contact me. -
@ Laurence
Sorry to hear that… well.. theres many fish in the sea…@ missingchips
28-45 years old BULE man. 180 cms height or more. Single, with no questionable past (ie. obsessive-compulsive with stalking tendencies ex/es, unknown offspring/es/illegitimate/es).
Hm…. good luck with that sist! especially about the “unknown offspring/illegitimate” part. There are 15 bule man at my office, only very few taller than me (over 173cms). But its possible tho…
Try online date website ..the reliable one of course, and do traveling more!
Btw… you could send PM here so you dont need to put your mail for public (correct me if i am wrong yaa..)
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ET says:
@ missingchips
…and have the manner to let me win from time to time.
I meet all your requirements except for this last one. Is this of paramount importance for you or have I had my chips now?
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Thanks Farah,
Hence such a longtime awaybfrom Internet chats, to busy with gf.
Missingchips,
What’s baduk? I don’t know what that is so cannot meet your requirements!! I’m just after real love and commitment to each other.
Back to you.
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Hi ya @Farah, thanks for the suggestion, but how to pm? Do we have to register?
Anywaay, so far we have three men commenting here. One is very upfront with his wish. Even creating pseudo email nick for the obvious name (I hate it when they already taken the good nicks) Not that I mind that, but well, I was thinking some banters via thread which followed with heating argument full of sexual tension (okay, i’m exaggerating here) first, and then followed by some real actions…
And @Laurence, well, baduk is not everything, but it will be a good starting point. At least for me.
Also we can see here, that @ET ‘s apparently the competitive type. And, no, it’s not a paramount paramount requirement. But more like an unspoken agreement between two parties. Like, knowing when to pull, and when to push. Oh, and you may start collecting the chips now 😉
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Ugh, my English sucks.
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Like, knowing when to pull, and when to push.
Push and pull? That simple? I think I can live with that.
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Emman says:
I have nothing against Indonesian women, I actually treat most Indonesians like my familly already. I could prove that Indonesian women are amongst the preserved feminine culture in asia. Most of us know that most of their culture is influenced by Islam and until now I can still see and feel the strong conviction of these women to that influence. I have several friends who were Indonesian ladies and they were all Muslims and one Buddhist and I have never saw anything ugly with them. I am actually so deeply in love at one of them and until I couldn’t tell her for I wanted to prepare for it on the right day. I feel that she is honest, extraordinary, so precious, loving, caring, and religious and she also cute… yet what matters most is I usually hear her say that she is more on the side of getting serious at a relationship than playing on it and that! is what I am really thirsty off. Because I am not upto relationships that were only like playing, I also wanted a relationship that is meant to last and I hope that Allah would hear my prayers for me and her…. Indonesian were meant to be treated with love and care always….
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Still no luck. Guess I have to focus on work and put everything else aside. Nice cute loving bule bf, and potentially ultra cute mixed race baby, gbye for now. Sigh…
Take a very good care of what is on your hand, @Emman, you’re a lucky man 🙂 -
@ missingchips
Still no luck. Guess I have to focus on work and put everything else aside. Nice cute loving bule bf, and potentially ultra cute mixed race baby, gbye for now. Sigh…
It sounds as if the chips are down. Here’s a little story to cheer you up.
An old man goes to a dukun to ask him if he can remove a curse he has been living with for the last 40 years.
The dukun says, ‘Maybe, but you will have to tell me the exact words that were used to put the curse on you.’
The old man says without hesitation, ‘I now pronounce you man and wife.’ -
missingchips says:
@ET
The old man says without hesitation, ‘I now pronounce you man and wife.’
I’m done being a cynic long time ago. Used to think that life would be lots and lots better if I were a boy. And eventho I’m clean now, don’t be fooled, there’s still this crazy raging dreadful feminist bitch in me lurking. Don’t tempt me. The new me since the new Tiger Year: Idealist Romanticist Chips.
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@ missingchips
there’s still this crazy raging dreadful feminist bitch in me lurking. Don’t tempt me. The new me since the new Tiger Year
Something like this?
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@ET
Well, I was thinking something like this…
But must admit it. Your picture FTW.
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But must admit it. Your picture FTW.
Hey, why F*ck The World? Don’t take it personally. I was only joking.
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dave says:
Hmm let’s see this Missingchip’s profile :
1. Has racist tendency (auto racist to be precise).
2. Insecure.
2. Feminist at heart.NOT INTERESTED! and no men should…
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Just found this web,interesting! I’m an Indonesian women. As for Jamal(hope he’ll read this comment),I think the mising link here is that your wife,just like anyother Indonesian women/men,we commonly(not to say generally because you may meet a”different”Indonesian) dislike”fighting”.That also means debating,even expressing dislike about something or disaprovement and disapointment toward something/someone. Most of us avoid of making conflict. Indonesian ppl dislike if you say bluntly about their”mistakes” or flaws,it can be considered as an aggresive behaviour,they just prefer to avoid conflict at all cost.That also means that they’ll try not to tell your flaws or mistake bluntly,because they don’t want to look as being aggresive. They want you to know your faults by your self without they have to tell you. Of course not all Indonesian ppl are the same,some are fine with critics or debate.What I’m saying here is the dominant number of them. That could be the answer why black magic aka”santet” is usual here.Because some people can’t express their anger,disapointment,dislike,and stuffs. They just don’t want to look aggresive,it’s not in our”manner”. Different culture,that’s all.