Dating Indonesian Girls
Apr 4th, 2006, in Society, by PatungDating Indonesian women may not be for everyone.
Indonesian women, particularly on the island of Java, are exceptionally beautiful. They tend towards the very feminine side, with lovely skin, are not too tall, and have knock-out smiles. There’s plenty of plus on that side of things.
If wer’e to be honest we have to recognise that many men are interested in a woman who will take care of him, do the housework without complaint, and take care of other matters similarly without much bother. Your average Indonesian girl often fits the bill in this respect, certainly more than your average western woman, the less said about them the better.
On the other hand going out with Indonesian women in a romantic way can have many mysterious pitfalls.
Some women here are clearly only interested in money. Some men are unbothered by this. Others of the female variety, can, once we get to know them very well, come across as practically insane, hysterically emotional, scheming, over-possessive, inclined to, usually fake, attempts at self-harm in order to get their way. As I said, not for the faint-hearted.
There are a few Indonesia dating websites although the area is not nearly as developed as that in nearby Phillipines or Thailand. To begin your online journey on the Indonesian dating scene our very own “Meet” section has many a lady eager for company.
4,898 Comments on “Dating Indonesian Girls”
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timdog says:
And can you put back the “more recent comments” thing too, and an “older posts thing”?
I dunno, since that Patung bloke left things just haven’t been the same around here… 😉 -
Only me, yes we’re all waiting to see a photo of you, at least I am… timdog, alright the more comments thing is back as well, ‘older posts’ is much more tricky….
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onlyme says:
@ David
Lol, I mean that I-want-to-meet-innocent-indo-girl-man above
I think there’s also dating site feature here, isn’t it? wrong post,hey -
venna says:
David = Patung, right?
I didn’t expect that (if you use your real pic) you seems very calm and a little bit “nyantai”. I used to imagine that you were a serious-no bs kinda guy with a dash of rude attitude, even not as chronic as the other. -
shawty says:
@Nay
It creates too many complications and ruins friendships.
And if I happen to sleep with some of my female friends, that’s nobody else’s business.
In my mind, there is no “something more” than friends… other than raising kids together.rite..dating ruin friendship..guess u are more than 35 yo and sleep with 80% of your female friends lol haha rite not my business..just so typical
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annisa says:
fr all exparts who always give bad value to indonesian girls.why don’t u go to noble places such as: library, campus, mosque , art gallery etc, offcourse if u just visit the bar or disqothique u just meet wth materialistics girls who only respect ur money same as the girls in other countries.
l dont stay in Jakarta the capital city tht valued everything by financial.but l live in small city seeing relationship is pure. -
To: Onlyme
Don.t worry, you could meet lot of innocent, faithful, unmaterialistics, educated girl here but plz you not only visit Jakarta but also small city such as Bandung, Cirebon etc. The girls here r still religious. -
I love this blog so muchhhh…. so go head plzzz
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neno says:
Hey, I found such a interesting site here. Well first I’m sorry for my english, it is bad.
I’m an indonesian girl, I always interest with a white guy. That’s my obsession, but the thing is almost white guy are looking for sex only. I want to married with white guy, coz I like how they commucate with their childern. And as I read it, many Bule are have problem with matrealistic woman. Well, I tell u now, don’t get fall in love easily with indoneian girl, be chossy 🙂 . I’m not rich, but I really looking for white guy, but I’m not matrealistic. I’m looking for whiteguy coz that’s my obsession . Lol 🙂 -
Nay says:
@neno
Well, if you’re seriously looking to get married with the intention of having children, you need to advertise it to all the men you meet with the aim of filtering out men who don’t want to have children or get married just yet.
Next, you need to convince the man who IS interested (and isn’t lying about it) that you would be a good mother for your children.
Thirdly, you’d need to figure out if the guy would make a good father… but I trust that your instincts are good enough to find this out.Best of luck.
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Hey Neno. lm indonesian girl too 22 y old. I ve never falled in love western guy yet. your obsession marry with white guy …..wow so suprised me . Don’t u feel upset wth their bad values to most indonesian girl ?whereas they visit bar, cafe, disqotic only coz expart ve lot of money fr pleasure. but they made us generalize as if they knew everything about all ind women. plz….think again !!!! Good advice is beyond price….ok
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Swagman says:
@ jamal
I was married before with a latina. I have a weakness for non caucasion women I guess.
Cultural differences are logical, but there are certain things with certain ‘people’
People from latin america are different from europeans and asians & visa versa.
I accept that, I like it.Well said jamal. It is a healthy open mind that looks for differences in people and enjoys new experiences.
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why don’t u go to noble places such as: library, campus, mosque , art gallery etc
A mosque is a noble place like a library or art galley? Well, I never stop learning … off to the mosque I go …
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@ neno
Hey, I found such a interesting site here. Well first I’m sorry for my english, it is bad.
Welcome and your English is very good. Good luck with the “white guy” fetish thing … oops, sorry, I meant obsession 🙂
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Well, I know my obsession sounds way to pathe… Ok pathetic but idk why I lke em
Maybe serial tv are poisoned me -_- .. And I’m still very young I’m 17, I always wanted to live outside indonesia, school and work outside indonesia and marry with white guy. I know it seem so weird why I could easily like em, but that’s my obsession, I hate this but yeah 🙁 ..Ok let’s not talk abt marry, I at least want to know how dating wi white guy.
Anyone can shared?@ nay _ thanks for the support 🙂
@anissa – I will think twice 😉
@swagman – haha thanks 🙂 -
I like white guy is not bcoz I’m poor, my mother and father are woking, my brother is working in the biggestt national oil company in indonesia, but I’m not rich and poor
Tbh, my mom even my grand ma forbid me to marry with foreigner, but I like em. So there’s no evidence that I’m looking for their money lol. I com from educated family -
to those white men/bules fetish be ready pay the consequence if not ready then just off don’t make ur parents sad
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@shawty – u right 🙁 wish me luck.
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Kaja hussain says:
I have more chatting girls friends from Indonesia. I like to say that indo girls are beautiful and they are very decent in behaviour. I like it. And i found it is their good quality also as well as the beauty.
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fr neno
You are still too young , when will u go to university?fr swagman
“Well, I never stop learning … off to the mosque I go …”great…… l always respecr smart n religious guy coz knowledge is power n also zeal without knowledge is fire without light. right
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mingo says:
smart n religious
cannot use these two words together, Sorry they just dont sound right
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@mingo
why? because science is your religion, so you can’t sit between two chairs, uh?
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Farah says:
I am baacck!
It is pretty amazing see this thread over many years! and good to read when you feel bored too… cool.
To all indonesian sista here whos wishing to have a western/foreigner/caucasian/expat/bule bf, good luck to you all… dont loose your identity as Indonesian woman. Don’t be a snob after you had one, and most important be strong! and yes, you need to compromise sometimes… well lots of times… but thats all right as long as thats not changing who you are.
What ever the guys “color” or where he comes from, the one who’s really love you is the one who respect you and accept you the way you are! (no matter how much you love dangduts or some batak/java/padang song or eating DURIAN).
Keep on writing guys… hehe…
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@farah
I read some previous comments, wow it’s amazed me that’s you’re still here after many years! what a tough survivor! hehe
well I can’t be more agree with you, this thread is fun to read when we’re boring, same story different person, never ending debate topic, I guess this thread will last for years! -
@ onlyme
Yeah, i am short of bouncing in and out from this thread! Like love and hate relationship, sometimes reading this thread made me upset-but still i am a curious person i will go back here and see if there was any “funny” comments or “naive”.And yeah, i do wish some more will write down their relationship story (bule/caucasian/expat/western/foreigner-indonesian girl) here-for sharing!
Good to know people here, i met some interesting friends here! at least had a friend to “bitching” about guys here secretly hahaha!
And i guess i (maybe) will meet our “beloved” Mr Kinch (from earlier page) for real, just for coffee. Curious if he really as vicious and annoying as he is in this thread 😀 😀
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you haven’t met him? thought you already meet him for coffee and durian!haha
I do enjoy to read your comment ‘fight’ with him, mm, seem there is something between you two! haha
Aish, it’s nice to find a friend for sharing here, secretly I hope that I will meet one too. We are all actually have same root of prob here, dating indo girl/foreign man! -
karyati says:
Hello, my name is karyati, I marry with bule because they are so nice and open mind,they will take any woman, not like indonesian men,only like beautiful and educated woman with bright skin.
bule accept me as me i am. i have black skin and forward teeth, my education is just until School Basic. no handsome and educated Indonesian men will want to be with me.
i work for few years as helper and no indonesian master is interested in me, but when i work for bule, they all want to marry me. finally i marry them, iam happy now but it is cold here and i miss jengkol very much.
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disillusioned says:
farah
(no matter how much you love dangduts or some batak/java/padang song or eating DURIAN).hah, crazy, I really like DURIAN but SHE never wanted that I eat it 😉
But I totally agree with you Farah, but the thing about respect and all other points you’ve listed should be valid on both sides of course 😉
maybe I’ve misunderstood you, but for me it sounded little bit like only bules have to to meet this requirements. It’s always the same, it needs two to tango 😉
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@disillusioned
yes, the tango. But I found it hard to eat vegamite. Durian is much better than vegamite 😀
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